This has come to my attention recently too, as a genderfluid person. Genderfluid, agender, genderqueer….they were all terms I was familiar with, some even before the term nonbinary.
I saw and met genderfluid people as a kid before I had a complete understanding of what anything off the binary even meant.
But somehow, there is a rise of ignorance (feigned or real, I don’t know,) that’s causing people to act like they do not know genderfluid or multigender people exist or understand how we work at all.
There’s some disturbing trends rising in discourse circles, and even among nonbinary people there is marginalization happening; I’m witnessing aligned nbs contribute to this behavior for anyone not seen as “male/female lite.”
I feel like education and visibility for nonbinary people of all kinds is dwindling, and new community members are being spoonfed filtered truscum-adjacent rhetoric and knowledge that erases and forgets people who are anything else.
There’s the rise of “anti mogai” which is literal truscum rhetoric with an exclusionist hat so large chunks of people are now thinking its anywhere in their right to question the validity of nonbinary people’s genders, just because they’ve been fed the idea that mogai is evil and mogai invented these genders (as if that’s how it works at all.)
There’s also been a rise of purity idealism inside wlw and mlm communities that I am, without a doubt, attributing to sublevel TERF influence, based on the fact that I’m almost exclusively witnessing DFAB people perpetrate it. People are trying to police nonbinary people out of these communities unless they’re “close enough” to binary for their tastes. Fluid and multigender people are currently not making the cut. And its all wrapped up in a nice little TERFy bow of “men are trying to invade women’s spaces,” and “men and women can’t coexist so your gender can’t be both.”
Its absolutely wild to me that this is what I’m seeing the younger community become, when I was introduced to it immediately with the accepted statements of “everything is a lot more fluid than you were led to believe.” Its like foundations of the community I once thought would remain constant core ideals have been entirely forgotten or ignored.
But yeah, its exorsexist to its core, and binary or nonbinary, exclusion and erasure of people who are anything other than “aligned nonbinary” is bigoted and nbphobic for anyone to participate in.
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