MIKROKOSMOS BEGIN

no matter how good you are, people will judge you according to their mood and needs. Ignore them. Focus on yourself.

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Yoongi: I win.

Jimin: I literally pinning you down.

Yoongi: I know :)

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Jungkook: Don't worry, i have a few knives up my sleeves.

Namjoon: I think you meant cards.

Seokjin: He did not.

Jungkook, pulling out various knives: I did not.

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Taehyung: *hands Jungkook a water bottle*

Jungkook: *drinking it* Thanks. What's this for?

Taehyung: Jimin says you get thirsty around me.

Jungkook: *chokes on water*

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8 REASONS WE HOLD ON TO ANGER

Anger validates our experiences.

Feeling hurt or sad is more overwhelming than feeling angry.

We have been taught to express being hurt with aggression.

Being angry is a distraction from taking responsibility.

We lack the skills to self-soothe.

Letting go of anger may mean letting go of our last connection to someone we love.

Being angry can make us feel like we don’t have to justify our actions or lack of effort to heal.

Anger makes us feel alive/provides an adrenaline rush.

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Namjoon, joking: I should have Kookie kill you for that.

Jungkook, from another room: Who?

Namjoon: i was just kidding around-

Jungkook [walking in, switchblade in hand]: NO, is he bothering you?

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Yoongi: Yeah the history books know about Taehyungie's Cholinergic and everything but they don't know about his worst illness.

Namjoon: What's that?

Yoongi: It's called dumbass disease.

Taehyung [in the background, playing with Kookie]: No, i don't need a parachute.

Yoongi: And it's incurable..

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Yoongi at social event

Hoseok, worried: I think i'm gonna take Yoongi home.

Seokjin, sipping his wine: He's doing fine.

Yoongi, approaching them: Hoba, these people are so invasive and weird.

Nearby person, asking Yoongi: Hey, what's your name?

Yoongi: Don't fucking ask me [turns to Hoseok] you gotta get me out of here.

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Jungkook in the Captain's America costume

Jimin: Taetae, you have been observing Captain America for 48 hours now. What have you discovered?

Taehyung: People fall in love with him very easily

Jimin: An example?

Taehyung, holding back tears: Me

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Hoseok: Hey you know what sucks?

Yoongi: Vacuums

Hoseok: Hey you know what sucks in a metaphorical sense?

Yoongi: Black holes

Hoseok: Hey you know what just isn't cool?

Yoongi: Lava?

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FINDING  THE CAUSE OF YOUR TRIGGERS

Identify how your trigger made you feel:

I felt unheard

I felt judged

I didn’t feel good enough

I didn’t feel worthy

I felt left out

I felt blamed

I felt uncared for

I felt unloved

I felt controlled

I felt betrayed

I felt unimportant

I felt disrespected

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SELF-ESTEEM

Self-esteem means having value and respect for yourself. When you have a high self-esteem you will feel good about yourself and take pride in what you do.

It is important to have high self-esteem. When you have a high self-esteem you find it easy to try new things. Before you try something new, you will think, “I can do this” and not, “This is too hard. I will never be able to do this.”

On the other hand, if you have a low self-esteem you will feel bad about yourself all the time. You will not feel confident. You will not be able to enjoy what you like to do.

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9 WAYS TO STAY MENTALLY STRONG IN YOUR BUSY LIFE

Write down 3 things you’re grateful for every day.

Never argue with strangers.

Celebrate your success more often.

Stop comparing with others and focus on yourself.

Allow yourself to be vulnerable.

Declutter by throwing away things you haven’t used for along time.

Use more positive words.

Cry when you’re really sad.

Spend some time alone regularly.

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WHAT IS VERBAL ABUSE?

Yelling / screaming

Insults

Mocking

Sarcastic comments

Intimidating threats

Disregard for feelings

Cursing / swearing

Manipulating words

Name calling

Negative criticism

Verbal abuse usually leads to emotional abuse or is used in combination with verbal abuse.

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5 BOUNDARIES YOU NEED

♡ EMOTIONAL

Boundaries around inappropriate topics, emotional dumping and dismissing emotions.

“This isn’t a topic i’m willing to discuss.”

♡ MATERIAL

Boundaries around possesions, when they can be used and how they are treated.

“My car cannot be used on weekends.”

♡ TIME/ENERGY

Boundaries around time, lateness, when to contact, favors and free labor.

“If you’re going to be late, please text me to let me know.”

♡ MENTAL

Freedom to have your own thoughts, beliefs, values and opinions.

“I respect that you disagree with my opinion, but don’t force your own.”

♡ PHYSICAL

Proximity, touch, PDA, unwanted comments regarding appearance or sexuality.

“I don’t find comments like that funny.”

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ARE YOU HIGHLY SENSITIVE?

D - DEPTH OF PROCESSING

Highly sensitive people need more time to process information. Therefore, it takes them longer to make decisions.

O - OVERSTIMULATION

Highly sensitive people pick up on every tiny signal around them, which causes them to become overstimulated more easily.

E - EMOTIONAL RESPONSIVENESS / EMPATHY

Highly sensitive people have more mirror neurons in their brain, which causes them to be more empathic towards others.

S - SENSITIVE TO SUBTLETIES / SENSORY STIMULI

Highly sensitive people are more sensitive to subtleties. Their sensory processing goes deep. Therefore, they notice things others don’t.

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BUILD STRENGTH TO BUILD CONFIDENCE

PICK A STRENGTH

analytical thinking

artistic ability

compassion

collaboration

coming up with ideas

connecting people

curiosity

detail-oriented

disciplined

encouraging

flexibility

getting things done

inspiration

learning new things

open-mindedness

organizing

outgoing

prioritizing

solving problems

strategic thinking

WIDEN YOUR LENS

Rather than go deep, go wide. Focus on skills that showcase your strength. If you’re outgoing, get good at presentations. If you’re detail-oriented, figure out how to budget. If you’re good at learning new skills, try teaching.

MEASURE SUCCESS

Success spawns confidence, so it helps to measureit in relation to how confident you feel. Completing a goal is the first gauge. Also consider enjoyment, helpfulness to others, momentum, new skills learned, problems solved.

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6 HARD TRUTHS YOU NEED TO ACCEPT FOR BEING STRONGER

Not many people really care about you matters. They ask and comment simply because they are curious. Don’t let them affect the decisions you make.

You’ll suck at everything in the beginning. But if you’re persevere and patient, time will reward you with what you deserve and punish the ones who easily give up.

No matter how good or bad your life is at this stage, always remember ‘this time will pass away’ and you can stay humble and motivated to continue your journey.

People close to you see things with more clarity than you do sometimes. Forgot your ego and take the good advice.

You’ll fail countless times before you succeed. But that doesn’t matter. You only need to do the right things when the opportunities come.

There are no answers to some questions. If you can’t get them after trying, that means you need to let go.