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I will get to all your asks tomorrow as it's really late here, sorry I haven't gotten to them yet but it's taken me a little longer to get back up and running than i'd like.

Courtney♥

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GUESS WHAT??

Guess who is back!!!! I am back on this blog so please send in your questions to me and I hope you haven't missed me too much:)

Courtney♥

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Hoping everything is well, haven't heard from you in a while xoxo

Everything is fine! I have just moved blogs thanks for asking! ~❤️❤️

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Congratulations on everyone that liked my post you are all admins on the blog!

I just need you all to fill in a quick application that I will put on here in a minute and you are good to go!

Courtney x

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have you already been sending the private stuff to the futur admins?

Not yet I am putting more information on there now! You will have to fill in an application form first :)

Courtney x

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Hello everyone:)

If you are interested in becoming an admin on here can you like or reblog this and I will message you privately about it.

I am looking for about 3/4 admins to help run this blog for me? 

While I won't be answering questions on the blog I will be active around the blog still. Redoing pages/themes and obviously talking to the admins.

So please reblog this if you are interested and if I have enough interest then I will open it up properly by doing applications and things but this is just to see if I have the numbers.

Courtney x

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Please read this it is so important!

I have been meaning to tell you guys something for the past few days now but I have an exciting new venture that I am part of! 

I have now joined the team of mental health advice and I am their new admin over there. 

I took me a bit of time to decide on what to do with this blog since I am now part of an even bigger blog but I have decided to not be part of this anymore so if you need any advice head on over to my other advice blog and direct all questions to me and I will answer it on there.

Mental health advice is a bigger blog with fantastic admins and considering I have been a follower for a long time I thought I would join!

I answer the same sorts of questions- Relationships, mental health questions so despite the name we accept all sorts of questions:) 

I hope you all support my new adventure and head on over and ask a question. 

Also if you could give it a follow I would appreciate it. 

I would just like to say thank you for all supporting me on this blog and being apart of it for so long! I wouldn't of been able to have done it without you guys so thank you ever so much:)

GOSH I AM A LITTLE EMOTIONAL WRITING THIS. 

Please don't be bummed about it I haven't gone far and you can still request that I answer your questions and I will be happy to do so! It's just at the moment I don't think I have enough time to devote my 100% attention to this blog when I have exams coming up and a busy school year. I hope you all understand. 

IF ANYONE WANTS TO TAKE OVER THIS BLOG THEN YOU ARE MORE THAN WELCOME I WILL CHECK THIS INBOX FOR THE NEXT WEEK BEFORE CLOSING IT COMPLETELY!

Thanks for being part of my wonderful journey and I hope you become part of my new journey too!

I love each and every one of you so don't ever forget that.

I shall see you soon so head over to MENTAL HEALTH ADVICE!

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I'm really sorry this is long but I kinda need some help. Around a week ago one of my best friends asked me to go to the doctors with her but I couldn’t bc I was meant to be going to another friends house as we had plans. Later that day she was beaten up by some girls. Recently she tried to commit by overdosing and she cut herself rly bad. She was rushed to hospital and stuff. Today I went to visit and I cant stop feeling like a bad friend. (part 1 - d)

Maybe if I went with her this all could have been avoided. To top it off one of the girls who beat her up seen one of my status’ about fights and gangs; I had no idea what had went on when I wrote it as it was just a general thing. Anyway she tried to argue with me online and today she tried to confront me in the middle of a street as she was drunk. (part 2 -d) My friend found out and keeps apologizing but its not her fault and really I just don’t know how I can help bc im not exactly a ‘stable’ person myself. I’ve cut before and I can feel myself slowly getting weaker. I just cant stop feeling like a bad friend and like i could have done a lot more to help. (part 3-d)

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Listen none of this was your fault, how was you to know this was going to happen. And even if you was with her it could of still happened. Whether there is one or two or three or four of you it doesn’t stop someone from being a twat and beating you all up. So try not to worry. Whats done is done now, worrying won’t get you anyway.

As for this girl giving you crap block her off any social media and report her to the police that is all you have to do and they’ll stop her from coming anywhere near you.

You don’t have to help her 24/7 or send her messages 24/7 but maybe once a day send her an inspirational message to keep her going something as little as ‘you are such a good best friend i’d be lost without you’ those sort of messages always puts a smile on someones face. Just do normal friend things like hanging out and texting throughout the day but tell her that you are always there for her and be available for her to talk to. She may only come and speak to you once a week about something who knows? And explain to her about you and maybe she will understand and go somewhere else when she is having a bad day.

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I've been in recovery for months, and I'm really proud of myself - but there are times where I have no control over my feelings and I just fall into this big pit of depression and don't know what to do with myself, it happens so often, I'm trying so so hard to smile & be happy but it never seems to stay that way. xox

I know the exact feeling and they are perfectly normal.

What I did to help me was to talk to someone. Tell them exactly how I felt and get it all off my chest.

I also did things that would make me more happy and the depression less noticeable I would watch funny you tube videos, watch my favourite film and just chill out listening to music.

Recovery is hard but I know you can do it.

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You're unbelievably sweet. I think you're perfect. Keep it up.

Aw thank you for this kind message I really appreciate it!:-)

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Hi! I've been seeing a girl for the past few months and she's really lovely, we get on well etc. But my best friend has recently confessed she has feelings for me, and as bad as it sounds there's no competition between them, I've always had feelings for her but thought she was straight. I want to start something with my best friend but how do i respectfully break it off with the other girl? I don't want to hurt her but I know i will. Thanks x

I am so happy you want to break it off with the other girl instead of leading her on or playing them both:)

Just be honest with this other girl and she will thank you later. Tell her that you just would like to be her friend because there is someone else that you like and you wouldn’t want to hurt her by being with her when there is someone else you really like. Sure it’ll hurt her but she will get over it. It’s best to get it over with (like a band aid) than just drag it out by lying. She will respect you more for telling the truth!

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I want to get healthier. But every time I set out a plan for myself, I do good for about 3 days and then I crash. I overeat and then feel like shit and just give up. How can I change this? I really want to be healthier and fitter

I wanted to get healthier and fitter and lasted 3 days and would just give up by eating whatever was in sight which was really annoying. But now I have been eating healthy and getting fitter for 19 days so hopefully it’s something that will stick. 

Meal planning helped me a lot but it seems like it isn’t working for you. I mean it took me a good 4 or 5 days to get used to meal planning but I persevered and it paid off.  I would meal plan nutritional things so things that’ll fill you up to stop over eating. This is my typical day (if I can be bothered to go to this extreme to make food) I usually have scrambled eggs on a piece of brown bread for breakfast then I have a piece of fruit for a mid morning snack then for my dinner I either have jacket potato with beans or a sandwich then for an afternoon snack I have nuts or 2 cream crackers then for my dinner I have chicken and vegetables. I also advise you to mix the food your eating up aswell so you don’t get bored and crave other things.

Also allow yourself a cheat day to eat whatever you want or even have a piece of chocolate each day that isn’t going to make you overly unhealthy. When you crave something for so long the moment you eat it you’ll eat more than needed. 

If you feel the need to overeat then either eat something healthy that won’t cancel out the effort of you healthy eating or drink water. Water fills you up and stops you from wanted to eat more.

It’s okay to eat but if you feel like you’ve over eaten exercise for 30 minutes and burn some calories and you won’t feel so bad then. 

What also helped me was not buying anything overly unhealthy so when I felt the need to eat it wasn’t on any healthy so even if I felt bad for over eating at least it wasn’t on something like a bag of crisps.

Also I had a cheat cupboard with things in there for a cheat day and I put a notice on there saying ‘don’t eat’ or something and I managed to have willpower not to eat it. 

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do you think, in your opinion, that is acceptable for a 15 year old girl to be with an 18 year old guy. If the girl is mature in looks as well as personality?

I don’t think it’s too big of a problem. In reality a 3 year age gap isn’t too bad:) Obviously where each of you are in your life could be a problem (not much of one but something to consider) As long as the older person doesn’t pressure the young one into doing anything and is respectful of them then I think it’s ok!

It depends on the individuals whether it works or not. I don’t have any problems with a small age gap.

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i want to go in the shower when it's boiling hot and scream and cry

What is wrong lovely? I know how you feel I really do!

Go in the shower (BUT DON’T HAVE IT BOILING HOT) and just cry and scream letting all your emotions out will help ease how you feel. Bottling them up is no good honestly. I frequently go in the shower and cry in there it cleanses my mind.

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Hi! So me and my boyfriend are together for almost 4 months now. And I'm probably just overreacting but he's ex still likes him. And they still talk to eachother and I'm just so scared that he still likes her a little bit or that he will like her again. (1/2)

We are not so long together but I know that without him I will be a mess for at least 5 months. The fear of losing him is getting stronger with the day and I don’t even think it’s healthy. Well as I said I’m probably overreacting but I think youre really good at giving advice so I give it a try! Thanks anyway and I love your blog! (2/2)

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Awh thank you:))!

I would just talk to your boyfriend about your fears and how you feel and I am 100% sure that he will be able to reassure you way more than I can. Talking about it to him will help ease all your thoughts however much you think you are overreacting. 

Their relationship ended and it’s in the past, it didn’t work out for whatever reason and now he’s found someone better suited to him and that is you. 4 months together is quite a long time and your relationship is serious so I don’t think he would just leave you for his ex when their relationship didn’t work out in the first place. Life in the moment, you are happy now, nothing has happened between them and worrying won’t solve anything! Just because she likes him it doesn’t mean he likes her and is going to run back into her arms, why not ask if you can hang out with the 2 of them and then you can see how they act around each other and then you seeing first hand that they are just friends may ease your mind. Your boyfriend loves you and he is with you. Ex’s can be strictly friends after they break up and maybe your boyfriend has realised that they are better off as just friends and they get along well as friends so why ruin that part? 

My friend and her ex boyfriend were friends before they got together and when they got together it wasn’t working, they realised they missed their friendship and were better off as friends so thats what they did become friends again because they had such a good friendship before it happened so why get rid of that. Her ex boyfriend still had a crush on her way after even when she had another boyfriend but he didn’t cross the line because he knew she was in a new relationship and she didn’t do anything to flirt or lead him on but then he realised that she is happy now so he needs to move on and it took him a while to do so but when he did things were a little easier to deal with for her new boyfriend. Now they all hang out together frequently double dating:)

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My bf lately has trust issues with me though I haven't done anything lose trust. His sister today got a dirty snapchat and apparently it was from me and told him and he's mad at me thinking I intended it for a guy. I didn't even send it and I don't know what to do. All I can say is I didn't do it. He means the world and I need him to just trust me which I think he wants to just the evidence is against me on this. I keep writing long paras to him to think about it but idk if I can salvage this?

By dirty was it a picture or just a sentence?

How does he know it was from you? Did he see your name on there so he knew it was you? And surely if it’s a picture he should know your body (if he has seen you naked or whatever) like he should know it isn’t you. 

My friend has had her snap chat hacked recently and they sent naked photos to everyone on her contact list so maybe that is what happened to you. Try talking to him about that. 

Does his sister have some sort of problem with you? Because it could be her trying to cause problems between the 2 of you.

I would try and talk to him and have another talk and explain that you didn’t do it and you wouldn’t. Then if he still doesn’t believe you then you’ll just have to tell him that there isn’t anything more you can do or say because you aren’t going to admit to something that you haven’t done. Tell him you love him and you would do anything to salvage it and see what he is willing to get you to do to help make everything okay again. 

Maybe you could buy him some sort of gift or give him something to show you’re sorry even though you have nothing to say sorry for if you haven’t done anything:)

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Hi, it's maybe a weird thing but I'm in a relationship for almost 6 months now. But there's a thing, i started talking to my ex again and now I'm kinda attracted to him.. ugh

I think that you’ll always have some form of feelings for your ex deep deep down. You had a lot of history with them and you loved them and they played a part in your life so there will always be them lingering feelings for them. That is why when you spoke to your ex again you started to become attracted to him! Try and limit the amount of time you talk to your ex so don’t speak to him all the time and then maybe they will start to wear off:) 

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