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It’s not bioessentalist to say trans men act like men, they are motivated to behave in that manner by the material conditions of patriarchal society.

You know what is bioessentalist?

Insisting that trans men are forever precious fragile afabs (sic) compared to the big mean amabs (sic) which are transwomen (sic).

Now, I can already tell what you’re about to say. It’s gender essentialist.

No it’s not.

I’m not saying that they act that way because of an innate reality of their gender. I am saying that they are motivated to act that way because of the benefit it provides them. Trans men benefit from patriarchy and misogyny. That’s why they behave like any other man, which is to say badly.

volach-deactivated20230326

“When the handle has snapped off the basket that held all your eggs…” gone girl tier monologue

womenintheirwebs-archived

wow she read them down

wanderingjunkdrawer

When you manage a fabric store in a midwest town, you see this played out in real time. Young women coming in during that first year of marriage - when their husbands go to dental college - pert, bubbling with creative plans. Then, four years on, you help them shift to the reality of balancing budget with creativity - and they learn the value of that inexpensive flatfold table that they used to badmouth - to make that 2nd & 3rd baby their own quilts. And they're exhausted. And they're scared. And they are 1000 miles away from family.

And you have your staff play with their kids while you hold them in the tiny restroom as they come completely undone because they just found out that their golden boy husband is having an affair with the someone he's been doing residency with for the past three years.

He confessed that he'd rather be with the other woman but she's of a different faith and it's more important to have kids than to be happy. And no. No he will not grant her a divorce. And he will not stop seeing the other woman - because he's a man. It's his right.

TRUE story.

Also - She was NOT THE ONLY ONE to fall to pieces in our store for similar reasons.

I loath the ideology of "tradwives". It is a false doctrine preach by Patriarchy not a divine being.

It is the nature of evil to hide this way.

jeza-red

This is 100% what happened to the host mom I've been au-pairing for. And to many other moms my friends have been au-pairing for.

Married out of college, 4 kids, he spent 15 years building up his career while she took care of the house and the kids. When he was earning $600k a year suddenly he started to pull away - she wasn't as pretty anymore, the kids were loud, the house was a mess... She wasn't good enough anymore. He got himself a flat. He got her me and my precedessors to help with the kids. No, they can't divorce, that would make him pay her money for the kids and he didn't like that. Every once in a while a bill would be unpaid. My weekly checks would bounce. We lived in a $1,5mil house around DC and our gas or water was turned off more than once.

Somehow he was always out of money.

By accident she learned from a friend of a friend that he was actually seeing a young lady lawyer for a few years now. It wasn't her, it wasn't lost interest. He was just a piece of shit.

Thankfully, she had family that took no shit and they stood behind her and borrowed her money for lawyers to force the divorce now that she had proof of him cheating. She's spent tens of thousands to get there while he was resisting every step of the way - because without divorce he wouldn't have to pay her alimony, he could just throw scraps whenever he wanted and still pretend to be a good dad.

She's spent tens of thousands and two years to free herself from this man, and when she could finally go to work (thank fuck she finished college) she was earning $25k a year.

She only managed to get away with the support of her parents and family. Through the au-pair grapevine I've known other families like that. Too many. Lady down the street tried to commit suicide when same happened to her - she was from Taiwan and had no support to get free. And people around scorned her for being "dramatic" - women who held on to their places with their fingertips talked shit about her, because their own husbands would never...! Right?

Right?

techmomma

This? This is the kind of shit that first wave feminists and suffragettes were fighting against. Hell, even into second-wave feminism.

This? Is why conservatives want to take away no-fault divorce--because if some dude says no to a divorce and you don't have any (IRON-TIGHT) evidence of cheating? Then you're stuck in that situation and he doesn't have to pay a drop toward you and your kids. He can go get a flat, fuck his mistress, and you will starve with your kids until you can get some kind of proof of him cheating and a judge who likes you.

Now imagine all of this horror movie shit, AND you can't open a bank account without this piece of shit opening it with you. That was what women dealt with until about the 70s when we were finally allowed to open bank accounts with a man's signature.

That is what conservatives and fundies want to take you back to. When this shit was just the fucking norm.

There are old white guys still alive who remember who damn nice it was when a woman couldn't open a bank account without a man's signature and his dad could go live a double life with a mistress with zero repercussions and oh how they slather and drool for those times. And how they have waxed poetic about these halcyon days to their desperate daddy-issues sons now eager to please and without the social skills or emotional maturity to understand the fucked up nature of it all.

I'm willing to bet there's like 2 or 3 Tradhusbands(tm) out there for every Tradwife you see, they just haven't found someone they can sink their claws into. Which should maybe terrify you. This Tradwife(tm) movement should really be considered a canary in the coal mine.

lilyblisslys

in elegant repose ✨

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puppetparried

HOMELESS DISABLED TRANSFEM COUPLE MUTUAL AID

hi everyone, its puppet! you may know it from getting terminated constantly and having to remake its dono posts a lot. sadly it has to aaagain.

so, puppets a homeless and disabled trans woman, and it cant work, has been couch crashing, and has been living purely off donations from tumblr as they keep terminating it. and now on top of that, it is living with its girlfriend, @phantomqueen10001001! while this has been great for both of us,, puppet already only has enough money for food for the next 1-2 weeks, and we both really need to eat. and so we would really appreciate if anyone could help!

puppet has a paypal here, and cassie has one here.

also, in august we are going to lose our current crash spot, and we need to look for another, but we're very disconnected in the city.. if anyone here knows anyone in seattle who needs a roommate or who could give us a place to stay for a while,,

we'd really really appreciate any help.

puppet loves you!! please reblog if you can to help us out, we could really really use it. ♡

2pumppup

Please everyone it would mean the world to me if you helped these two. They are the loves of my life and I care about them more than practically anything in the world. They are some of the sweetest and most loving girls I have ever known

If it helps inventivise girls who can to help provide housing, I can even provide some money as rent if needed

Please, help my girlfriends survive okay? We love you

2pumppup

Tumblr just nuked both of their blogs agian. This is a plain attempt to kill to homeless transfems who barely have a couch to stay on. Once again if anybody in Seattle needs some roomates or at least has a place to stay off the streets for a bit, or if you know someone like that, let us know.

girllovemaid

Hey it's Rain again, they have since nuked me and Both of my girlfriends here. Still looking for a place to stay once they get kicked out of their current place in August, and still looking for donations to, yknow. Keep my girls alive. Please help if you can <3

pantyshotprincess

3rd blog since this post started, and my girlfriends have both been termed even more than that. They are still about to be fully homeless on the street in less than a month. Please, if you live in Seattle or know someone who does, and have some a couch that they can crash on, please help. They are sweet and can help out with cleaning. Otherwise, if you can donate something it would help out a lot to at least keep them fed and resupplying medications

trickster-pandagirl

Made a trans woman specific version of this due to recent experiences. And then kinda kept going with it. Lol.

For so long you thought the ambition of racist language was to denigrate and erase you as a person. After considering Butler's remarks, you begin to understand yourself as rendered hypervisible in the face of such language acts. Language that feels hurtful is intended to exploit all the ways that you are present. Your alertness, your openness, and your desire to engage actually demand your presence, your looking up, your talking back, and, as insane as it is, saying please.

Poetry collection of the day: Citizen: An American Lyric [2014] by Claudia Rankine

#poetry collection of the day #recs #poetry

valleyhowler

There are hardly any female werewolves because they break all the classic rules of femininity. They force you to confront female violence, strength, size, grotesqueness and uncontrollability. Historically female shapeshifters always shift into something dangerous (snake) or sleek (cat) or dainty (bird) but female werewolves ignore the masculine gaze completely. They're distorted beasts that have no ulterior motive except to destroy. Nothing about them is nurturing or modest. They're the opposite of what a woman "should be." Their omission from pop culture is not an accident.

readingtheentrails

I know this is maybe not the point of the post, but this reminded me of this beautiful poem called When My Wife Is A Werewolf by Rosamund Taylor which I really adore so I thought I would share it.

This is taken from a collection of contemporary queer Irish poetry called Queering the Green, which has some truly wonderful work in it and is available from The Lifeboat Press (currently sold out but hopefully available again soon if you're interested).

#recs