maybe this is a silly question because gender =/= presentation but how do i figure out if im a feminine nonbinary or a cis woman? i recently realized that my womanhood matters a lot to me and i feel so much dread towards Maybe I Am Cis After All all after i identified as non-binary since i was a child. it feels like i can't be both nonbinary and a woman, like it gets trivialized or if im cis after all then im a traitor or something. sorry for the weird question
it’s okay! i had the same debate with myself, i even questioned if i wanted to be a transmasc or he/him lesbian, but eventually i found myself most comfortable with just being a weird woman. i feel like a lot of the time the binary is reinforced by the rigid boxes people have online, there’s just an extra category shoehorned in. and i think it pushes people to either adhere to one stereotype or the other, or ID as nb. and there’s nothing wrong with that, but i also think we forget that you can be a gnc cis person if that’s how you feel most comfortable at the moment yk?