The question above has been through the mind of Chefi, an extremely close friend of my family, since a week ago, when his wife Aida died after giving birth due to a postpartum bleeding that led into a postpartum infection. He found himself with a little babygirl to raise all by himself. Aida, his late wife, already knew there would be complications during the whole birth process, since her frail complexion, diabetes and chronic anemia didn’t make things easier. She wanted to go on until the end, admitting to be unable to live a life in which she knew she was the reason of her firstborn’s death. Chefi accepted her decision, unable to go against her beliefs, which he accepted as his own after converting to islam to get the blessing of his in-laws, habitants of El-Aaiún, Sahara. Nearly 48h after Aida had the baby, the lacerations on her genital area got infected, as well as the interior of her uterus, cause her inmense pain, swelling, drowsiness and a fever that reached 40ºC (104ºF). She was given antibiotics and fed intravenously, but her body was too spent, too weak, too gone. She passed away in her sleep, leaving Chefi alone with the proof of their love. He named her Aisha, which means alive. She was alive and well, her cheeks rosy, her eyes as hipnotizing as her mother’s.
Chefi, although proud of her wife’s efforts, is now in the hands of depression and without resources, highly needed when it comes to firstborns. Know how to help him under the cut:
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As nobody has donated in 24h and we’re growing quite desperate, after a deep research I have decided to create a file in which everyone can see the (quite high) prices of the products the baby needs, that way being clear about what that money is gonna be invested in. You’re free to share the link of the document on your social media, just like this post. Please help us, we’re begging you at this point.
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1RqPiioiR4YkRI-n7PyN8dZPEPN8iyXllUPDDmV6etMg/edit?usp=drivesdk
update — Some donators already know, but I thought I would share this with everyone: the baby has acute asthma and we’re having a really hard time because of it.
Aisha is just a month old but around a week ago she started wheezing and her breathing was too fast, even in her sleep. Since she’s not legally registered in our country yet, we had to take her to the ER without a health care card and the doctor, luckily, pretended not to see and attended us anyways. After denying that it was a cold or allergies, he diagnosed her with asthma. That same night, she had an acute asthma attack and we had to run to the nearest pharmacy to get an inhaler. As mentioned beforehand, she does not have a health care card, so we had to spend over 100€ on a Serevent inhaler cause we didn’t have a health insurance to cover up the damage. Those were our funds for this month, for groceries and baby formula, which, by clicking on the link shared on our last update, you can see how annoyingly expensive it is.
We also had to buy some Aerius syrup for 15€, some Pulmicort for 57€ and a new set of hypoallergenic sheets and blankets (since the doctor said they help avoid dusting) for 85€ on a specialized shop. Those three items were bought with part of my college scholarship since the father of the baby is absolutely penniless.
The problem is, the baby and her father live in a very small apartment by the beach that has little to no ventilation, making her efforts to breathe even more tedious. After talking to a company that sells gas tanks to treat asthmatics, they gave us a budget for a big gas tank so the baby could use on a daily basis. The thing is, we don’t have 1275€ for the tank, not even 15€ for the nasal cannula, which would avoid to cover the whole baby’s face with a mask, making her a bit more comfortable with her treatment. We’re flat broke since I can’t spend any more funds from my scholarship: I still need the money to pay for my daily expenses as a college student.
All of this, of course, remembering that the shipping of the so-needed gas tank would be 330€, because it’s not exactly a light item. It would take a week to arrive once purchased.
At this point we’re literally begging for help. Chefi hasn’t moved on, he’s still on Prozac to help him cope with depression, jobless and without a single cent on his wallet. And before you ask: yes, I’m paying for his anti-depressants too. His in-laws, the parents of Aida, don’t wanna help us either, they have even stopped caring about the baby since she’s “the reason they don’t have their daughter anymore”. They know a 18-year-old is feeding a grown man and they honestly don’t care. They don’t answer to messages and even blocked Chefi once.
If you have relatives, friends, teachers or literally anyone that cares, please help us. You don’t have to be a Muslim to help, just anyone with good intentions. Don’t feel bad if you can donate only 1$, that dollar alone would push us a bit closer to our goal.
Thanks from the bottom of our hearts.
Donate: https://www.paypal.me/GodparentProject, [email protected]
Hey guys I know we Havent posted in awhile but I'll start posting again and I'll even get more co-admins if you guys could help out or even just share this around. Please help out !
