You know that girl at school that always seems to have everything together, she’s ‘perfect’ in everyone’s eyes. All the guys want her, all the girls wanna be her and well she gets by in school sort of! You sit there with your not so average group and look over at her as she smiles and laughs with all those guys including the guy you’re crushing on. You watch how she pretends to push him and laugh at him as he slaps her ass or calls her name’s to be playful.
You start to wonder if what if you acted like that, dressed like that and had your makeup and hair like that if you’d get guys like your crush to notice you. This girl also happens to be one of your good friends btw and when i say good friends I mean she only comes near you when she’s alone snd has no one or she’ll talk to you when she feels like it.
You’re jealous of her bc you think she has it all, wrong… She doesn’t!
You see a lot of girls get jealous of other girls it’s perfectly natural, you notice her thin legs and her slim waist during p.e and then you start to compare her body to yours. You look down and see how you have big thighs and sort of chubby cheeks. You then feel your stomach and think why am I not like her but let me tell you, you aren’t the only girl to feel this way.
Being a human being you are bound to have insecurities, you’re gonna look at that popular girl and think why do all the guys like her, what do I have to do to make guys notice me. I know all this bc I was that girl once when I was at school. I was that girl that had an average group that I hung out with but for some reason I was one of two girls that never ever got any guy attention.
The other girl of course was the girl that didn’t pay attention to guys she didn’t care for them but I did. I wanted to have guys talk to me and flirt and maybe even say they want to 'fuck me’ which is something guys say to girls that are incredibly popular and beautiful. Only at this time in my life do I know what I didn’t know back then. All that stuff that I wanted wasn’t even worth it.
For a girl that pretty much was seen as ugly, fat, annoying and a loser. You name it I’ve been called it. I know how it all works I know those girls at school that all you lovely and beautiful ladies are jealous of but I’m here to tell you… Don’t be jealous.
Girls like that may seem like they have it together bc they have thin legs and a flat stomach but just bc they have makeup that is considered to be ’ on fleek’ and they have gorgeous hair this doesn’t mean they have everything together. Girls like that have insecurities too believe it or not, they just hide it better. They cover it up with a fake smile and makeup. They workout loads to stay in shape and they lie a lot especially to guys.
How do I know that? Bc I used to be friends with a girl like that. The girl that will constantly brag about how she slept with all these different guys or how a guy did stuff to her. When in fact he didn’t and she never slept with those guys she says that it happened to make herself appealing and she thinks all guys like girls with experience and they love girls that wear makeup or girls that are skinny when that’s not true.
All guys have their own preferences as to what they like in a girl and yeah that might be what some guys want but not all. You see ladies I spent all of my high school years wishing I was something I wasn’t. I’d sit and ask girls what I had to do to get guys to notice me and this is a true story one girl stood up from the spot we were sat in on the field and she walked right up to my ex.
Bearing in mind I had known this girl since I was 4-5 year’s old and she walked right up to my ex and started smiling and laughing and flirting with him he started grabbing her waist and then when she returned she told me that’s how it’s done and I couldn’t believe she used my ex as an example she knew I still had feelings for him which makes the situation worse.
You may think why do all guys like girls that fake being dumb or girls that are skinny but they don’t not all guys and I know that bc about almost a year ago I downloaded a dating app yeah it’s funny but I don’t care and I met a couple douche bags on there, a couple guys who I continuously spoke to for months on end but never felt that spark with or in one case this one guy left and said how he doesn’t wanna lead anyone on cause he had other girls interested in him and then he proceeded to tell me how me and him should still be friends bc he thinks I’m a nice girl when in reality he had no intentions of messaging me again. All this happened until I saw this one guy on there.
His smile stood out for me it was cheeky and cute and he seemed perfect in every way. So I liked him and yeah he liked me back, I was relieved that he liked me back and then we spoke. The first conversation was admittedly awkward but we didn’t stop. I then added him on one of my social medias and he accepted. We spoke more on there and got each others numbers. We spoke for months and months, stayed up until 5 am hisometimes just talking. We never got bored of each other. It got to about the time that we had been texting for 5 month’s without even speaking on the phone we only knew what the other one looked like.
Then came the request to meet up and eventually we met. Seeing him in person made me know for sure he was the one. He was cuter in person and sweet. We teased each other and messed about and then eventually the day came to an end. We hugged and both went home. After about 7/8 dates he asked me to be his girlfriend and I was confused. All I thought was how could a guy so sweet, funny and cute like a girl like me. But time and time again he’s proved why he’s with me and that’s enough for me. To have a guy that respects me, a guy that I can be weird with and a guy that can see me without makeup on in the morning is one of the best things. I’ve found a guy that likes me for me and a guy I can be myself with not a guy I have to change myself for.
The message of this ladies is don’t let this whole jealousy of other girls get to you. If you wait patiently and be yourself then you’ll find a guy that was worth waiting. Oh and don’t ever change yourself for a guy. You are beautiful and gorgeous and so amazing don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!