Hereās a tip: if you want to talk to someone on here, have something to say. If you start a conversation with āhiā and āhow are youā and āthatās coolā if I reply, youāre giving me nothing to work with. It comes off like youāre barely interested in the message youāre sending, so why would someone want to engage with that?
Like, think about how that would be irl. Someone you donāt know comes up to you at a party, they try to start a conversation but have nothing to say and arenāt putting any effort into holding up their end of the chat. Are you going to want to put the effort in? How about the 50th time it happens?
If youāre messaging someone, think about why? Do you think theyāre cool and want to be their friend? Are you trying to flirt with them? Do you think just saying āheyā is really going to catch their interest and set you apart? Do you really think youāre doing anything but setting yourself up for disappointment with that? Itās like fishing with nothing on the hook!
You donāt need to wow someone with a perfect opening remark, you donāt need to overthink it. Just show an interest in them as a person, share some of yourself and try to get to know them. Itās not always going to work, but itās better than setting yourself up for rejection with āhey⦠how are you?⦠thatās coolā¦ā















