free yourself from the shackles of love.

i suggest aromanticism!

[i-suggest-aro]

REBRANDING:

since i already post about being aroallo on my main blog, i decided to do something else with this one. so, welcome, one and all, to

i-suggest-aro!

tired of relationship drama? don't wanna get married? wanna fuck with actually no strings attached? TRY AROMANTICISM! try it today! it'll be the best decision you ever make.

this blog is run by an aroallo. none of my posts will be about asexuality, this blog is not about asexuality. go somewhere else for that.

mod goes by it/its pronouns :3

edit: context for the new banner

[i-suggest-aro]

Hey, sorry to bother, I have a question

Is this only about being romance repulsed?

I remember (I could 100% be completely wrong here) the flag you have as a pfp being the romance repulsed aro flag, and I was wondering whether one could tag you in posts about aros but not necessarily about romance repulsion

(It's a genuine question, I hope it doesn't sound mocking, I'm honestly asking myself this)

not just about romance repulsion! i talk about that a lot because it's my experience, but non-repulsed aros are also 100% welcome to share their experiences! i don't specifically tag non-romance repulsed aromanticism, but just searching stuff like "romance favourable" or "romance neutral" should get you a few asks. hope this helps!!

[fishandshesmygills]

dating apps are embarrassing crushes in real life are embarrassing the only option left is to elope with a tumblr mutual

[sketchjay]

@i-suggest-aro

[i-suggest-aro]

there's always another option...

[i-suggest-aro]

on the topic of romantic consent. people saying “oh you like them don’t you” or just insisting you have romantic feelings for someone, I feel that breaches romantic consent. it especially sucks because if you say “no I don’t like them” people treat that as confirmation that you actually do and they try to force you into it. imagine doing that with sex. that’d be so fucked up. but since it’s romance it doesn’t matter, apparently

!!!!! EXACTLY

[thesilly-goose]

funny how many times you can say aromantic in a post specifically about aromanticism that is tagged with aromantic tags and STILL have people going “haha i love my ace frens” like okay awesome but who even mentioned asexuality

[i-suggest-aro]

the reason why i think so many alloromantic people outright refuse the idea of "aromantic subtext" being a legitimate thing is that people view aromanticism as inherently shallow. to a lot of queer fandomites, "aromantic" is what they make the side character they don't really care about, so they don't have to bother coming up with actual analysis of their interpersonal relationships. it sucks, because aromantic narratives in fiction, intentional or otherwise, are worth exploring, analysing, and appreciating.

[i-suggest-aro]

some radfem found my post again and tbh im amused that they just...instantly assumed i was a man. and this isn't even the first time someone's misgendered me in the process of trying to make a radfem point on my posts. weird phenomenon of radfems assuming Everyone is a man.

[i-suggest-aro]

today after lengthy debate I put aro4aro next to t4t in my fet profile 🔥🔥🔥

hell yes

[i-suggest-aro]

heyy i think i sent you a lengthy ramble about myself a couple weeks ago and was just wondering if tumblr ate my ask lol. no problem if you haven't gotten around to it or weren't comfortable answering, i just wanted to ask if i should resend. love the opinions and advice you share on this blog btw!!

i think it did come through, i get a lot of asks in that vein so i'm assuming it was one of them.

[i-suggest-aro]

How about fictional characters?

depending on how you look at it, wrestling personas count as fictional characters. but other than that, carpenter tsv, val tsv, both of the tridentarius twins, marta dyas, judith deuteros, camilla hect, philomena cunk.

[i-suggest-aro]

Do you have any celebrity smushes? What do you like most about them?

oh god yeah, so many. i guess i could say that my "type" is mostly men with long hair, alt women, anybody with piercings/tattoos/other body mods, etc etc. i do also find that a lot of my celebrity smushes have an unconventional look to them, i guess someone catching my attention is the first step to me realizing i'm sexually attracted to them. voice is also a big factor in my sexual attraction tbh, if someone has a recognizable or unique voice, that's a massive bonus.

specific examples of some of my celebrity smushes are like. mostly wrestlers lol. damian priest, alexa bliss, maxxine dupri, solo sikoa, trick williams, thea hail. but also markiplier, dana foote, hayley williams, jhariah clare, dev patel.

[i-suggest-aro]

ALSO SHILOH HILL. VERY IMPORTANT TO SAY, I'M ALSO INTO SHILOH HILL.

[butterflypeaflowertea]

ramadan mubarak everyone 💗

[butterflypeaflowertea]

and of course happy lunar new year, happy mardi gras, happy black history month, and a happy belated valentine’s day too. happy everything everybody 🩷

[i-suggest-aro]

and a happy aromantic spectrum awareness week too!

[i-suggest-aro]

Do you have any celebrity smushes? What do you like most about them?

oh god yeah, so many. i guess i could say that my "type" is mostly men with long hair, alt women, anybody with piercings/tattoos/other body mods, etc etc. i do also find that a lot of my celebrity smushes have an unconventional look to them, i guess someone catching my attention is the first step to me realizing i'm sexually attracted to them. voice is also a big factor in my sexual attraction tbh, if someone has a recognizable or unique voice, that's a massive bonus.

specific examples of some of my celebrity smushes are like. mostly wrestlers lol. damian priest, alexa bliss, maxxine dupri, solo sikoa, trick williams, thea hail. but also markiplier, dana foote, hayley williams, jhariah clare, dev patel.

[i-suggest-aro]

sorry if this is weird or too personal but ive been trying to figure out if im aroace or aroallo but all the things i see online of people discussing what sexual attraction feels like mix it in with romantic attraction (which i know i dont feel) so i dont have a clear picture of it at all. what does it feel like to be attracted to someone without any kind of additional romantic attraction? again sorry if this is too personal im just at my wits end here

for me, it really is as simple as "i'd like to engage in something sexual with that person". of course it's all subjective, and you should use whatever label feels more correct/useful to you

[i-suggest-aro]

i wanted to write this under a post but chickened out, so

thank you for introducing me to the concept of romantic consent. i never could find a word for it except for when it crosses over with coercion or just feels like something is wrong. my whole life i've been trying to be understanding of alloromantics as 'they can't control their feelings', and felt attacked when the same courtesy wasn't offered to me.

i got used to discussing romance, and learning norms of amatonormativity, and nodding along, and and and... it's freeing to find people who detest this kind of pressure the same as i do. thank you for running this blog

of course. i've had pretty much the exact same experience of just...being surrounded all my life by people who act like romance doesn't Need consent. it always made me viscerally uncomfortable, so i'm glad that now that i have the tools necessary to talk about this, other people seem to resonate.

[i-suggest-aro]

ok it's time to get controversial and brave again. i genuinely believe that tropes like characters getting set up on dates by their friends without their knowledge, fake dating where one party is hesitant or outright opposed but eventually catches feelings, the same except it's "friends with benefits to lovers" etc. should be considered (and labelled as) a form of dubious consent. completely okay to explore in fiction, HIGHLY questionable and often morally fucked to try and do in real life. "character a thinks they don't like character b but after being forced to spend time with them they catch feelings" should be considered on the same level of dubious consent as "character a thinks they don't want to have sex with character b but after getting coerced into it, they end up enjoying it". something that should ONLY happen in the realm of fiction, and when possible, should be EXPLICITLY LABELLED AS DUBIOUS CONSENT.

i get why sexual consent is always on the forefront of people's minds, i get that on some levels it IS more serious than romantic consent (i.e. having something physically done to you as opposed to being forced into something socially), but it honestly pisses me off that romantic harassment and coercion is treated as a cute trope and not like. a serious topic that, if explored in fiction, needs to be tagged properly. i'm tired of reading fics with what, to me, very clearly reads as dubcon or even non-con romance, and then not having the author tag it as that at all, acting like it's a light and fun topic and not something that can leave a person in real life with life long trauma.

[fynn-the-trans-elf-deactivated2]

Tag game!!!!

Do this picrew and make urself! (to the best of your ability. And maybe with some extra funsies stuff :3)

@a-dam-tris-prior-fan @i-put-the-hyper-in-hyperfixated @queensnowlake-wof @raynilikescats @justcallmedom31 @algae122 @leeotard + open tags :)

[rabbitmotifs]

tagged by @rhymingteelookatme to do this, ty <3

lightly (gently) tagging @socratesgirl @gnawdar @lesbianmarrow @corvids-corner @fightclubgayporn @webandofbuggered @all-seeing-ifer @marigoldbaker @average-acorn

[average-acorn]

I had forgot about this for a sec thank you for the tag holly!!

"what is that flag situation" IDONTKNOWW I like men in theory but haven't enjoyed talking to one since middle school let me die

Tagging with no pressure: @mean-lesbians @collectoroflovelythings @antigonefunnky @barrioghost @jack-fruit @jackknife-roach @chamsou-sabah @therealchickenjoe @thereweresunflowers @jupitersparx @iotaphora

[koresmeadow]

ty for the taaaag!!!

@roguecanoe @chocodaffodil @my-soul-stays-silent and whoever wanna be tagged :D

[my-soul-stays-silent]

I'm in front you get me hi

Also did the body on second thought because why not.

Tagging @thevoidisscreamingbackatyou @thebardslastnote @i-dont-even-noa @bloopdydooooo @dontcallmecanada and whoever wants to I am preoccupied :]

[thevoidisscreamingbackatyou]

cadu if thats u u look SO cool

ty for tag <33 np tag: @acaciaeyes @lizzylucky @sanfezu @jelliefishhhh @just-228-me @flowers-floating-in-space and anyone else who wants to since i forgot like half of yalls usernames im so sorry </333

[sanfezu]

Ahhh— thank you for the tag, Void!!

Blep :p

Anyone can join!

[stvreqm-saturn]

Since you said ANYONE, uhh here's me

Im much more attractive than this guys ya gotta trust 🙏

Since im pretty much friendless ima tag 2 people (i wanna get tagged somewhere lol no pressure)

@ne0n-ys and @angryartist7962

Also like i said im friendless on tumblr so anyone else can join too!

[ne0n-ys]

Since I’m tagged :) might as welll

@shakes-rambles @epicartnerd @endren1109

(I don’t have blue hair irl lol, although I do want to dye a part of it blue. I actually have temporary dye at home and use it on ‘special occasions’)

[shakes-rambles]

This was so much fun actually tysm for the tag!!!

Your turn @gwennivere11 (I finally got tagged by someone who wasn't you so I can actually tag you in this one!)

[im-just-gwen]

Thanks shakes!! Here's ya go @othellovr @bill2424 @narfthenoodle

[donnie-lover-7777]

Tysm for the tag, @gwennivere11 !!!!

This was SUPER fun to make!!

Ok, fine.

Imma dumb blonde

Happy?

Who's NEXT!?!?!

@sara-the-wizard @katiemaycreate @wisdom-gem @lanes-art @nacho-calamity @narfthenoodle @tmntzero @kzom18 @fantasydragon08 @fluffypill0w @jellyfishsketches @coloroflite @othellovr @opalzennasaphhire @abbielauren2024

And anyone else who'd like to join!!!

The LORD bless you!!!!

✝️🩷😳🫣

[katiemaycreate]

Ayo?!? This was so fun! Here I am! :D I love Picrew haha. Thanks for the tag @donnie-lover-7777!!!

I choose @chaospotato21 @cimmerian1275 @abbielauren2024 @angstsplatter @deadlyflan @eggbem @emma-the-artkid @hotflatwaffleyaps @in-the-eye-of-a-turtle @ineedseveretherapy @qoldenskies @radionyxx @reclusive-raven @twitchyglitchy @unjudgmentalnoob @wafflekidgirlboy @xxsherylberylxx and any one else who would like to join! :3

[new-age-angel]

woagh. doggything be upon ye TAG BOMB!!!!!!: @livingcarcass @loser-pet @xoxochb @lurkingandwrithing @did-i-get-enough-love @horrorfanfelix

[loser-pet]

the creechar :D (including the body’s appearance and my true form)

open tags!!

[magnolias-garden32]

is me!

@erin-c-dose-whatever @hyperfixation-station-2442 @what-is-my-aesthetic @i-suggest-aro @yourfaveisintersex @flickycore @yawneko @the-patchwork-girl-of-oz @traceyshortfilm @sl33pyloser

[i-suggest-aro]

woahh wait this is exciting, i've never been tagged in picrew chains AS i-suggest-aro before, yall really wanna put a face to the myth, huh? well who am i to deny the people!

everybody's always asking "who is i-suggest-aro?" yet nobody suspected...the humble fox thing

actually irl my hair is a shade like riiight between yellow and green, but that wasn't an option lol. and yes guys, i was so aroallo my hair turned into the flag, be careful! it could happen to you too!