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It hasnt been in a day but throughout the past few months. 1 of the girl always brought me down , made constant comparisons and always treated me like a competition so thats that , the second one was my bestfriend and i distanced myself from her cause she didnt have my back when the girl was making comparisons cause she didnt want to be ‘invovlved’’

Well then there you go. Don’t be involved then.Go get you a rider lol

The thing is i’ve been bestfriends with her for nearly a decade and as much as i’ve tried being understanding and thinking how shes close to her too (i introduced them btw) and trying to not let my jealousy interfere i can’t help it but think what shes doing is somewhat wrong ? Idk ? Am i overanalyzing ? When i ask her on why she didnt cut her off she tells me shes her friend too and how that chick has no other friends so she feels sorry for her

See, personally, I would feel betrayed and fall back. In my opinion, she picked her side 🤷🏼‍♀️I’d feel shitty about it but if we’re “BFF” you supposed to be riding with me just like I would ride for you had the roles been reversed 🤷🏼‍♀️

How do you deal with broken friendships ? I’ve had 3 failed friendships today and deep down i know its not entirely my fault i cant help but feel self conscious and feel like im incapable of having friends , even though i have other ones

Well you must feel like you contributed a large enough part to the death of the friendships for you to carry that weight.If you lost 3 friends in one day I’m assuming it’s over the same thing and these 3 girls are/were all friends as well.Those situations can be cliquey.It’s difficult for me to navigate my response to this one as I don’t know what happened, I’m sorry. But if you have other friends you clearly are friendable! Lol

Say you and your bff got really close to this giirl and friends and for some reason later down the line this girl starts making snarky comments at you , lowkey shading you and starts making comparisons between you and her, and starts bragging about how shes much closer to your bff than you then you finally cut her off but your bff refuses cause she says that shes close to her too and regardless of everything shes done to you that girl is still her friend. How would u react ? Would u drop ur bff

Seems like your BFF has split loyalties and honestly pressuring her not to be friends with the other girl at this point knowing that will probably only push her closer to the other chick.Try slowly making new friends or hanging out with other ones. Build other relationships. If BFF still wants to be in your life she’ll reach out, call, try to make plans, etc. If she doesn’t.. you have other friends now 🙃

You know what anxiety feels like?

I feel discriminated against.Why would you think I don’t?

How do i fight fear

I mean... depends on what you’re afraid of.Fear is there for a reason a lot of the time. Don’t go stick your hand is an electric saw or something... (be afraid of being stupid lmao)But if you’re afraid of something like pursuing something or someone you really need to know it’s all in you and your head. You are capable of whatever you think you are capable of.Don’t be held back by the fear of what other people may think. When you’re 90 looking back at your life you’re either gonna laugh at the risks you took trying things or cry that you never tried at all.

My boyfriend used to be a Thot , he hasn’t been in a serious relationship in 6 years but he’s slept around a lot. He treats me amazing but I can’t help think about all the girls he’s been with Are completely different ethnicities than me and look so different than me. I hate feeeling insecure but I just can’t help think about that

Can’t really condemn him for his sexual past if he was single and is clean. I mean... he wasn’t with you. It’s unfair. In regards to the different ethnicity thing I totally get it. How can you be his type when someone who looks completely differently than you is his type?But keep in mind we are not what we look like. Maybe every woman he’s been with he was attracted to past their looks. Maybe he has a certain personality type?Maybe you’re the only one who possesses that personality type which is why he’s settled down with you.From my experience with some real thotmen, they’ll stick their dick in anything that has a vagina.

Have you ever died your hair red

A couple of times lol.My hair was black and red at one point smh (and I tried to do it myself lmao)

In late 2015 my ex broke up with me...Most imes I feel like I've moved on ...but sometimes I feel like I never fully healed. And our past can really come to affect me...he has moved on now and has a girlfriend where everything seems to be going great but something inside of me feels this sort of jealousy, that they got to stages in their relationship we never got the chance to. He didn't really prioritize me and I didn't feel like he truly loved me, but maybe he did , idk why it's messing w me:/

First off, nothing is ever exactly how it seems. We don’t advertise our negative moments (well... some of us do lol but even then that’s usually when someone “snaps”).2015 was a long time ago. Y’all haven’t been together in three years. Imagine how many experiences you have both gone and GROWN through in that amount of time. You guys are different versions of yourself now. Perhaps he wasn’t (maybe even you weren’t) ready to experience those things together. Maybe there were roadblocks in your relationship that you couldn’t make it past to get there.Nevertheless, you shouldn’t dwell on it. How are your hands to be open for the future if you’re still holding on to the past? Don’t be scared to be on your own!

What is your diet? How do u keep your skin glowing? Beautiful glowing face and nice body?

I’ve been eating like trash lately so I honestly have no productive answer for this question smh

I just finished watching it and im soo emotional ughhh how do i get over this feeling

LMAO

If that’s the most pressing matter on your emotions ya life sweeeeeet!

Honestly, gotta find another show.

The office is great for comedy. Hey humour but I absolutely love it.

Other random shows I've enjoyed:

Scandal

How to get away with murder

Star

Designated Survivor

The good wife

Lost (although a couple seasons drag on)

a typical

suits

shows I have yet to finish:

Homeland

vampire diaries

once upon a time

can’t think right now lol

Did you ever watch ‘friends’ ?

Every. Single. Night.

Apparently I’m Monica lmao

How do you live in the moment and not wallow in the past ?

Got to keep busy I guess.

Keep your brain so busy you don't have the capacity to store whatever It is that will have you wallowing.

Do you think college is meant to be the most amazing time of our life

I think you guys are focusing too much on how college is “supposed to be” and not allowing yourself to actually experience it because your experience isn’t living up to what you expected it to be based off of outside influences.

Stop thinking about how it’s supposed to be and let it be!

Keep in mind people either argue college is either/or ONE side of the spectrum.

It was either great or terrible.. Allow yours the advantage of a “clean slate” so it can be whatever YOU define and want it to be.

Part 2: I feel like a bad person for feeling this way because she’s never been unloyal to me. But I do find myself more comfortable around other people. It’s the oddest thing. And idk what to do 😞

People grow apart.

There’s nothing wrong with that. Just don’t make it an issue. Do the things you DO want to do with the people you want to do it with. If she wants to tag along cool (or not, depends on you) but maybe she’ll figure out she's not doing what SHE wants to do (otherwise y'all would be sympatico, no?)

Ugh 🤦🏾‍♀️🙄 girl. It’s like I always find myself attracting the wrong people. Friends, men, etc. it’s my kind nature. I’m also a good listener and I love to help people. And I’m very affectionate. But I can’t help it. This is how God made me. But I’m starting to feel like its getting me nowhere. I feel like I have to change myself. I’m always on the short end of the stick and I am TIRED of it. I’m tired of being used and abused. Can you relate? 😞

I def can. Especially with friends using me. Has happened to me with majority of my friends lmao.

I just drop them once its indisputable, spend some time alone, then bump into someone who gives me faith in trying again.

I believe it begins within, though.

I know that I don’t know myself completely/allow myself to be my authentic self due to past trauma and all that. I know it holds me back and I’m working on it :)

Hopefully that helps you too!

My best friend of 10 years broke off our friendship today because she claims she spoke to the "lord" and heard the "holy spirit" out loud and he told her to part from me....i'm shocked and broken over it. Mind you this was my most consistent friendship and we've been nothing but kind to each other... never any conflict and then she dropped this because shes been trying to convert me for sometime and I told her i'm still on my spiritual journey. Thoughts?

That goes to show you how conditional “feelings” are.

I personally believe you should take it as a life lesson and be more careful with people. It’s very, very sad that your friend was unable to take responsibility for her decisions.

Religionism is just as bad as racism and it was very unfair (and should be frowned upon) that your friend condemned you simply because you chose to explore your own faith/spiritualism as opposed to letting someone attempt to influence you to choose or pick one for you.

Good job for showing up for yourself, most of us suck at that.

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