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[styrke-deactivated20240722]

i know some people are probably gonna disagree with me, but i say honesty above all else.. if you don’t like the honesty you’re getting from someone because they’re being rude or offensive about it, then you can say your goodbyes. on the other hand if you do like the honesty you’re getting because it’s respectful and decent, then you can decide to keep them around. either way honesty will always provide you with the real, raw person.. not a show, a manipulated image, or a puzzle of mind games.

search for honesty in your life. so many people get swept up in praise and attention that they fail to recognise if what they’re receiving is actually honest and genuine or if it’s simply a manipulation tactic of telling you what you wanna hear. ‘cause honesty doesn’t always look like someone telling you how awesome they think you are or how you deserve the world and more. it’s not always someone saying your flat is nice and your laugh is contagious.

honesty is also telling you that you have something in your teeth, that what you said was insensitive, that they don’t agree with you on everything.. or that they simply don’t reciprocate your feelings. yes, some honesty is uncomfortable and can be a hard pill to swallow, but is necessary to be told and to acknowledge in order to learn and grow.

again, if someone is tearing you down because of their HonestyTM, then no, that’s not okay.. but if someone is honouring you and your worth by providing you with honesty in a respectful manner? yeah, that’s that good shit. search for that and value that. those are the people who respect you enough to at the very least be real with you. what you then do with that is your up to you.

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“One of the most amazing things that can happen is finding someone who sees everything you are and won’t let you be anything less. They see the potential of you. They see endless possibilities. And through their eyes, you start to see yourself the same way. As someone who matters. As someone who can make a difference in this world.”

— Susane Colasanti

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sandra cisneros, the house on mango street / tatyana nilovna yablonskaya - morning, 1954 / anatoly levitin- warm day, 1957 / harry sutton palmer - a cottage garden, 20th c. / phoebe bridgers, i know the end / sarah abraham - one fine morning, 2013 / theo gosselin - denver morning 5, 2015 / gaston bachelard, the poetics of space / federico zandomeneghi - in bed, 1878 / laura ingalls wilder /colley wisson- morning light kyneton australia, 21st c. / @gabi_wahl on instagram / lauren jolly roberts - cecile’s garden, 2006 / maya angelou, all god’s children need traveling shoes

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My therapist suggested replacing “is there anything I can do” with “what do you need” when comforting someone as the first kind of assumes you as part of the equation in helping someone which isn’t always helpful. It also kind of pressures the person suffering to kind of come up with something FOR you to do. Like I get so frustrated with that first question as a person who gets it a lot.

The second not only takes the pressure off but also might help the person really consider what their actual needs are like hey I haven’t eaten, maybe that’s a reason I feel crappy. It kinda takes the asker out of the immediate picture so the person struggling can focus on what they actually need, and then if you CAN help, you can offer it.

We’ll see if this works better!

[prettydumbloverboy]

Actually, people are good by nature and you're a fool if you think otherwise.

[prettydumbloverboy]

When you sneeze in public, strangers will say "bless you", even though they don't know you.

When you ask for directions on the street someone will show you the way, even though they have nothing to gain from it.

People squeeze their legs against the chair so you don't have to hop over them on your way to your seat in the theatre, and make funny faces to make babies laugh, and purposefully step on leaves to hear them scrunch, and hold the door open for someone leaving behind them, and ask what floor you're heading to when you enter the elevator, and send others photos of things that reminded them of them, and recommend each other songs, and ask if anyone else wants a coffee because they're getting one, and make videos teaching how to sew a button, and wish on shooting stars, and share fun facts, and listen to others rant about things they don't even understand, and let you cross the street first, and give a bit of their food to others, and laugh at jokes they don't find funny to make you feel good, and listen to kids talk for hours about nonsense, and let you know your keys fell from your pocket, and they may be strangers, but with every little gesture they're saying "I love you, I love you, I love you".

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failures are a part of learning. don’t guilt trip yourself for failing at something. if you knew how to execute everything at first try? you wouldn’t be learning, you would just be doing. allow yourself to fail and you will learn.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Most people want to know when they're making you uncomfortable so that they can apologize and stop. It's only abusers and toxic people who get upset when someone establishes a boundary. Most people want you to do it.

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[lilacbreastedroller]

one of the least helpful things ive been told as a neurodivergent person is “don’t half ass things”

if you can quarter ass something, do it! if all you can do is clean a corner of your room, or only read one of the two assigned chapters, or write the heading for your resume, or put all the papers for taxes in a pile, do it! if today isn’t a whole ass day, take pride in the portion of ass that you were capable of

don’t let neurotypicals work ethic define how you did today

[miasimia]

totally, if you can pick your laundry up off the floor and put it in a basket today, it will be so much easier to put it in the machine and wash it tomorrow. If you can stack the dishes now, it will be easier to wash them later. Half assing as a first stepping stone is so good, it is much better than not being able to do anything because “if you can’t do it properly, why do it at all”. Do what you can today, to make life easier tomorrow.