"We have art in order not to die of the truth."

[the-courage-to-heal]

Disrespect also can take the form of idealizing you and putting you on a pedestal as a perfect woman or goddess, perhaps treating you like a piece of fine china. The man who worships you in this way is not seeing you; he is seeing his fantasy, and when you fail to live up to that image he may turn nasty. So there may not be much difference between the man who talks down to you and the one who elevates you; both are displaying a failure to respect you as a real human being and bode ill.

Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (via jolinxo)

[theheavycollective]

F R I D A Y - F R Y - U P  :  A R L E N E - G O T T F R I E D “From my window on New York City’s Lower East Side I could look out and see the Puerto Rican culture I encountered over 30 years earlier, around the same time I began photographing. One night I heard a street vendor on the corner of Avenue C and East 3rd Street calling, ‘bacalaitos and fireworks;’ bacalaitos, a fried cod fish indigenous to Puerto Rico, and fireworks, for the Fourth of July weekend. This juxtaposition became etched in my mind — representative of an immigrant population on the streets of America.” — Arlene Gottfried on her series Bacalaitos and Fireworks, documenting the wave of Puerto Rican immigration to America in 1970′s - 1980′s NY.  Arlene Gottfried’ Bacalaitos and Fireworks is now showing at Daniel Cooney Fine Art in New York, do what we can’t and go see it. Runs March 3 - April 16th, opening Reception: Thursday, March 3: 6 - 8pm / Arlene Gottfried in conversation with Paul Moakley (Deputy Director of Photography, TIME): Saturday, April 2 at 3pm. For more info visit - danielcooneyfineart.com

[thepowerofgrunge]

Pixies, 1990.

[theclassicsreader]

I shall not entirely Sit emptied of beauties, the gift Of your small breath, the drenched grass Smell of your sleeps, lilies, lilies.

Sylvia Plath, from “The Night Dances” (via theclassicsreader)

[10ssss]

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[femmenerd]

You know what is always gross - but especially in this context? - trying to police when, how & where a woman should smile.

[molliekatie]

If I had been abused, you bet your ass my girlfriends would have taken me out and tried to distract me and cheer me up and make me smile and laugh immediately after I told them what had transpired. I feel genuinely, deeply sorry for anyone who doesn’t have those kinds of friends. “The Smile Police” can go fuck themselves.

[sacheu-deactivated20200922]

This is really just saying if you come forward with abuse you better not be happy

[h0odrich]

the scare quotes around ‘physically abusive’

[womensliberationfront]

In the 1890s, when Freud was in the dawn of his career, he was struck by how many of his female patients were revealing childhood [sexual] victimization to him. Freud concluded that child sexual abuse was one of the major causes of emotional disturbances in adult women and wrote a brilliant and humane paper called “The Aetiology of Hysteria.” However, rather than receiving acclaim from his colleagues for his ground-breaking insights, Freud met with scorn. He was ridiculed for believing that men of excellent reputation (most of his patients came from upstanding homes) could be perpetrators of incest.Within a few years, Freud buckled under this heavy pressure and recanted his conclusions. In their place he proposed the “Oedipus complex,” which became the foundation of modern psychology… Freud used this construct to conclude that the episodes of abuse his clients had revealed to him had never taken place; they were simply fantasies of events the women had wished for… This construct started a hundred-year history in the mental health field of blaming victims for the abuse perpetrated on them and outright discrediting of women’s and children’s reports of mistreatment by men.

Lundy Bancroft (via proletarianprincess)

[iamapatientboy-blog]

Damn. Glendale and Eagle Rock got all the pinoy spots. That's what's up.

[krn-pear]

My last selfie from LA 😔

[iamapatientboy-blog]

You take it all away when you leave. The skies open up and suck the marrow from the earth. I limp through every day and night just to make way for the few days we get together. I'd do it for an eternity if I had to. I won't leave.

[iamapatientboy-blog]

Taking Victoria to the airport now. This part is the worst.

[iamapatientboy-blog]

I love dumplings more than life. And we got sauteed mustard greens and beef braised soup. So good.

[krn-pear]

“We’re dressed like we’re going to the gym, but we’re really going to eat,” - @iamapatientboy

[iamapatientboy-blog]

It paid off. Eating clothes are the wave of the future.

[iamapatientboy-blog]

Do you have short term memory loss? each of you? so you document everything ? :)

Actually, we both do, yes.

[iamapatientboy-blog]

I'm really fascinated by Victoria's makeup routine. It's such a skill. She's developed her craft. It's unreal. It's like watching a young Sandy Koufax paint the corner of the plate. She's a phenom.

[iamapatientboy-blog]

Victoria is too cool. I'm cool by association because she's so cool. I don't have friends and I forgot what it's like to be out in public and not be by myself. We're at Huntington Beach. It's pretty beautiful. I never come here anymore. Perhaps I'll learn to swim.

[krn-pear]

Semi-spontaneous trip to Chinatown, Olvera street, and the last bookstore today

[iamapatientboy-blog]

We didn't eat ourselves into a coma. We're maturing.