rosa.

you can't ask why you're in hell while dancing with the devil. choose positivity, choose yourself first.

[ineffabilite-s]

I haven’t been on this blog in a long time. But I logged on today and scrolled through my archives and smiled at the posts I made over the last 5-6 years, really glad that while I stopped posting here I’d kept the blog alive so I could reminisce. I’m applying to some schools come the new year so I’ve been pretty reflective lately (because essays) and the blog posts felt like they were both echoing and validating my thoughts despite the lack of explicit content to mirror every sentiment… And then I kept scrolling and I couldn’t stop cringing hard at the posts I made 7+ years ago. It was like a revisit of Facebook statuses from high school except these were longer and cringier. Thanks, Tumblr.

[atlanxic-deactivated20250205]

sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

[nebet-ren]

This is the most carefully-nuanced discussion of this I think I have ever seen. Thank you for writing this.

[plantbasedpam]

[excludeing]

You’re beautiful x

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snowed in (by J.JohnMichaelMurphy)

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(via ehactive, ottiliee-blog, ottiliee)

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[ineffabilite-s]

I really wish I were a more optimistic person.

[aliensfromhell]

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[caramel-mocha]

[difficult]

Maybe I love too much and maybe I show too little.

 r.m drake (via vittamin)

[obamawhitehouse]

Don’t miss this: Live from Chicago at 9pm ET, President Obama delivers his Farewell Address to the American people. #ObamaFarewell

[ineffabilite-s]

I don’t even know how to summarize how I feel about his presidency, legacy, and this capstone of a speech.

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[serious]

I hope you meet the right people in 2017, those who will appreciate you and won’t take you for granted. But if you happen to come across people who just want to use you, I hope you know when to walk away.

TW (via serious)

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