the little faggot of sweet herbs

You can call me Nonna 🧿 I'm an adult

[houseboundcentipede]

Gardening blog -> @ladybugoflove

[justryingtovibe69]

[houseboundcentipede]

i wish i enjoyed casual sex 😞

[houseboundcentipede]

every fucking time i drink i get horny and then i think of that "what is it about wine that makes me feel so sensual?" "dionysus" comic

[lamignonette]

[vee-dmsr]

[caydencrypted]

the wisdom ive learnt is that becoming part of a friend group 1) takes a long time and 2) involves a lot of feeling awkward and left out at first. there’s nothing terrible about this but if you grew up chronically lonely or have any kind of trauma relating to social isolation this likely feels Really Wrong and activates danger signals. but both fortunately and unfortunately it’s just how becoming close to new people works most of the time

[caydencrypted]

another thing that was not intuitive to me as someone who grew up an autistic loner: basically everyone on the planet is starved for connection all the time and almost everything people do is an attempt to reach out to another. most seemingly illogical interactions and behaviours can be explained by this. you have to take as many of these invitations as you can. even if you're wrong you still attempted to bring more warmth into the world

[alexanderwales]

I took a shower today and thought about how incredibly lucky I am to live in an era where I could have hot water whenever I wanted it. I'd been taking indoor plumbing for granted.

[houseboundcentipede]

wow. even after all the pain and hurt and distance, my ex's music still comforts me when im going through a rough time

[houseboundcentipede]

laying in a hammock under a tree on a sunny day after working in the fields all morning is a simple joy and peace that money can't replace

[houseboundcentipede]

i had to work really hard yesterday transporting and applying manure under a time restraint. my muscles gave out (im weak bc im still recovering from illnesses).

and today, like most days, i get to work at my own pace, singing and taking breaks when i want to.

i feel so satisfied, proud, and have the opportunity to respect my body with a subsistence lifestyle

[houseboundcentipede]

i get to use cleaning and weeding as opportunities for emotional regulation (moving my body + accomplishing a necessary task + getting to zone the fuck out and think. i can even do drugs while i work if i want to). they get to have a clean living space and prepared gardens. we both win.

[houseboundcentipede]

there's someone here who intentionally cultivated playfulness in their life, and make fun out of any situation. they may make an adult playground that we all benefit from. this is what community means to me, everyone getting to create a life that personally sets them free, while still supporting others in necessary ways.

[houseboundcentipede]

laying in a hammock under a tree on a sunny day after working in the fields all morning is a simple joy and peace that money can't replace

[houseboundcentipede]

i had to work really hard yesterday transporting and applying manure under a time restraint. my muscles gave out (im weak bc im still recovering from illnesses).

and today, like most days, i get to work at my own pace, singing and taking breaks when i want to.

i feel so satisfied, proud, and have the opportunity to respect my body with a subsistence lifestyle

[houseboundcentipede]

i get to use cleaning and weeding as opportunities for emotional regulation (moving my body + accomplishing a necessary task + getting to zone the fuck out and think. i can even do drugs while i work if i want to). they get to have a clean living space and prepared gardens. we both win.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

When I was in uni my housemates had a baby, and we taught them some sign language so they could communicate before all their mouth parts were coordinated yet. None of us knew Auslan but two of us were familiar with the signs that the State Emergency Services used in the field so we worked with those.

The kid learned to request a drink, which is great, because that's like the #1 most important thing for a baby to be able to request, but instead of learning any of the other signs they just used modified versions of the drink sign to ask for all kinds of things. They couldn't actually make the proper drink sign (it requires some level of hand control) and used a modified wave, so they ended up with a whole bunch of subtly different waves to ask for stuff. Which was pretty fun in public because strangers would coo over this adorable baby who kept waving at them when, in practice, the baby wanted their ice cream.

[enitnerolf]

Babies are physically capable of making simplified signs from about 8 months. Speech usually comes at 12 to 18 months. That's half a years worth of frustration about not understanding/not being understood that can be minimized by teaching a child basic signs.

General advice is: start signing at 6 months. This gives the child time to observe, draw the connection, and learn. It also gives you the time to build the habit and practice. Start with a few signs, and wait till you see the child react to them before you introduce more. At 8 months you will start to see the child signing at you to communicate. The signs will be botched. That's ok. Just like with speech, make sure your reply contains the word/sign so they know you understand and can see the 'proper' version without feeling corrected.

Another tip: caregivers like to teach signs like tired and hungry and diaper. Signs that they (the caregivers) find relevant. Make sure to also offer signs that are relevant to the child, like their favorite toys, more and done.

[houseboundcentipede]

my therapist keeps mentioning the subreddit i post in and explained that she does covert research on there, one of these days i just know she's gonna accidentally message me on there because im such an oddball and she's gonna wanna study that freak

[weltenwellen]

A Conversation with Richard Siken by Thomas Hobohm

[nycoffeeshop]

Teach your children to appreciate nature and love their bodies and most importantly, to keep an open mind towards things and people they don’t understand.

[houseboundcentipede]

laying in a hammock under a tree on a sunny day after working in the fields all morning is a simple joy and peace that money can't replace

[houseboundcentipede]

i had to work really hard yesterday transporting and applying manure under a time restraint. my muscles gave out (im weak bc im still recovering from illnesses).

and today, like most days, i get to work at my own pace, singing and taking breaks when i want to.

i feel so satisfied, proud, and have the opportunity to respect my body with a subsistence lifestyle

[houseboundcentipede]

laying in a hammock under a tree on a sunny day after working in the fields all morning is a simple joy and peace that money can't replace