I really urge everyone to get to know themselves and I'm saying this in the least cliche way possible. Yes you should get to know who you are on the inside, your personality, your likes and dislikes, your hobbies, things that you love etc, but you should equally devote time to understand who you are on the outside. What colours suit you best, what styles you look good in, which makeup routine clicks, what haircut/hair colour makes you look sexy, I think they're equally helpful in building your self confidence, no you're not self obsessed if you spent some time finding out your eye shape, you're not uncool if you don't follow the latest trend if it doesn't suit you. I spent years trying to wear halter neck tops but they just don't look good on me. So what? I don't buy or wear them! There are tons of different styles to choose from why should I force myself to fit into a style that doesn't make me look good. And I'm saying this for both guys and girls, men please take some time out to do a skincare routine, find a style that suits you and please for god's sake wear something other than black and navy blue.
Good makeup, skincare and fashion sense isn't based on luck, it's not random. You figure out what looks good on you and it works. The first pair of glasses i had was a purple cateye frame that made me look like an absolute clown. I barely wore them, even when I needed them.The next time I bought glasses, I looked at videos on YouTube on how to choose glasses for yourself according to your face shape, distance between your eyes and some overly complicated shit that you'll forget right after. But it helped me choose exactly the kind of glasses that suit me and now I actually wear them, I don't strain my eyes out because I hate how glasses look on me.
You shouldn't have to leave your house everyday hating yourself because your jeans don't suit you or avoid every mirror on your way because your makeup looks weird. There are tons of tutorials available all over the internet, you don't need to pay for any of those, just dedicate some time out for yourself and watch the magic unfold✨✨