Nothing Endures But Change

An admirer of the small things in life.

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Will you follow me across? 

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Coldplay - True Love (Official video)

Coldplay's music videos always put a smile on my face 

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Oh the return of the french music phase...

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You know when you hear a song but don't know its name...well I found it. 

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New Study Finds Humans Shouldn’t Spend More Than 5 Consecutive Hours Together

ALEXANDRIA, VA—A study published Thursday in The American Journal Of Medicine determined that it is highly detrimental to the physical and mental health of human beings for them to spend any more than five consecutive hours in each other...

LOL

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Chill song of the night.

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10 Horrifying Photos Of Fruits Without Their Peels

I don’t want this. No one wants this.

That lemon. 

Nightmares. 

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I love the title of this song.

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Current "Gettin work done" song

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Bad Idea of the Night

Reading old IM messages...my god wtf was wrong with me. 

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Quick thoughts while on the subway

Do I love her or the idea of her?

This is what my friend asked me recently. I didn't know how to respond exactly. Of course I knew what he meant by the question but deep down I find it quite a simple one to answer. Strictly speaking, you always love the idea of a person. Your brain naturally picks out the golden characteristics but fails to place any significance on any glaring character flaw. The way I look at it is why ruin the mona lisa by noticing her creepy eyes. You appreciate the holistic beauty of things through those sweet rose tinted glasses of love. Its like that scene in HIMYM where Ted realizes some horrible characteristic about the girl he is dating from Robin/Barney/Lily and it hits him like a truck. In the end, your perception of someone is just your mental notion of them and our brain is easily fooled by its own tendencies. We like to put people in categories and try to predict their behavior in response to an event. That's just human nature and the brain doing its thing. I could blab about this for hours but thats getting away from the point. Also, im sure my friend wouldn't love this type of advice since its probably the last thing he wants to hear at this time and of little comfort. 

Of course he wanted to be told that he truly loved her. For that is perceived as "real" while the idea of the girl is seen as "fake love". Different people have different theories about on how to give advice. Some people like to be appeasers about giving the questioner the answer they want. Other people are perhaps more harsh, speaking their mind with no regard for the person asking. I prefer to be neither of those. I rather be a discusser and let the person come to their own conclusion and simply guide them in a logical sensible way. I do one of my terrible things of answering a question with a series of more questions. I believe that perhaps by answering those questions and self-reflecting, the questioner can arrive at their own appropriate answer by taking logical steps. But getting to the topic at hand...if the idea of loving someone is naturally seen as negative then there must be some negative concepts attached to it. Such as loving only the concept of "having a facebook official" relationship with them or remembering the past highlights but failing to notice the lowlights (is lowlights a thing? If not, it should be). Perhaps Im doing a bad job of explaining this in writing. Lets instead talk on the flipside, maybe itll be easier to write. My personal theory is that if you actually love someone, then every second, good or bad, you can gleam some happiness merely by their presence. If you see them for five seconds everyday, those should be the best five goddamn seconds of your day. If you love someone but are in an argument or a fight with them, you should be happy that the person is willing to argue with you in the first place. Arguments in themselves can be a way to show someone you care on some level. This is probably some twisted personal view on love that only I have but when you don't feel that happiness any more, its not love. Its this "false love". Its easy to be happy and giddy around a person when things are perfect but if you can maintain a speck of it at even the worst moments, then that's when you know you have something special. 

Its easy to be a romantic. Its easy to think, hey if I get in a relationship with this girl, all my troubles will simply go away. We are a naturally optimistic species and love is something we tend to be extremely optimistic about. Im not saying you shouldn't be optimistic to find "The One", no of course you should be! But don't associate romance with solving every problem or difficulty youre facing. If you do that, then do you truly love the person for who they are or just love the perceived end results of loving them. 

Oh my stop is nearly here...i should wrap this up. I thought I would write a few sentences and I ended up writing this much...man when will they come up with a usable thought to text software because my mind goes a million miles per hour but I can never convert that to text fast enough. I guess in the end I dont want my personal view on the topic affect my friend's decision because well, I dont think many people share my ideas and that's 100% fine. So I did my thing of asking questions and he thankfully arrived at his own conclusion. But I hope he finds some comfort in his personal answer. Its much easier to be detached from the situation and view things logically. The mind prefers to not be logical in the affairs of the heart. If i ever find some more free time, ill continue this train of thought (heh, unintentional puns are the funniest). Til next time Tumblr.  

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Hedonistic party music at its finest. 

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The song that starts my daily subway commute playlist which is then followed by Sweatpants, Heartbeat, Riptide and finally Split by Tesla Boy.