This is by the Mincing Mockingbird guy (of “I’d sell you to satan for one corn chip” and “The risk I took was calculated, but man, am I bad at math” fame) and you can buy them here
No seriously - stop. You can do way better than that. You can do better than implementing an overused garbage trope that continues to insinuate that ugly people are evil.
What people call “adulting” these days — chores, errands, personal finance, bureaucracy & taxes — is hard for a lot of people, and we’re all vaguely embarrassed about it. We feel like it should be trivial. We rely heavily on technology that makes it easier, and wonder how past generations managed.
For some things, I think it genuinely used to be easier. Back when corporate employment was more paternalistic, the company did a lot of the “adulting” for you. Planning a vacation? You didn’t have Travelocity, but the company did have a travel agent.
Notice how a lot of “adulting” has to be done during working hours? When you’re kind of stealing time from work to do it? How are you *supposed* to do it? I think the answer is “that’s your wife’s job.”
But isn’t this kind of hard for your wife too? Like, it’s hard to go to the bank if you’re dragging a couple of screaming kids, right?
First of all, this only works if the kids are in school most of the day. Second of all, it used to be a lot more normal to have *servants*. Third of all, you can squeeze more work out of people if they feel they *must*, and sexism is great at that.
The 20th century system was never set up to allow a person to work full time *and* do all the chores necessary for a decent life on his/her own. Weird “millennial” ways of filling in the gaps — roommates, software apps, cleaning/laundry services, company perks — are substitutes for old solutions like non-wage-employed family members, servants, government services, and company perks. Sometimes better solutions, sometimes worse, sometimes exactly the same thing under a different name. But the fact that “adulting” is time-consuming and sometimes difficult isn’t a result of some inherent moral turpitude in Millennials. Chores have *always* taken time.
isn’t it disgusting how american society only expects people to grieve for a few days until returning back to their everyday lives? that we should either overcome or repress our trauma of losing a loved one before the week is over with?
Same with names. Don’t refuse to call someone by their preferred name because they’re changing it often. They’re finding what they like and what they’re comfortable with. Don’t be an asshole.
Making abortion illegal is gonna lead to a lot of child abuse/ neglect…there’s too many kids in the foster care system as is as well as too many mothers who’re resentful of the fact they became mothers in the first place. If we have these problems now imagine how much worse it’ll be if access to safe abortion without legal repercussion is denied. Like have y’all seen some of these toxic mother/ foster care threads online? The shit people have experienced in both situations is horrifying
Foster kids barely have access to good homes or low income housing as it is which is CRUCIAL when your goal is independance (which it is for a LOT of kids in abusive homes with no better options). Like imagine you turn 21 and your parents kicked you out, would you have a job capable of affording rent, groceries, furniture, transportation, health coverage, a $400 emergency expense, etc.?
Usually the answer is no. I know from personal experience that this just isn’t possible for a lot of young foster kids. Some state laws are raising the age-out limit which means we can be on E.T.P.s (extension of care) for longer periods of time while waiting for housing and trying to get a job. Not even a decent one, just a job-and we are still facing a high posibility of homelessness. A lot of New York City kids in foster care end up having children of their own just to qualify for for 1 bedroom or 2 bedroom apartments in NYCHA because as a single person you only qualify for studios which are pretty scarce. Section 8 was closed to the public in order to save money & the only qualifying people are foster kids, veterans, and domestic violence cases (which for a long time we were irresponsably left uninformed. Seriously, most of my agency wasn’t even aware until a YEAR after the fact and it’s their jobs to know).
Some of you may even be aware of how Ben Carson, the United States Secratary of Housing and Urban Development, has a reputation of doing everything to save money when it comes to Housing and Urban development, which is not the 1st goal you should have when you’re given a budget of $44.1 Billion to help “end prevent/homelessness”
Yet insists on spending $5,000 on a chair and $31,000 on his fucking dining room set FROM SAID HUD BUDGET:
This is what vulnerable foster kids have to rely on.
While, and i can tell you 100% from personal experiences that this is true, the HUD Section 8 that was just released is only projected by ACS officials to be funded for only 3 years max because while I was putting in my application-being required to submit my checking and savings, among the regular documents and a signed letter stating that my deposits are real-the woman who was helping me told me what to expect because thatxs what she was breifed on by an HUD official. Since last year, no regular Section 8 vouchers have been approved, I’ve been on the NYCHA waiting list for 5 years with the highest priority, and every single housing program available to foster kids is congested and underfunded. I beleive that if foster kids were eligible for 1 bedrooms there would be no incentive for these young men & women to prematurely have children in order to avoid homelessness and I’m asking that you call NYC’s related departments and let them know as well.
Please call & write these numbers and request the foster kids be eligible for 1 bedroom apartments without having to have children of their own to boost their likelyhood of obtaining an apartment and avoiding homelessness & abuse.
New York’s U.N. dept. Of Housing & Urban Dev. #:
+1( 212) 264-8000
Contact 311:
311 is available online, by texting 311-692, or by calling 3-1-1 from within the City or 212-NEW-YORK outside the five boroughs. TTY service is also available by dialing 212-504-4115.
My name is ——-. I’m a foster kid/concerned citizen, and have been in Out of Home Care for a while. I would like to request that NYCHA consider enabling foster kids to qualify for 1 bedroom apartments without requiring the birth or presence of a child due to the scarcity of studio apartments and the risk of harming our/their ability to obtain true independance and stability. Many foster kids come from unstable backgrounds and cannot afford the risk to our workplace availability or undertaking such a responsability to boost their odds of obtaining housing out of desperation to keep themselves from homelessness. Thank you for your time.
Conversely in terms of supporting ethical Gov’t spending on HUD (even in your home state):
Greetings,
It has come to my attention that many of our housing programs are underfunded and congested. As a constituant/citizen I’m fully supportive of our governments efforts to help prevent and end homelessness and would like to make it clear that these programs are absolutely necessary and would like for our government to fully ethically invest in these programs and efforts. Thank you for your time.
i think ppl would be a lot happier and better-adjusted on here if they realized that being online on a website is like being in any other casual public space full of people. if u walk into walmart u dont immediately think to yourself “i have to be friends with everyone in this walmart and if not everyone likes me i’m a failure” and u really shouldn’t feel that way online either. likewise if there’s a guy in the walmart parking lot shouting obscenities u probably wouldn’t answer him and that’s literally an exact equivalent to some of the weird stuff that people on here seem to feel they’re obligated to respond to.
Don’t feed the past. Everytime something shows up in your reality that is no longer in alignment with who you are and where you are going, kick it out. Do not engage or give it anymore of your energy, starve what you do not want to grow.
A video of a little Black girl (allegedly adopted or a foster child) that was taken outside in the cold with just a diaper on in Philly has been circulating recently. A Black man was exposing her for her abuse of the child being barely dressed while the other children that were in tow were fully clothed in coats fitting for the cold weather.
Now I wanna say right now he’s not wrong, and I wanna talk abt this how this small peek into foster care and abuse is not just limited to interracial adoption or fostering and how these issues are never given their full scope of exposure or conversation.
I will see, time after time, in arguments or debates concerning abortion or America’s current actions toward immigration that people will casually bring up foster care abuse and once an argument is “won” that issue is dropped. I never hear or see any more in depth exposure to these issues beyond ammunition to shut someone down on one issue or another. I never have the pleasure of seeing a full post dedicated to these issues or god forbid how to solve them or where to help.
I wanna say that what happens in this video-abuse- is not a rare injustice nor is it particular to this type of interracial adoption/fostering. It’s a wide spread, common issue, and white people aren’t the only perpetrators of this abuse, although it should be considered heavily relevant to her case. Whatever a foster guardian’s background is, it doesn’t and hasn’t stopped them from abusing foster children or adoptees financially, emotionally, sexually, or physically.
When I talk to other foster kids do you know what I hear? That my experiences aren’t rare or in many cases dissimilar to theirs. They are deprived of food, like I was in nearly every single one of the homes I was in. They are berrated, and threatened with displacement-forced to move from home to home if they don’t put up with their foster guardian’s abuse. We get older (16+) and rely heavily on our jobs to provide us with food, keep our phones on, wash our clothes and to KEEP us clothed. All of which falls on our foster guardians to do, that is explicitly THEIR responsability by law with an exemtption of our phones. When we are moved, we could go anywhere-have a job in Brooklyn and all of the sudden be moved to Yonkers. I hope I don’t have to explain to you why being moved is sometimes debilitating aside from mentally and emotionaly exhausting, on top of the fact that these people will sometimes scavenge the few (relatively) valuable items we have including shoes, clothes, emergency phones, laptops, jewelry, etc.
The law and Foster Agencies often give these people as much power and slack they need to co tinue doing this. If multiple children are removed from their homes due an issue, the foster guardian’s words almost ALWAYS take precedent over the child’s accounts unless there are police reports or video evidence of these people puting their hands on us or depriving us of food.
I’m not even close to joking. You could literally try to tell your social workers that you’ve been abused and depending on the level of abuse THEY determine you received, they will normally just move you and put another foster kid in your place, almost always going through the same experiences that you have. There is next to no accountability. The only thing going on in many cases is thinly veild security theatre.
I’ve been in Jamaican homes, Afro American homes, Puerto Rican homes, Guyanese, Dominican, etc. AND THE STORY IS THE SAME. Almost always. This goes far beyond a flaw. It’s systemic. And it’s outta hand.
And I need you to talk about this shit outside of a video, a like, outside of a petty, passing remark in an argument, and broaden your view.
Children in Out of Home Care & Abuse:
Presents sources of data on the abuse and neglect of children in foster care and other out-of-home care settings, such as residential or ins
Foster Children & homelessness:
51 Useful Aging Out of Foster Care Statistics | Social Race Media Some children don’t have loving homes that they can call their own. For
Ask anyone in child welfare about foster youth aging out of the foster care system and you’re sure to hear about everything from high rate
rich people are unironically like “poor people can save money easily bc a box of oatmeal and a box of a crackers is only $3 and that can last you a week” like they genuinely want poor people to live like peasants
Best case scenario: “Emotiv discovered what kind of stimuli and work environment you’re most comfortable in and can help you reach the best state of mind and get the most and highest quality work done.”
Most likely scenario: “Emotiv recorded you thinking about something other than work for longer than 20 seconds so it automatically deducted a dollar off your next paycheck.”
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