Things the stans claim Howard did to Tony:
*shouted at him constantly
*always told him to shut up because adults were talking
*was very physical and threatening during confrontations
*never paid any attention to Tony except to lecture him
*forced Tony into the war profiteering business by making him focus his attention on weapons instead of what he wanted to invent to help people
*was constantly ragging on how much of a failure Tony was
*always made sure to tell Tony that his inventions weren’t good enough
*ignored Tony’s opinions and wants in favor of what HE wanted Tony to do
Things Howard actually did to Tony:
*scolded him for messing with his delicate models while he was working but never raised his voice at him
*didn’t spend as much time as he probably should have with Tony
*talked about Captain America a lot because he was obsessed with finding his friend’s body
*had very high expectations of Tony because he taught his son everything he knew and had provided him endless resources to work with
*gently called Tony out for being sarcastic and rude when he was a teenager
*tried to get out of the weapons business, and had a plan in place so that Tony would be all set up to start down a new path involving clean energy and healing tech instead of bombs and missiles
*made a video for Tony telling him how he was sure that he was going to accomplish great things so his son would know that no matter what happened, Howard cared about him and believed in him
Things the stans claim Tony does to Peter:
*scolds him for messing with delicate projects
*doesn’t spend as much time as he should with Peter because he gets busy in the lab or with work
*has very high expectations of Peter because he knows he’s a genius and is providing him with everything he needs to succeed
*is always gentle and even-toned when he scolds Peter
*tries to set Peter’s future up for success by helping him get into good colleges or setting up a research career for him
*leaves Peter notes or videos telling him how proud he is of him
Things Tony has actually done to Peter:
*told him to shut up because the adult was talking
*physically got in his space and backed him up while berating him
*flat out ignored Peter until he was actively in the process of getting himself killed, upon which he showed up to yell at him and then went right back to ignoring him
*actively set Peter down a path to killing people by arming him with lethal weaponry, having instant kill mode as the default combat setting for when the suit was set to fight, and letting him go into combat situations completely unsupervised
*takes his failure and rubs it in his face to show him how useless he is and why he needs to leave things to the adults
*constantly tossing out derisive comments about how low-tech and pathetic all of Peter’s gear is, how he is in “DIRE NEED of an upgrade”
*ignored Peter’s wishes and disregarded his protests about being dragged to another country without his aunt’s knowledge
Gee…it’s almost like someone took all of the traits from what the stans love to claim is Howard’s list, and basically just pasted them into the Tony/Peter relationship.
And yet, somehow, even with all of their very blatant abuse check boxes being ticked for Tony’s treatment of Peter, they still call it a sweet and healthy relationship.Funny how abuse only seems to count when it’s Tony who is being abused…
Petition to start a “Tony Stark’s A+ Parenting” tag, anyone…?
