Anti-Homophobia Cheese

Tumblr is the worst form of social media. Except for all the others. Over 30, not a dude, not straight. Very autistic. That's all you get.

[aurielledawn]

Murderbot wrote this.

[pokemoniker]

“We need a robust impersonal state-sponsored safety net for the elderly, disabled, and mentally ill, because not even severely antisocial people should be left on their own to die” is a statement that i agree with. But it’s an issue i think people tend to oversimplify, because well. caring for insane bigoted old people sucks ass

[pokemoniker]

When people invoke this sentiment, i think they often make the same error seen in, say, calls for stronger online content moderation: a lack of consideration for who is going to do this work.

In the US today, around a quarter to a third of aides and caregivers for the elderly are immigrants [1, 2], the vast vast majority of whom are women. (From what I can tell) a major reason for this is that nursing or social work degrees/certification programs provide a straightforward (well, relatively) pathway to citizenship or permanent residency; and many simpler caregiver jobs only require a high school diploma, which is useful for immigrants in the US who may not be able to attend college. While I'm sure many of these workers have a sincere passion for caregiving, in a world without severe immigration restrictions and these obvious pipelines the numbers would not be this skewed. I do not think most of these people would put these careers as their first choice.

For starters, they do not pay very much. Average base salary on Indeed for caregiver jobs was $16.83 an hour. For seconders, how often have you had to deal with older relatives making sexist, racist, or otherwise uncomfortable comments at family gatherings? Frankly, lot of old people suck to be around! So do a lot of mentally ill people! Mentally ill old people (so, a lot of the ones receiving home care or living in facilities) can extra suck to be around!! Sexual harassment, violence, and abuse towards workers is common in home care and facilities. [1, 2, 3]. Many caregivers of color experience racism from coworkers, patients, or patients families. Now, many of these people are not fully in control of their thoughts or actions (hence why they require care). And even if they were, being a racist abusive serial harasser doesn't mean somebody deserves to be tortured or medically neglected or left to die.

But we aren't talking about abstract hypotheticals and who "deserves" what. We are talking about real people. When people say things like "the worst person you know still deserves care", it feels like they are expecting the care provider to just manifest out of the ether, and be willing to do whatever is needed without complaint. How much money would someone have to pay you to visit your shittiest relatives for eight hours a day? How long do you think you could retain a warm, kind bedside manner while being sexually harassed, called slurs, or physically assaulted? A week? A month? This is what providing care for the elderly, disabled, and mentally ill can entail, and this is what needs to be addressed if we want to prevent abuse and neglect of patients.

[pokemoniker]

I feel like i didn't connect the first and the second two paragraphs very well... my point in bringing up demographics was that

1- most of the people in caregiver jobs currently are not people who can really have their pick of whatever careers they desire. This is relevant because people often bring up "care provided for people who need it regardless of their sociability" in the context of like, what we as a society should work towards as an ideal. But in an ideal world, how many people would choose the career path of "care for the assholes nobody wants to deal with"?

2- many healthcare workers are nonwhite and experience racial harassment

3- the fact that "who is going to provide this care" seems like an unimportant concern for people reflects how the needs of immigrant workers are often overlooked and invisiblised by those unfamiliar with them. Similar to when people say "We need more content moderation!" without considering the thousands of content moderaters who do exist (mostly in poorer countries) and are being traumatized constantly

[pedro-reed]

big man, small kitten

[yugiohz]

"is supernatural good gay television" idk about that "is supernatural romantic" yesssssssssss

[yugiohz]

"it's never too late to start all over again" about your best friend who came back from the dead from a place that not even god has any power over

[yugiohz]

heaven and hell weren't enough surviving purgatory together wasn't enough they had to invent another dimensional layer to make dean lose cas they had to invent new forms of transformative love to give dean his buddy back

[orteil42]

unconvinced i'll ever find "the vitamin" that makes me all better so i can get real work done but i do expect they'll elucidate whatever my deal was post-mortem, after which what i did manage to accomplish with my life will be regarded on the level of Beethoven composing despite being deaf or Gordon Ramsay cooking despite being british

[impostoradult]

currently trying to fall asleep with a screaming headache, the product of a blood disorder/abnormality that I have been trying to get diagnosed since the beginning of 2025!! (which I have definitely had for years prior)

[mothric]

carol sturka and manousos oviedo i cannot stop thinking about you. the two last haters on earth. the crankiest most stubborn most ornery most unpersonable people. you want nothing more than to live in your own little hidey holes but you have to save the whole stupid world first. and you will do it by way of the very things that make you so unpersonable. your stubbornness and ornery nature will save humanity. because you, too, love humanity, even if much of humanity has not loved you. giggling kicking my feet etc i love this song

[strange-and-unusuall]

[impostoradult]

HR casting announcements AND Chad Powers S2 trailer! and I didn't have to go to work today

I'M FLYING SO HIGH RIGHT NOW

[ichorknight]

driving my chevy to the levee today

[ichorknight]

what the fuck

[impostoradult]

we're in the midst of a global climate crisis. if you didn't see this coming, that's on you

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[raavenb2619]

[This meeting could have been an email voice]: This romcom should have been a horror movie

[zulashur]

Cider is like if beer transitioned and stopped hating herself

[impostoradult]

Peter Claffey, you know you want to. I'll give you $20. pretty please?

[impostoradult]

i hold the VERY unpopular opinion that Tough Guy is one of the better Game Changers books, and I could not be happier it is going to get more screen time than previously expected (based on the latest casting announcement)

[impostoradult]

but also, I am EXTREMELY doubtful I'm going to get who I really want for Ryan Price (Peter Claffey), so my excitement is inherently a bit tempered on that front

[impostoradult]

i hold the VERY unpopular opinion that Tough Guy is one of the better Game Changers books, and I could not be happier it is going to get more screen time than previously expected (based on the latest casting announcement)

[impostoradult]

'Heated Rivalry' Adds 5 To Cast & Reveals Who Will Play Wyatt Hayes

The massively popular Crave Original series Heated Rivalry is expanding its Season 2, adding five, and reveals who will play Wyatt Hayes

Wow. They cast Vanessa and Tarek.

Which means Ryan Price's story is getting WAY more screen time than I thought. Which is outstanding (from my POV)

I sorta assumed Ryan and Fabian would show up, but that they would only ever be occasional side characters in Ilya & Shane's world (mostly). I didn't think that book was getting fully integrated into the show, because it does more or less stand alone (unlike Role Model, which weaves directly in and out of TLG). Also it's not very popular among the fandom, I know, even though I think it's one of the better ones.

But if they are casting side characters FROM Tough Guy, that means that book is getting a lot more screen time than I assumed it would.

AWESOME!!!!