The Door is Ajar

No Wave Femme Feminist, Area Bisexual Menace, Laughter Enthusiast

[ashleyetc]

seriously though bisexuality being defined as attraction to men and women is a heterosexual’s definition of bisexuality actual bisexual groups and organizations have been defining it as attraction to two or more genders or same and other genders since the nineties and plenty of nb people actually id as bi and refusing to accept how we define ourselves is so absurdly biphobic and heterosexist and jfc it’s 2014 can other queer people fucking realize and acknowledge this

[jackawful]

The purple stripe on the bi flag is meant to represent attraction to nb genders and the bisexual manifesto published in Anything That Moves includes the lines “Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature … In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders.” That was published in 1990. It’s older than a lot of people here, including me, and older than terms like “pansexual” and “polysexual” by at least a decade. Bi history is important.

[embryoxxx]

NOOT

[softcore-revolutionary]

[icantbelieveiwatchthisshow]

[cungadero]

no offense but making your s/o laugh is literally the most gratifying thing in the fuckin universe

[heythedoorisunlocked]

If I can make @hellalightsflashing laugh it’s the highlight of my day. 

[evilterf]

If you aren’t exclusively attracted to the same sex don’t fucking call yourself gay. 

[soloontherocks-moving-refol-blog]

Then stop using the terms gay marriage, gay rights, gay bars, gay pride, and gay community when you mean LGBT+ or same-sex. Stop saying “lesbian and gay organization” to refer to LGBT+ organizations – looking at you, pflag! If you don’t want gay to be an umbrella term, stop using it as one.

You can’t force the label gay on bi and pan people against our will and then complain when we use it. It doesn’t work like that.

[soloontherocks-moving-refol-blog]

I'mma gonna reblog this again because it’s making the openly transphobic OP incoherently angry and I am all about that shit.

[heythedoorisunlocked]

I’m gay and bi I’m gay and bi I’m gay and I’m also gay and also bi. 

Deal with it, losers. 

[theunderestimator]

Punk’s (definitely) Not Dead (it has just turned activistic)!

Young Burmese punks attempt to combat their country’s rising homelessness crisis on week nights, as part of  the worldwide Food Not Bombs movement, by distributing clothes and meals that they cook themselves, financed by donations.

This Burmese project has been running for three years now, led by members of local punk band Rebel Riot:

“I realized I had to do something, rather than just sing about changing the system,”

Kyaw Kyaw, Rebel Riot’s singer/guitarist

Cudos to my friend of almost thirty years derlandstreicher for submitting this one.

(via, via & via)

[dropdeadrn-deactivated20190206]

I love this

[joselapagos]

[fullten-deactivated20240430]

It’s fucked up that a lot of society tells women that they need to have kids in order to have a fulfilling life.

Because then these women have kids, still feel empty, and probably had other dreams or goals, but it’s much harder, or near impossible, to reach now with a kid.

I just see a lot of bitter, mad women who resent their kids, hate their life, regret their decisions, and feel cheated, and no one wins in that scenario.

[fuckyeahmarxismleninism]

[surrealism-love]

Memory via Rene Magritte

Medium: oil, canvas

[kryptonians]

Tumblr gets really boring when it develops a collective hate boner for something or someone for no reason.

[gobsthegoblin]

self care for when you hit rock bottom

i fucking hate self care posts made by neurotypicals so here’s one from someone who Actually Gets It

-can’t shower or take a bath? me either. dry shampoo can make your hair look and feel cleaner, and baby wipes or makeup wipes work great to get the top layer of grime off your skin.

-can’t wash your sheets and make your bed? i feel you. push your blankets out of the way and shake the crumbs off your sheet. it will at least be a bit more comfortable.

-can’t even change out of your dirty pajamas? been there. hit yourself with some febreeze and a lint roller. if you can, brush your hair. if you can’t, hair ties and bobby pins are fantastic.

-can’t make anything to eat? same. if you can, there’s no shame in ordering food. in fact, it’s probably better you eat something rather than go hungry. if you can’t, try and find something that comes pre-made or takes minimal effort to make. at the very least, drink some water.

can’t respond to messages or reach out for help? yeah, i get that. set an alarm for a few hours from now and respond to any messages you need to once you’ve given yourself time to prepare. if they’re Important Messages that need Professional Responses, you can find fill-in-the-blank format rough drafts on google. as far as personal messages go, don’t feel bad for sending a mass “I’m sorry, I’m in a personal emergency right now. I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.” response to everyone.

-can’t even sleep because it’s so bad? asmr videos always knock me out, personally, but i also watch a lot of bob ross. just try to find something quiet and soothing to use as background noise and take your mind off it, or at least give you a more peaceful environment to think about it.

-can’t go for a walk/drive? try opening the blinds or curtains. you’re still exposing yourself to the outside world. baby steps. (i also play animal crossing or sims; it may be virtual but fuck it. i went on a walk.)

-can’t go into work/school? let people know. let your coworkers or classmates know it’s an emergency and you can’t make it. give yourself up to two days, but then you have to go back. ask to have your work emailed to you so you know what you missed.

-can’t brush your teeth and wash your face? makeup or baby wipes and gum or mouthwash. don’t let yourself physically rot bc you’re rotting emotionally.

-remember that you’ve been here before. if you survived then you can survive now. that’s what this is about- survival. you don’t have to be living your Best Life. right now, it’s more than enough that you’re alive.

[sweetdickheadass]

This is the only self car masterpost I’ve ever seen that is feasible for severe depressive episodes

[tooiconic]

Wwwwwoooowww needed this

[sparklebat-deactivated20190112]

This is really important.

[hellalightsflashing-deactivated]

[bananajeph-deactivated20180116]

normalize trans bodies in wlw/mlm settings

when you say things like “trans inclusive” dont then turn around and only include descriptions of cis women in your sapphic poetry or only post art that only has cis men

if you’re cis and want to be “trans inclusive” make damn sure you’re actually trying to correct any transphobia that you have and correct any internal ideas that cis men/women are the only ones that belong in mlm/wlw spaces

also, normalize wlw/mlm relationships that don’t have any cis people in them. we dont need to date cis people to be considered “actual” wlw/mlm

it’s also okay for trans people to avoid dating cis people all together (whether for safety reasons or because of past traumas)

just. yah idk make sure that you actually mean it when you say that you’re trans inclusive and actively try to work on not being transphobic

(yr encouraged to rb if yr cis)

[bi-trans-alliance]

Bi+ Pride at World Pride 2017 in Madrid, Spain

[thetrippytrip]

When you come back woke

[iztac-coatl-deactivated20190408]

Good for this white girl

[esoteric-law89-deactivated20241]

There is actually a lot of us serving who feel this way, but aren’t allowed to speak on it while still in!