you need to understand that i have two sets of headcanons. there's the set of realistic headcanons based on my genuine reading of the show, and then there's me playing pretend with my dolls.
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you need to understand that i have two sets of headcanons. there's the set of realistic headcanons based on my genuine reading of the show, and then there's me playing pretend with my dolls.
sometimes my Beloved Mutuals will rb a post about a certain character archetype and i will have to physically restrain myself from saying āyeah you would say that wouldnāt youā
jasper you donāt get to get away with this that easily.
new ask game: whatās the character archetype that makes you go āof course you would say thatā when i post about it?
ive invented (note: dubious claim) something i call the bear diet which is mostly fruits and vegetables with fish as the main protein source and something like once a month you eat a few hyperprocessed foods of your liking because that is when you, the bear, raid a dumpster in the suburbs
after the hyperprocessed foods, do you take tranquilizers to simulate getting captured by animal control and returned to the wild?
i would settle for melatonin gummies but well. knock yourself out
"Cutes" is an autological word
It's literally cutes...
i'm so happy i got to meet u <3
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So we all talk about being in fandoms for things that are charmingly bad, and being able to acknowledge that theyāre charmingly bad. But of course some people are in fandoms for things that are Actually Amazing. There are people out there who write fanfiction for The Best Science Fiction Novel Of The Twentieth Century. Or who draw fanart exclusively of The Best Movie of All Time. And there are even more people who are in fandoms for things that are Actually Pretty Good, which is not quite amazing but is closer to it than to Charmingly Bad.
And sometimes, you have a string of fandoms that are Actually Pretty Good. And the danger of thisāthe very great dangerāis that when you have a string of Actually Pretty Good and even Actually Amazing obsessions, you start to believe that maybe you have taste. Perhaps you are now immune to the indignities of losing it over something mostly bad.
And then it is shattering to discover that no, bad things can still stick a fork in your brain. š
So I understand why the ātransformative fandom gathers around things that are not good because there being a problem makes people desire to fix itā model is popular. I even agree that itās accurate in many if not most cases. However it is not what this post is about. Plenty of people do transformative and creative fandom activities for things that are very, very good. Simplified models do not encompass everything.
And frankly, itās starting to really get on my nerves when people read āI think this thing is good. I wouldnāt change a thing about it and frankly I donāt even think there should be more canon added to it, but I am still going to write thousands of words of fic, make a cosplay, and draw fanartā and then completely misunderstand and respond with āyes I agreeāI like things that are good too. But I never feel the transformative/creative fandom instinct for them because they are too good.ā
Some people do not feel it. Other people do. Stop misreading me to avoid having to adjust your mental model of how fandom works.
one of the ways a Canon work can be fandom bait is by missing something that fans want to fix, i.e. "it's bad", but i think this is only one way out of multiple that something can be fandom bait.
compelling worldbuilding (invites interaction with the setting)
interesting gimmick (see: daemons, drift compatibility. subcategory of compelling worldbuilding)
shipping bait (duh)
original character bait (in-universe categories/factions and design elements that make it fun for people to create their own characters)
compelling narrative (invites interaction and tweaks to the storyline: AUs and fixits and so on)
basically anything that invites interaction and recombination. but fandom also has a sort of multiplying effect: the larger the interactive audience of fandom is, the more likely it is to generate ideas and works that draw in more participants. so:
network effect (the larger the established fandom, the more likely it has subfandoms and infrastructure that appeals to niche audiences)
Yes this exactly, thank you bless.
Things that have space to play in are fandom bait, but space to play in does not equal holes.
How do I read every book
Do you guys think chronological order would be good
Naw you gotta start with cave painting narratives
Ohhhh you're right. I'm off to go look at drawings of horsies o7
Manipulative fake apologies
Some apologies amount to someone asking for permission to keep doing something bad.
These apologies generally shouldnāt be accepted.
(But it can be really hard not to, because who want permission to do bad things tend to lash out when they donāt get it.)
(If you have to accept a bad apology to protect yourself, itās not your fault.)
Eg:
Moe: āIām sorry, I know this is my privileged male opinion talking butā¦ā
Or, Moe: āIām sorry, I know Iām kind of a creeperā¦ā or āIām sorry, I know Iām standing too close butā¦ā
At this point, Sarah may feel pressured to say āItās ok.ā
If Sarah says, āActually, itās not ok. Please back offā or āYes, youāre mansplaining, please knock it offā, Moe is likely to get angry.
The thing is, itās not ok, and Moe has no intention of stopping.Ā
Moe is just apologizing in order to feel ok about doing something he knows is wrong.
Another example:
Sam is a wheelchair user. Heās trying to get through a door.
Mary sees him and decides that he needs help.
Mary rushes to open the door. As she does so, she says āOh, sorry, I know Iām supposed to ask firstā, with an expectant pause.Ā
At this point, Sam may feel pressured to say āItās okā, even if the āhelpā is unwanted and unhelpful.Ā
If Sam says, āYes, you should have asked first. Youāre in my way. Please moveā, Mary is likely to get angry and say āI was just trying to help!ā.
In this situation, Mary wasnāt really apologizing. She was asking Sam to give her permission to do something she knows is wrong.
More generally:
Fake Apologizer: *does something they know the other person will object to*.
Fake Apologizer: āOh, Iām sorry. I know Iām doing The Bad Thingā¦ā or āI guess youāre going to be mad if Iā¦ā
Fake Apologizer: *expectant pause*
The Target is then supposed to feel pressured to say something like āThatās okā, or āI know you mean wellā, or āYouāre a good person, so itās ok for you to do The Bad Thing.ā
If the Target doesnāt respond by giving the Fake Apologizer permission/validation, the Fake Apologizer will often lash out. This sometimes escalates in stages, along the lines of:
Fake Apologizer: I *said* I was sorry!
Fake Apologizer: *expectant pause*
The Target is then supposed to feel pressure to be grateful to the Fake Apologizer for apologizing, and then as a reward, give them permission to do The Bad Thing. (Or apologize for not letting them do The Bad Thing.)
If the Target doesnāt respond in the way the Fake Apologizer wants, they will often escalate to intense personal insults, or even overt threats, eg:
Fake Apologizer: I guess youāre just too bitter and broken inside to accept my good intentions. I hope you get the help you need. And/or:
Fake Apologizer: Ok, fine. Iāll never try to do anything for you ever again. And/or
Fake Apologizer: *storms off, and slams the door in a way that causes the person who refused their intrusive help to fall over*.
Tl;dr Sometimes what looks like an apology is really a manipulative demand for validation and permission to do something bad.
Dark stories, like horror, are at their best when there is a small amount of lightness and hope to counteract (and therefore enhance) the tension. The reverse is also true
is there specific ao3 tag for when a story has an ending where the misery is implied to continue. sad/unhappy ending implies it's a downturn, but in this case it's more that things get a little more complicated like stacking melodies/we see different facets of a gem but it's still the same main melody and gem and there's no conclusion or change so much as layers and then the story just stops where it stops. sort of slice of life but if it was evil and relentlessly bleak.
prev i think angst with no happy ending works quite well! thank you :D
is there specific ao3 tag for when a story has an ending where the misery is implied to continue. sad/unhappy ending implies it's a downturn, but in this case it's more that things get a little more complicated like stacking melodies/we see different facets of a gem but it's still the same main melody and gem and there's no conclusion or change so much as layers and then the story just stops where it stops. sort of slice of life but if it was evil and relentlessly bleak.
My emotions are so confusing to me. Feeling completely neutral emotions, and yet still wanting to cry, makes no sense to me.
Before I had a better grasp on what autism was, and how it affected me, this is how I'd explain how it felt like to be autistic. A ruler on a line, sliding between two worlds.
been laying down a lot lately. nothing to offer anyone anywhere. busy
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making a formal lists of rigid repetitive behaviors for my counselor and realizing. hm. there are a lot of things in my daily life that cause me a lot of low-level but plentiful distress which have also been going on for years. i see.