u guys shame us for pretty much every masculine transition goal we have. getting body hair is ‘disgusting’, deep voices are ‘scary’, and growing a small penis on T makes you a ‘short dick man’. women look soooo much better in mens clothes than men do. not wanting to be seen as feminine is ‘toxic masculinity’, patchy facial hair makes you a ‘neckbeard’, more belly fat makes you a slobby gamer dude stereotype.
u make us well aware that the more we look like men, the less support we will get, because of the radfem rhetoric that seeps into every supposed feminist/lgbt friendly space. I’ve heard plenty of you joke that we should ‘stop making more men’. I added another man to this world when I came out, and I don’t think that was an evil, but I’m constantly supposed to act as though it was.
We can tell you’d prefer if we never came out. You’re happier if we stagnate, progress as little as possible with our transitions, be as non threatening to you as we can so we aren’t kicked out of the category of people you can stomach caring about.
I’m saying this as a transmasc who likes femininity, and is aware of the double standard that you also hate us when we’re not doing enough to prove we’re reeeaallly men, but for a lot of people? the soft boy thing is a survival tactic. You’re making guys balance on a knife’s edge trying to be comfortable in who they are when any progress they make with that will contribute to turning them into the bogeyman you tell them stories about.
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