💗i overcommunicate and feel too much💗

personal blog, on semi-hiatus!! ask me for my main if u wanna stay in contact with me | byf | raphael | 19 | they/them | mentally ill | if u need me to tag something for u, feel free to ask!

[wackywizardz]

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[cowboysuggest]

this is gorgeous im literally gonna cry i love you so much op thank you for saving my life

[rotting-girl-aesthetic-deactiva]

destroy the idea that parents (especially fathers) are entitled to complete respect and obedience from their children and can never do any wrong. destroy totalitarian parenting at all costs.

[thedogandthewitch-deactivated20]

finding fae rings at 2am

[recaption]

[omgthatdress]

Putting these up for anyone who needs them today.

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward

Why Does he DO That: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

[superopinionated]

Cannot recommend WDHDT highly enough. I’ve found it helpful not just for romantic relationships, but also for growing up w a “unexplainable/uncontrollable” dad.

IT HAS ALSO BEEN REALLY HELPFUL FOR UNDERSTANDING ONLINE MOB HARASSMENT.

So if you’ve ever been bombarded w threats to be raped/killed, (so…if you’re a minority and you’ve been on the Internet for a while), this book might be useful for getting clarity around the whole entitled, abusive mindset that drives certain kinds of people to behave that way. And by “getting clarity”, I mean (for me) being able to go “oh, that’s what’s happening” and not really feel scared anymore. Or angry, or drawn out into it, or anything.

And if you’re still standing around going “but how does something like GamerGate happen?” or “but why do men hit their wives?” or whatever – please read that book and learn something.

[omgthatdress]

^^^^ truth WDHDT is fantastic at cutting down MRA bullshit and calling it what it really is

[kithnkin]

Also recommending

[swampseer]

Please consider reading these. WDHDT is really, really helpful. And I know some of you are struggling with abusive relationships, friendships, families, etc. You’re not alone. There is help.

[heysawbones]

Yo. This family holiday, please, please take care of yourself. You aren’t there to be anybody else’s cushion.

[robotsandfrippary]

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

Reading any of these books does not mean you don’t love your parents or family.  It’s just self care for helping you cope and not repeat the behaviors. 

[anna-mator]

A gentle reminder that I have Toxic Parents as a FREE PDF if you would like to download it and read it on your own. Take care of yourselves.

[heavyweightheart]

All the books in this thread are great; adding this one because it was the most helpful to me. Free pdf here

[nale-gunn]

i did a redraw

[nick-avallone]

my kink is seeing money go into my bank account

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

You’re healing every time you

get out of bed because there’s something you’re excited about.

don’t think about people who left.

clean the clutter in the room and dishes in your sink.

smile at yourself and random people.

do something kind and out of the blue to make someone happy.

work out or meet with friends even though you have no energy to.

calm yourself down when your thoughts race.

remember to drink water.

don’t dwell on things you can’t control.

do things good for yourself, even though you have no motivation.

tell yourself that you’re growing from this, and you won’t feel like this forever.

[4k-ultra-deactivated20220328]

A NEW YEAR OF COLLEGE HAS BEGUN! SO THAT MEANS, I GOTTA SPEND MORE I DON’T HAVE! BUT YOU CAN HELP! 

SUPPORT ME AND MY ARTS BY BUYING A COMMISSION!! 

(You can also support by buying me KO-FI!)

If you’d like something that isn’t listed above feel free to ask and we can work something out.

[requiem-on-water]

Murder me in an overgrown greenhouse of an old estate during a thunderstorm or don’t waste my fucking time.

[the-unlucky-thirteen]

Being raised without stability really fucks with your head, you’re forever trying to figure out a person’s “pattern“ to see how you have to approach them, whether they’re in a good mood and it’s safe, or if they’re in a bad mood and you have to be careful or maybe avoid them altogether, just because those who raised you could never keep a consistent emotional reaction

[themlike]

Reminder to all my nonbinary followers that you are “trans” enough, no matter what anyone else thinks. It doesn’t matter whether you feel dysphoria or not, or whether your gender journey is different compared to someone else you know. 

There is no checklist for being trans. You shouldn’t adhere to anyone’s standards of what “trans” looks like. 

You are you, and no one should judge that. 

[revolution-z]

Mental health professionals: hitting your kids increases the risk of mental illness and could make them more aggressive in adult life

Some guy with 3 aggrevated assault arrests and a drinking problem: well my parents beat me and I turned out fine y’all are a bunch of snowflakes

[themostbeautifulanimals]

[lovelysuggestions]

it’s not naive of you to expect someone to value the love you gave them

[anxietyproblem]

[riovidalll]

To All the Mutuals I Still Follow Even Though We Only Had That One Hyperfixation in Common Like Five Years Ago