healing pills.

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you are more than enough. your life matters. the situation might be telling you different right now but it’s going to get better. you matter. stay strong and keep going. i know you can. i don’t know you but i love you. 🤍

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“there’s nothing more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shoreline, no matter how many times it’s sent away.”

— sarah kay.

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little ways to make yourself happy:

• do things that make yourself feel happy. you don’t need others validation. you don’t have to post everything online.

• make self care a priority. always put yourself first before anything else. your career, people’s opinions, your partner’s or family’s wishes can put on hold first. it’s not selfish, it’s necessary.

• distance yourself from negativity. it is okay to be alone.

• let go of the past. no matter how painful or hard it is, forgive yourself like how you would understand and forgive others. stop being so hard on yourself. grow from the experience and move on.

• let go of needing to be perfect. your imperfections makes you unique.

• look at the mirror and start to compliment yourself. admire your face, your body, your soul, every little inch of you.

• don’t suppress your emotions but also don’t overthink them.

• accomplish something no matter how small it is. reward yourself after that. don’t save special things for special occasions. make the occasion special.

• never compare your life to others. don’t compare your chapter one to someone’s chapter twenty.

• be kind to someone even if it’s a stranger. compliment them, don’t be judgemental. make them smile. it will make their day better, i’m sure.

• remember healing does not happen overnight. it takes time, there’s ups and downs. it is okay. you’re doing great. keep on moving. if nobody ever said this to you, i am going to say it: i’m proud of where you are right now.

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when your head hits the pillow tonight, remind yourself that you have done a great job today. you’re doing things at your own pace and that is good enough. be patient and proud of yourself. 🤍

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it’s okay when you thought you were over it and it hits you again. it’s okay to cry and be sad over it again when you thought things are getting better. healing is messy. take all the time you need.

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have patience with yourself. nobody gets better overnight. you’ll get there in time. remember: every day you take a step forward and you survived on the things you thought you would never able to. be proud of yourself because i am proud of you.

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🍃: how to love yourself?

self love is very important. with strong self love, you can carry yourself in a positive way and lead an amazing life. it can open up so many opportunities that we didn’t realised we had it. but remember: it doesn’t happen overnight, it’s going to take a few months. you need to stop waiting until you’re “perfect” to start self-love. start now.

this is the actually based on my experience and this is how i actually started:

• acknowledge who you are. there is no one else who can be you. let’s be honest, there are some things you don’t like about yourself. like myself, i don’t like my nose and my legs but i’m accepting it as what it is and i think those little flaws makes me unique.

but that doesn’t mean that you can’t practice self-care. do it. do self-care after you wake up and before you sleep. wear makeups if you want to. do whatever makes you comfortable and happy but please never compare yourself to others.

• think about the qualities that makes you who you are. if you have to write a list about it, write it. make sure your list is long, make it two pages of a4 or more. don’t sell yourself short because i know that you’re amazing.

after a few weeks or months, you’re going to look at the mirror and say “damn. i love myself and i will never want to change who i am.” trust me on this.

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you’ve worked hard. you’re tired and your heart has been heavy. this is your peace check point. take a deep breathe and rest. you’ve done enough for today. i’m proud of what you’ve accomplished until today no matter how small or big it is.

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there is no turning back in life. no matter how much you wish you could turn the clock back to the past and change what happened, you can’t. that is not how life is. you have to move forward. let go of the painful past and focus on the future you.

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i hope you will finally heal and become whole one day. i hope you will find what your heart desires and i hope you will find peace in your life. you deserve them all. 🤍

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“you must never give in to despair. allow yourself to slip down that road and you surrender to your lowest instincts. in the darkest times, hope is something you give yourself. that is the meaning of inner strength.”

— uncle iroh; avatar: the last airbender; book 2: earth, episode 5: avatar day.

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healing and recovery aren’t something you can earn in a day. it takes months or sometimes years. you’re going to have some bad days, you’re going to cry again. it is okay. don’t put a huge pressure on yourself. keep going. you’ll get there, i promise.

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life works in a mysterious way. the person you might think is your forever sometimes turns out to someone who end up leaving you.

then you meet someone and it’s clear that you two, on some levels belong to each other. no one is sent by accident to anyone. coincidence aren’t always just “coincidence”. that’s how life works, i guess. it’s beautiful.

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sometimes you need to get out from your comfort zone to make life more interesting and worthwhile.

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reminder: how a person chooses to treat you is not a reflection of your worth, it is a reflection of their issues and problems. they’re the one who chooses not to handle them in a healthy way. which has nothing to do with you.

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hello, i just want to say your accounts help me in some way.

this warms my heart. i’m glad and thank you! please stay healthy and safe. 🤍

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if you’re reading this and your heart is aching, i just want to let you guys know that you will be able to go through it.

‪here’s what i’m going to share some personal tips on how you can make it through (based on personal experience):

• feel all the feelings and feel them deeply. don’t hide from them. don’t tell yourself that you’ve cried too much. it is okay to do so. just sit with your pain and let yourself feel it. walk through it. that’s all you have to do. don’t analyse it, manipulate it or deny it. you simply have to accept it for what it is. accept the relationship is not there anymore. accept that it is finally over. it’s hard but trust me, it will make you feel stronger. ‬‪walking through the pain is the biggest challenge of my life, i’m not going to lie. i devoted my time and attention to my pain. instead of pushing the feelings away, i cried. i cried of days. and it somehow made me feel lighter the next few days. i was healing and i learn to release the pain. ‬

• explore new things. do something that you have always wanted to do. as for me, i spend my days drawing and it has been making me feel alive. this will not only take your mind off things but it will also help you grow.

• ‪the most important thing: do not text him. i know how much you want to text him or you’re waiting for him to text you. but listen, with you two texting each other, you’re going back to where you were. hurting yourself again. why do you keep doing it to yourself?

• love yourself. i used to put blame on myself. i told myself hundred times that i’m the reason why it ended and it’s all my fault. but i realised that blaming myself will not do anything good. it will certainly not bring back the past, i’m just hurting myself even more. blaming yourself will prevent you from letting go, from moving on. it will keep you on the same spot. don’t be too hard on yourself. remember that the reflection on how other treats you is who they are, it has nothing to do with you. learn to love yourself. all your weakness, your flaws, your mistakes; that’s what makes you. i know that i don’t know you but you’re beautiful.

remember not all endings are painful. some endings could be a blessing in disguise. be patient. pains don’t last. always remember beautiful things are coming. you’re stronger than you think you are. i know you can do this and i will always be here for you if you ever need someone.