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i swear to god, men raising their voice is the most terrifying thing in the whole world. they dont understand, like its an immediate panic response, game over

cl4yton-deactivated20180207

I actually had no idea women found this so scary

periwinklepromise

my downstairs neighbors fight on a regular basis, and every time he starts yelling i’m a little afraid he’s going to kill her. i have no reason to think this except that he is a man and he is angry

thewonderfulthingaboutfish

My math teacher has a loud voice and a temper and he scares the living shit out of me almost everyday. He’s made me and other kids cry more than once and he and his teacher buddies make a joke out of terrifying students.

diamondsamura1-deactivated20220

this was women in general? i knew my gf didn’t like it but I was unaware if this affected most women

survivor-surviving

Yes, it does

pandora-ness

As a woman, I had no idea it effected other women like this. I was too afraid to even talk about it. I thought I was weak. Thanks for bringing attention to this.

kaldraws8280

My dad thinks it’s funny that I used to cry when he raised his voice. I freak out whenever some one does. Once my director did, and I started crying I couldn’t stop. I’m glad to see I’m not alone…

suicunesrider

This is so important– seeing how common this is– and I also want you all to know that this is not normal. It isn’t something instinctively ingrained into women, to be afraid of men. There is no natural state of men being a threat that women constantly have to be afraid of. This is cultural. So many women and girls here have a mutual understanding of this feeling, and I think it really shows an unsettling truth about our society, particularly about how men are raised to act and how so many women have this defensive reaction gradually develop. It’s so important that these people have their voices heard, because it teaches us about problems that we just can’t deny the existence of any longer.

shidoninoure

I’m glad I’m not the only one

anexperimentallife

My fellow men, pay attention. I didn’t realize how scary this could be until one of my exes explained it to me, and it’s heartbreaking.

Also, when we move too much during an argument, or lean forward, it’s scary, and I never knew. I was even a little insulted at first, because surely she didn’t think I would hurt her. But see, that doesn’t matter. It wasn’t a sign that she mistrusted me specifically; it’s a conditioned response. (Although if you keep doing it once you realize it scares her, she SHOULDN’T trust you.)

Not every woman has been physically harmed by a man she trusted, but every woman KNOWS a woman who has.

I used to be horrible about this, because I didn’t realize how intimidating it was. I didn’t understand why the woman I was with clammed up or tried to tell me what she thought I wanted to hear, and I only got angrier, and acted even more like an asshole. It was wrong. It was abusive. It didn’t matter if I INTENDED it that way; it was still emotionally abusive. And it was inexcusable.

I get that when passions are high, and when you’re frustrated, it’s a natural tendency to let your voice get louder, to shout and gesture and lean forward. But you can train yourself to do better. You can train yourself to keep more of an even tone, to refrain from large and fast gestures, to not lean into her personal space. I did. I’m not perfect at it yet, but goddamn it, I WILL be.

Don’t tell me it’s too hard, that you just can’t do it, or that you “shouldn’t have to.” I’m 53 years old and just now getting the hang of it, and if this old dog can learn something new, so can you.

elfwreck

Note to guys: It really, REALLY doesn’t matter if you’re thinking, “but I would never…”

History is littered with the bodies of women who believed a man “would never.” This includes women killed by men who honestly, deeply, truly believed they “would never”… right up until she said that one thing or moved in just that way and he just got so mad, just that once, and pushed her or punched her or slashed her or shot her… just once, y’know, to shut her up, or because she was flinching and didn’t she know that HE’S NOT LIKE THAT and I’LL TEACH HER TO BE AFRAID OF ME…

We are trained, from infancy, that Men With Loud Voices are a source of pain from which we cannot escape, and attempts to escape may result in more pain. And as soon as we’re old enough to comprehend a world broader than our immediate circle, a world that extends into the past and will run into the future, we realize that there is no way, no way at all, to tell which men “would never” and which men “would never… except if.”

We live or die on that “if.” And any man who doesn’t like facing that hyper-vigilance can work on fixing OTHER MEN, not women’s fear.

The reaction shouldn’t be “not all men are like that;” it should be “no woman should have to live in fear.”

It’s telling that so many people will hear a story of long-term abuse and say, “why did she stay with him?” and not “why did he treat her like that?”

plaggnoir

This made me cry.

galactic-gangstar-gibbon-deacti

Don’t skip over this.

aiamarii

contest // “ancient prophecy” 🔮

fanyaneko

Another gorgeous set~

sweetpinkstylist

What should you do during this princess level double event? Look at these lists and you will know. Call me the best Momo😼

nae-loves-nikki

would you mind to elaborate more about the problem you see in nikki's native america/first nation theme suits (with example)? thank you :D

I’m gonna start by saying I myself am NOT Native, and (living in an incredibly white city) have only known one Native person (he was Cree) in my life. I am no expert. Someone else can explain much better than I can. If you ARE and see anything wrong here/anything that should be added please hmu. I’m not trying to be a part of the problem.

Moving on:

They aren’t “honouring” or referencing any specific tribe, they’ve taken the general “idea” of North American Native culture (of which there are MANY, no singular one) and well.. mashed it INTO a singular one. Argue that about Cloud if you want, but even if the nation itself is a combination of many Asian cultures, each individual suit is based off of a singular one, and most are treated with great respect.

There are also many references to Wasteland being “primitive” and “savage” and “exotic” (quotations because iirc those terms are used EXACTLY). Our introduction to the character of Tuda is literally him being fed under a table like a dog.

Some suits can get kiiiinda skimpy too. This is a problem because 84% of Native American women have been sexually assaulted in their lifetime and fetishizing them any further is just increasingly harmful.

Also, the one and only headdress is the game (which currently we do not even see because the character wearing it was REMOVED from our version, thank you devs) isn’t even a Wasteland character, she’s a foreigner. On top of that giving it to players would result in.. literal costumes with it. Here’s an article on the cultural appropriation of headdresses

For the record the aforementioned suit is THIS which I have stated several times to be my “least favourite” suit in the game. Since the character who wore it was removed I do not know what the future of this suit will be.