All you'll ever be is yourself, so don't settle for it

it/its, she/her, 20+, plural. A homage to someone much cleverer than us. I still mean it all though

[missstrogen]

It's tiring. Again and again, it seems that the only way that I, isff, or the concept of me, can ever exist is, either as a thing to slander, for people to show that they're Good by talking about how bad I am. From both "sides", I'm just a bad argument, a piece of discourse to talk about. We see harassers, blatant transmisogynists, talking about my numerous evils, and people that should be allies, congratulate themselves, talk about how bad it is to harass, while at the same time saying that was i said was indefensible, should not be defended, how these things were bad.

Too hard to condemn harassment without moral grandstanding ig.

And on the other hand, others impersonating me, taking for theirs what I am, what I built. Either because to "fix" what I am, what i was, or because they enjoyed it enough to warrant it. Making me a meme, a bit, a joke. And, idk, I'm a person. There's a special kind of pain for knowing that there are people that are more popular than I am, solely for copying who you are. It hurts, even if they mean well.

I just, wish I could exist. Wish I didn't have to deal with the harassers, the girls that desesperatly want to show they're one of the good ones, or the people wanting so badly to be me. I just wish I could exist.

[missstrogen]

Can people just like. stop pretending to be me please? stop being what I am. please. I just want to exist

[backfire-angel-deactivated20260]

is 2 mg NOT an adequate dose of estrogen? i mean i know it depends on body type and all that but every post about prescriptions being too low specifically calls out that number.

it is not, not going to claim any expertise here. but if you’ve been at 2mg for more than a few months you should find a way to increase that

[backfire-angel-deactivated20260]

if you’re taking a t blocker at this dose you’ll at least see results (slowly) and if you aren’t you will likely see almost no changes or like, agonizingly slow changes

[backfire-angel-deactivated20260]

what’s really most important to understand is that taking too large of a dose is mostly asymptom waste of money rather than any sort of health risk. at a certain point you are going to be pissing it away. just take 6-8mg oral and test your blood every few months. if you’re in the right range you’re doing good. do what works for you and don’t ever listen to a doctor

[backfire-angel-deactivated20260]

lastly. sooner or later someone is going to swear by injections and insist it’s the only way to do it. it’s not. if you’re squeamish about needles to the point that you can’t do an injection. just take the pills. they’re literally good. it’s fine. do what works.

[mousidy]

being a transgender woman is cool or whatever but let me be entirely honest with you it most often feels like a senselessly cruel cosmic joke

[mousidy]

like what else should I call a deep sense of unease with my own body, an inability to participate in and enjoy sex? what else would I call an inability to exist in public without scrutiny, what else would I call a deep and fundamental disconnect from a deeply gendered and cisnormative society full of constant reminders that I fit nowhere and am at best tolerated? what else would you call the creeping, sinking feeling of suspecting that loved ones see you less as a woman and more as some kind of thing outside gender (or worse, a man)?

glorifying the experience really is a matter of survival. I fucking hate it and so I have to find ways to love it. I find other trans women so radiantly beautiful, but what kind of consolation prize is beauty in the face of the burdens we carry? only among other trans women do I feel safe, natural, at home, and yet there are so precious few places just for us. love is truly the only way forward in the face of it all. love is not enough to make it all better, but I do it anyway because it's all we have. I love you trans women

[missstrogen]

This idea of "meeting a trans girl where she's at", of "never pushing her" kills girls, by the way. Ask me how I fucking know.

There is a horrible pressure put on trans girls to be normal, to not ask for things, to not do anything, to not exist. Without that pressure, that push forward, the girl dies.

When a girl tell you she is a girl, you cannot stop at milquetoast acceptance. You cannot stop at "I'll always support you no matter what" You need to be here for her, to help her, by making a safe environnement, and by actively helping her discover herself. When you stand here to "leave her space", you are about as helpful as a rock.

Too many girls need actual support. Not a one tile acknowledgement and a subject never again brought up. If she is expected, at every turn, to come forward, to make every step alone, that is a terrifying pressure you put on her, in the name of giving her space. You need to be here for her. actively.

Most new girls needs a push. If they don't get that, they won't ask for anything.

[psychotrenny]

The way people conceptualise child abuse as actions performed by degenerate outsiders, rather than the socially disapproved use of respected structural power, does so much ideological heavy lifting for patriarchy. It both absolves the power structure itself of its most egregious cruelties, provides as useful rhetorical bludgeon against anyone who doesn't conform and creates an external threat that justifies the existence of the power structure altogether. It's no wonder that many people with reactionary tendencies, even those who otherwise present themselves as "progressive", are so eager to defend such "external degeneracy" theories and blame trans women or furries or fucking Japanese animation for child molestation. It's one of patriarchy's strongest work horses, so they don't want it sent to the knackers

[hachama]

I've decided to use the term "convenience food" instead of "junk food."

I think it's more honest, and less loaded. It's all food, some of it is more appropriate when you don't have the spoons left for food prep. It takes slightly more energy to peel a banana than to open a bag of chips.

We try to save the convenience food for days when we need something easy, so eat a banana.

[hachama]

ENNH! WRONG ANSWER

All food fuels your body. If it contains calories, it is fuel. Some foods are denser fuels, some foods have nice additional benefits, but all foods fuel you.

Some foods are really good for building muscle, or supporting your bone health, or giving you energy. Some foods are really good at tasting nice. All of them fuel your body.

[cmtired]

Good food/bad food is just puritan dichotomous thinking in service of the Shame Industrial Complex- let's get those "should" hooks intob everything you enjoy.

Food is fuel. Your relationship with it is personal. Almost all dichotomies oversimplify beyond utility.

[willow-wanderings]

So, I had to do a bunch of therapy as a kid because I had anorexia. My dietician drilled into me "food has no moral value. there's no such thing as Good Food or Bad Food; if it's edible and you're not allergic to it, then it has a use in your diet, even if that use is just 'enjoy eating it'. Enjoyment is part of your diet and happiness is a vital nutrient." Basically, even if ice cream "isn't healthy," if it helps you feel better after a shitty day then it's fulfilling one of your basic needs: happiness. So eat the fucking ice cream and feel better. ENJOYMENT IS PART OF YOUR DIET AND HAPPINESS IS A NUTRIENT

[biggaybunny]

Trans women will literally feel comfortable near you and flop down on their side.

[biggaybunny]

Trans women will come up and sniff your hand and eat a piece of lettuce or perhaps fruit out of your hand if you’re patient.

[biggaybunny]

Trans women are mostly crepuscular and enjoy having secluded areas to rest in during the day

[biggaybunny]

However trans women will chew on your wires if you let them.

[angelicsister-deactivated202602]

Hey um someone reblogged a convo you had with someone else and the kindness and care you extended to her made me cry. Thank you

awawa, sending you many hugs dear <3 it's truly the least i can do, being their for our sisters is what it's all about. i've had several people tell me they were touched by that conversation now and i hope it not only touches but inspires you to do the same. together we can make life just a little bit easier for each other!

[secondestroggestion]

Nothing will stop me from finding girls who need help. Don't let anything stop you, either.

[butchfagminotaur]

egg discourse is crazy because in what universe do “feminine guys being pressured into being women” outnumber “trans women who are too scared to admit to themself they’re trans”

like how many transfems have to come on here and talk about how they wish they had known sooner that being a woman was an option and something they were allowed to do so they could have saved years of suffering for y’all to get it???

honestly every trans woman who gets to live her best and happiest life even a little bit sooner is worth a thousand mildly uncomfortable feminine cis guys who just have to say “hm i don’t think that’s right for me but thanks for the suggestion”

[transistorlover]

Forcefem is a fight I intend to win. I dream of a beautiful world where we stop telling women they have to be men. Shoving us into closets, binding our expression. It is always "let men be feminine" and it is never "let trans women be women".

It is "I was born a woman and I identify as a transgender woman because I have body hair" and then people accuse transgender women of enforcing cruel gender standards. Forcefem is a fight I will win against AFAB trans women

Men feel threatened when less than half the room but more than one individual is a woman, men see women present and start to feel men are being pushed away because to be a man is inseperable from the power relations of the patriarchy. Forcefem is a fight I will win against such emotionally fragile attitudes. Forcefem is a fight I will win to protect the transgender women who find herselves at the receiving end of violence, abuse and socially ostracised because men think we are over-represented. Forcem is a fight against so-called mens rights activists

Most importantly, forcefem is not a fight I will win without centering the protection and love of transgender women. Oppressors must be stood up to, oppressors can be fought against. But my ultimate goal is to lock arms in solidarity, to hold and encourage you. To be there when people push you down, and hopefully to be held and supported by you too

[missstrogen]

Remeber that you're not too old to be happy. Remember that you're not too ugly to be yourself. Remember that you're not too manly to change yourself. Remember that you can always be a girl.

[analogdelight]

forcefem isn't even a kink to me. it's not sexual at all. the world needs more girls, needs people telling girls that it's good and okay to be girls. making more girls is a moral imperative.

[analogdelight]

to me, "forcefem" is a thin veneer. letting someone else take the pressure away. take the shame and the discomfort that society foists on you for wanting, needing, to be a girl. it can be easier to start when someone else is making the decision for you. but the desire comes from within.

[analogdelight]

i think, for a lot of girls (including myself), the idea of needing to make it happen for yourself is terrifying. it's exhausting. it feels like a one-way ticket to a life as a social outcast at best, and being demonized or left for dead in a ditch at worst.

giving that power to someone else, even as a joke, even just for a bit, even just to start, might make it easier at all. and anything i can do, anything we can do for our sisters, is beautiful and necessary.

[idemandforcefemme]

The next stop in forcefem is, of course, forceplural. More girls per girl.

[sapphire----art]

the matrix (1999) is a film about how transmisogyny controls every aspect of society and anyone who isn't actively working to dismantle it can and will fight to protect the status quo. and sometimes even those you thought you could trust will physically hurt you

[sapphire----art]

everyone go watch the matrix (1999) through a transfeminist lens NOW!🫵

[juney-blues]

child abuse is done by a monstrous group of outsiders. They are all moustache-twirlingly evil and love nothing more than causing suffering to the Innocent for its own sake. No one you know could be capable of such a monstrous act, so you don't have to worry about it.

You don't have to think about how society is structured in ways that give people power and authority over children in ways that can be abused, that's not the problem here. The problem is the Evil Monsters, who regardless of what you do will try their damnedest to Abuse Children. The only preventative measure worth taking is killing these people as violently as possible, and if you don't performatively make a show over how much you hate this totally real group of outsiders, you must be one of them, and you're almost certainly going to abuse children yourself.

This is a totally useful framing for this topic, if you disagree with any of this you're a monster and should be killed.

[juney-blues]

hey weird how minorities always happen to be the ones accused of being ontologically evil rapist sex pests. i'm sure it's nothing.

[isuggesttransition]

Aren't you tired of the aching? Aren't you tired of the pretending? Don't you think it's time you just let yourself be a girl?