i feel your feels ,

i'm here to dish out the best advice possible to those who need it -or to simply lend an ear. feel free to ask me anything, or vent about whatever you need to get off your chest. i'm here to answer you, and lend and ear. go for it. (:

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hi. today is the first day ive noticed ive been having mood swings. I looked into depression and i show all the symptoms for an older sibling with depression. what do i do?

i've been there. there was one point where i was so deep in depression... it was like i was six feet under with no way out. i was once on medication for depression when i was 15. don't do medication, whatever you do. it makes it worse. and at least for me, there was a few times where i blacked out. the best medication you can get to help pull through this depression is a kitten. i know it may sound silly, but without ajax in my life... fuck, i don't know what i'd do. whenever i feel even a hint of depression, i just snuggle up to him for a few minutes and then i feel much better. from my experience, pets heal what medicine and what others cannot heal. so if you can, get yourself a kitten (or a puppy, a hamster, or a bird) if you can. if you can't, talk to your best friend. and when i say talk, i mean talk to them about your feelings. that's really all i can say. <3 i hope that helps.

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well, now that comcast has gotten their shit straight and i have internet again... feel free to ask me stuff. :)

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college crush

I like this guy, and I thought that maybe he was interested too. Last semester, he was in a class of mine (I'm in college). He talked to me after class one day because I had made eye contact with him and smiled. He's in another class of mine this semester, but he has a lot of friends in the class, so I'm too intimidated to do anything since he has a lot of friends in the lecture and I don’t. I've talked to him only once after class (after an exam), but he was with another friend that I talked to too. He's frat boy , and has >1500 fb friends. I sent him a friend request, but he hasn't confirmed me and it's been more than 2 weeks He's obviously not that picky with his fb friends if he has 1000 more than I do. I also sent him a purely academic fb message asking him something about the class, and he hasn’t responded to the message either. I know he's been online b/c he's confirmed other friends. In the beginning of the semester, he always looked back at me in lecture, but I was too scared to look back. He's always really sweet when I talk to him, but is he not interested or have I just not sent right signals? Idk what I should do about the situation. Should I pursue it further or is he not interested? I know I haven’t given any signals of my interest in person, but I have friended him on fb and sent him a message. Thanks :)

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it sounds like you guys haven't talked much, and maybe that's the reason he hasn't yet added you on fb? as for the message... guys are weird, and complicated -much like us, women. you can never really understand why we do what we do unless you confront us about it, and even then we could be lying just to not hurt your feelings. if you know what i mean. though, you never know if you don't ask about it. but in all honesty, i think you're sending the wrong signals to him. if he looks back at you in lecture, instead of being too scared to not look back, force yourself to meet his eye contact, and smile. some guys get the wrong impression if they look back at you, and you don't meet eye contact. be more assertive. shy is cute, but if you like the guy... then be assertive. let it be known. i hate to say it, but being shy gets you nowhere. and next thing you know, he has a girlfriend that could have been you had you pulled out of your shy corner. just, be more assertive (but not too assertive, jeez. hahaha). meet his eye contact, smile, don't be afraid to ask him up front if you can talk to him. ask him to hang out, if you really like him. maybe he'll get the hint. (guys can be idiots, though...)  but i'd ask him about the fb thing, just be like "i added you on facebook... you haven't added me back, what's the hold up?" if he says or claims that he hasn't noticed it... or something to that extent then he's a douchebag. and for the message, maybe he wasn't sure how to answer? men are a mystery. i hope this helps, even if it helps just a little. :) <3

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best friends?

Okay.I need advice.I've been going out with my best friend's ex for two going on three years.Yes my friend knows.at first(though i think she still does)she had a problem with it. I could honestly tell you she was upset.But she had never said that she had feelings for him, she had dated him sophomore year so it had been two years since they had dated when we started dating, she had dated other guys after him, and not to mention she didn't even really like (let's call him J) J when they were dating she liked some other guy. Anyways... when i did ask her if she minded if i went out with J she said no that it was fine..but she was upset i can tell i'm not an idiot i've known her for 8 years. so i kept asking her if she was sure...i asked other people including her sister and her sister even seemed kind of upset and confused.saying that i had only said i had a crush on J which is true...but when i say crush...i actually mean like.She (my best friend)finally texted me later on that day saying to stop thinking she was mad at me that she wasn't and that she's okay with me dating J as long as it made me happy. So we all moved on...obviously i mean it's been almost three years.

Um but i'm beginning to think that she doesn't consider me her best friend(if she even considered me her friend in the first place)... i mean like on facebook she post pictures of all her friends including another friend we hang out with...but i'm not in any of those pictures...it's as if i don't exist in a way. We still hang out...we hang out in a group her and her sister and Dee (our other friend), and three other guys including J. We see each other basically once a week.Heck she even has pictures of my boyfriend and i'm not in there! I understand i did wrong i understand i should have asked for her permission to go out with J. I know i broke the Girl Code..you know to never go out with your best friend's ex...but she's gone out with my ex(yes she asked for my permission which i believed was ridiculous because i didn't mind one bit) I really don't like confrontation with anybody especially my friends...but it really hurts that she's like this... or is it just me?

Btw sorry for the long story.

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i think at first it didn't bother her because she didn't think you two were going to last as long as you have. and i'm pretty sure as the years went by (seeing as it's almost 3 years), she's gotten jealous. because you have something she could have had. instead, she chose to give it up. it's almost like two kids and a toy. the second kid 1 gives the toy to kid 2 and sees kid 2 having a grand time with the toy then kid 1 gets jealous, throws a fit, and wants that toy back. it reminds me of that kind of thing with these situations.

she's just throwing a fit because if she can't have her toy (J) then nobody can. and she'd rather have nobody have him rather than see you have him, i'm sure of that. basically, she's being a bitch. the last thing two best friends should be fighting over is a guy. if any of my close friends wanted to date one of my exes, i'd support them. exes are exes for a reason or reasons anyways. and if an ex makes your closest friend happy in life, then jump on the support boat. and your friend certainly hasn't jumped on the support boat, at all. it sounds like she's trying to make you miserable, because her jealous bitch ass can't stand the two of you being happy together. if i were you, i'd confront her ass. tell her that you're sick of the way she's treating you -and if she can't be supportive of you and J, then i'd leave her ass. because a best friend is just that. i don't care if girl code is broken or not. best friends are there to FORGIVE, and SUPPORT no matter what. my advice? go find a real best friend, because darling, she isn't being one.

i wish you and J the best of luck. <3 be happy! :)

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Dreams are worth chasing after

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I live in overseas and have three months until i leave and go to a new country. I have been dating this boy for a couple of weeks now, and we have been friends for about a year.. But a couple of days ago my ex, who i have dated on and off for about two years asked me to break up with him and spend my last months with him .. We have a lot in common which i dont have with my current boyfriend .. but they are both slight players.. I dont know how to choose. Can you help?

i do have to point out that exes are exes for a reason, or reasons at that. you have to be careful about these types of situations. the boy you've been dating has been your friend for about a year now. do you intend to do a long distance relationship with him? if not, i'm guessing you two are planning on breaking up? what are your plans with your current boyfriend? what are his plans? i know that doesn't help, but i'd talk it out with him and if you two do decide you're going to be seeing different people, and remain just friends... then if you really want to spend your last months with your ex then go for it. but i'd talk to your boyfriend first about what you two are going to do with your relationship. that way, feelings don't get hurt. i hope that helps, and wish you the best.

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ugh. this may be very confusing. but i secretly HATE my bestfriend. i mean I LOVE hanging out with her and stuff. But everything she does annoys the shit out of me!! idk what i'd do without her! but i sersioulsy fucking hate her!!! am i the only one that feels this way about their bff?

that's not confusing at all. i felt the same way about one of my best friends. i loved her to death, but at the same time i couldn't stand her because she was just... such a bitch. we're no longer best friends, needless to say. but trust me, i doubt you're the only one. and i know how you feel on that.

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Social psychology textbook"discovering that an appealing someone really likes you seems to awaken romantic feelings. Experiments confirm it: those told that certain others like or admire them usually feel a reciprocal affection." i read this from a social psychology textbook. What do you think?

i think it would awaken lustful feelings, not romantic feelings. we all have a desire to be admired, and liked. so when we find out that someone does like us, or admire us, then of course we're going to feel some sort of mutual affection (especially if we find them to be appealing) but i highly doubt it would arise romantic feelings. lustful? yes. romantic? no. romantic feelings are based off more than someone appealing telling you they like you.

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[shewhocreates]

If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain.

 Emily Dickinson

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I need a little bit of advice about my future.. So, for a long time, i've based everything around what i want to do in my future. i've been so determined about being a Zoologist and going overseas to volunteer, but now i'm scared that i'm going to fail. maybe that isn't what i'm meant to do? .. hmmm.. Do you have any advice on what to do? It's probably not an easy thing to give advice on. Thank you for listening at the least. :)

i feel like the closer we get to our dreams, the more that fear of failing consumes us. it's understandable, and perfectly normal. especially when you've set your life up for a lifelong dream. yours being a Zoologist and going overseas. i've wanted one thing since i was 7 years old, that was and still is to train/work with [thoroughbred] horses. i'm still chasing. if this is your dream, and something you've loved from the start... you chased after it, and now it's in the palm of your hand, right? so why let that go? especially after you chased it for so long? don't let that fear of failing get in your way. especially if this is something that is going to make you happy. i hope that helps, hun. <3 good luck!