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Sorry for the out of the blue post. It is random, and may not appeal to many. But it means a lot to me and I wanted to share. As an INFP I am very connected to the things around me. One of which I have always felt strongly about was music. I started feeling this way when I was very young. Earliest memory I have was 7 years old. But one of the artists that I connected with, and felt something, was Daft Punk. Those of you in the Electronic/Dance/EDM scene that followed them probably heard the news of their disbanding. And it hit me hard. I grew up with them pretty much. I remember staying up to see their videos that went with their newly dropped album 'Discovery'. I also remember, young as I was (10-11) thinking that I had stumbled upon something very special and very different. The first time I had seen something like this in my short life at the time. But it stuck with me and it always will. I like to think that in their time in the music business, they pioneered a few movements that helped create what we now know as Electronic/Dance music and quite a few of their subgenres. Daring to be different, taking things that weren't quite main stream and making it ok. I always felt that they gave a lot to their genre. No doubt they were unique and had a very different way of doing things, but it worked. And they gained many loving fans. Ones like me heading into my 30s, and younger ones half my age that find them and listen to their "older" work, getting the same feeling I did. Hopefully loving them as much I did, and still do. To me it is absolutely beautiful, and it makes me wonder what will be the next. Who will come on to the scene and shake things up? I feel they inspired many to take their gift, and turn it into their dreams. The few that come to mind is Sunny (Skrillex), Zedd, Porter Robinson, just to name a few. They came what seemed out of no where and now are common. I hope they continue to create, and make things that come from their hearts and make future generations smile and feel.

I am again sorry for rambling, and to those that feel what I do, I am happy you took the time to read. I will miss them, but now we get to look to those that are here to make magic and carry on. Things change, but it is possible to be ok. Even when times seem kinda dark.

I will leave this here, it hit home with me. Maybe it will you too.

Thank you all my followers. I hope you are all doing well amidst this Pandemic, and look to the future with optimism. ☀️

-Best💛💙

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Hello!!!!  hope you are keeping well and a HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! ..... Just wanted to get this of my chest and needed some help . I don't know if this is the right place but i guess i will give it a try... So I am a 16 year old INFP and I have been addicting to this 'thing' for nearly 2 years now and ever since my academics have gone downhill. I can't focus anymore even though i really want to.I know i should , I want to but i can't practically do it .... I feel really disappointed and hopeless right now. Moreover my 'aims' require me too have a good academic score. I feel like a disappointment to my parents to at this point . I really need some practical help at this point ,something concrete. I hope you can help me a little hit me with some reality or something.Please help me of you can  : (

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Happy New Year Everyone! Stay safe out there!

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Happy first day of Winter!❄☃️🌨

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Have a safe and happy rest of the week everyone!

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Hi, I hope you are well. I have a bit of a depressing confession: I sincerely hate my personality. It feels like something I'm stuck with and that gets in the way of connecting with other people. I'm idealistic but whenever I express that, I always wind up feeling naive and inarticulate. I'm terrible at expressing myself. In conversations I'm either dead quiet, or I get carried away and blurt things out in a way that confuses everyone else. I usually regret telling people things because I feel like I made myself look stupid. I feel like I have put several people off this way and it makes it hard to form friendships. Is this a common INFP thing, and does it get better with age? Sorry again for the downer of a confession.

Hello Friend!

It’s not a downer, it is how you feel and something that you struggle with. I feel as though you aren’t alone though. I had a very hard time getting things like that out when I was younger as well. Honestly, speaking up was not my forte. But as I got older, I was more able to speak and feel more, able to speak, if that makes sense, I was most awkward in my mid and late teens. It was just an icky time and I fit in with absolutely NOBODY. So it was hard. Even now I find myself being very selective and not putting up with as much. lol But being INFP is hard because many of us have a shy side that is afraid of not being understood. But trust me, the older you get, usually you get more confident and find who you are. And you also find a magical thing called “your limits”. Instead of being so dead set on pleasing everyone and putting up with so much, you find that you will only allow things to go so far, then you ease up and take your mental and emotional health into consideration. And boy is that one heck of a discovery. Mind you I can to that when I was 29, but it feels great and took time. But all great things do. Keep your head up and know that things will get better. Work on your confidence and try seeing things in the realm of what you would like in a friend. One day you find a person that you can be great friends with that will just understand you! Trust me it happens! 

I hope this helped love. Have a great day/night.

-Best 💛

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me: *receives text* me: i should reply to that me:

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Admin Autumn Confesstion Time:

As I have gotten older, which many of you may feel the same, I have gotten less and less able to deal with some people's nonsense. I also get tired of people that drop you when something or someone else comes along. A friend that gives you no time whatsoever. I feel myself that I get tired of people that aren't genuine. If something happens in a friendship, the people in said friendship should work things out. Not run away from a problem and let it get worse until both sides are frustrated. I have had people in my life that choose to push things under a rug rather than talk it out. Granted, confrontation is hard and it is something that no one likes, but it is something that does come up. The biggest question is how are you going to handle it? Because even in a friendship, if you can't handle it then, then what will become of other relationships? If you cannot handle confrontation and knowing you are wrong, what will happen to a deep relationship such as a romantic one like a girlfriend or boyfriend or marriage mates? Nothing good comes from running. And if it a relationship you truly value, you shouldn't be afraid or combative. If it means something and the person(s) mean anything to you, you should face them. Or else I have found that things are harder. Because the more you run away, the more you alienate yourself and become very lonely. In being older I find that when a person like this enters my life and then turns out like this, that the weight when they leave is actually refreshing. I miss them and the things they helped me with, the good times we shared. But the breath of fresh air and the weight off, my mental well being and just the relief I feel. When that happens, that's kind of when I know a problem took care of itself. And again, not having that extra weight and burden, makes life quite a lot easier 🥰

Just something I noticed. Sorry for rambling!

Thanks for letting me confess. I hope everyone is having a good day/night!

-Best All💕

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I love the idea of your husband’s input on some of the questions! It would be a great addition to your blog, please do really consider it :)

Thank you so much friend! Yes, we have talked about it and he said yes! So he is helping me with the INTP questions as of now!! He is excited and hoping he can help where he can. Thank you for your support 💛💛😄😄

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Hello~ I'm a 16 year old INFP and I really want to self-discipline myself and study hard and manage time more efficiently but I always end up getting distracted. Can you please give me some suggestions? Thank you so much and I hope you have a great day/night ahead! :)

Hello Fellow INFP, 

Man do I feel this one! I get distracted by well, anything! From kitten videos to rainbows. Yeah it’s pretty bad. Getting any kind of discipline is hard when you are an INFP. Plus there is the procrastination aspect, don’t even get me started there! lol But what I have found is making a schedule or setting timers for myself. Because then there is the flip that I can get too involved in a task at hand and that can be difficult too and distracting. But keeping a limit to your time and keeping thigs out of reach. I find keeping my phone out of reach, stops me from getting distracted if I am on a project unless it is work and I need to have it. 

But that is how I have dealt with it! I hope this helps! 💛

Does anyone else have any suggestions? 

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I am the one who confessed of living an INFP and later tried to commit suicide...you asked me to message you personally but how do I do that? I don't have your information???

Hello Friend! You can use the Tumblr message system and we can go from there 💛

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Hello good morning ☺️ I just came across your blog and I’m so glad I did! I hope you can help me with a mind boggling question I’ve had about this INFP friend. Can an INFP say “I don’t like you like that” but still have feelings for the person later on? Much love ❤️

Hello Friend, 

And the short answer of it, is yes. I didn’t have feelings for my now husband. I remember saying that I love him, but as a very good and dear friend. Then one day it just clicked over to a romantic like, then quickly turned to love. And honestly, looking back on it, it very well could have been that I had been falling for him slowly over time. Just too dense to realize my own feelings. Yes, we are extremely bad at realizing our own feelings... sorry about that 😅

I hope that answers your question! Now every INFP is different, but this is what happened to me and I feel like I’m not alone on this one. 

-Much Love 💙

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Hi! I was so eager to look for a fellow INTPxINFP couple as it's kinda rare, is there a way I could reach you like, Instagram or Twitter? It doesn't have to be your person! I'm an INFP dating an INTP, in my late 20s and I think finding some support/buddy on this will be cool!

Hello Love! 

Yes! Private message me and I will give you a way to reach me! I honestly love hearing about other couples of this pairing as well! They are surprisingly well suited if they can come to each others level! That is so neat that you are dating one!! It is so much fun because they can be so quirky and rather interesting really. Not that I am at all biased 😉🤭

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hey love! i’m an infp hopelessly in love with my intp friend. it’s tormenting because we’re both shy and anxious, so we usually don’t say much to one another, though i do catch him staring at me. when we’re drunk, we’re talking to one another about everything from nonsense to existence and the meaning of life. he even reveals dark secrets and fears. alcohol also makes him hug me tight and hold my waist and stroke my hair. but sober, he’s standoffish. how do i see if he feels the same way? help:)

Hello Fellow INFP Friend! 

Well here is the deal. I actually ran this ask by my INTP Hubby and ironically he said for me to ask you, have you been around him with others when he is drunk? And if so, did he treat anyone else the way he treats you? Apparently to my hubs, that answer means a lot. Because if he doesn’t act like that around anyone else but you, he might have a bit of a thing for you. If he does act that way with everyone, my resident INTP here, says it is just viewing you as a friend.

I will say this though. My INTP and I were super good best friends before things... well happened! lol So if there is anything I have learned is to never say never! 

I hope this helped! Message me if you have any other questions!! ❤️

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is it an infp thing to get rlly attached to ppl after knowing them for a few days or do i need THERAPY

Hello Fellow INFP, 

No.... you don't need therapy. I have “fallen in love” with a certain person’s personality in a matter of hours in the past, and before I know it, I am basically their lap dog and would do just about anything they asked me to do without question. IDK what that is!! It’s just like my inner Golden Retriever comes out and I just follow them and love them, and I can’t help it!! So no, you don’t need therapy... or maybe we all do? LOL jkjk But I think it is just a facet of our personality. Truthfully I think it is just built in to some of us, especially the more sensitive, and has something to do with our feeling and being able to connect to people. I used to do that a TON with my teachers in Elementary School. I was the biggest teacher’s pet ever. 😅

Anyone else deal with this?  🤔

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I’m looking for some good movies to watch this weekend. Do you have some recommendations? Old classics are encouraged too if you know anyy

Hi Friend!

Well the weekend is pretty much over, but I do enjoy watching movies with the hubby. I am a TOTAL ABSOLUTE SUCKER for the 2005 Pride and Prejudice!! I love that movie so much and could watch it every weekend and not get tired of it!! The new Emma (2020 not the other one) is super good too if you are a Jane Austen fan. 

I also love Marvel and we have most of the Marvel movies. My personal favorites being Black Panther, Thor (2nd and 3rd) and Avengers End Game. 

For horror I enjoy personally, When a Stranger Calls (the most recent one) and a movie called Cry Wolf. I recommend getting the PG-13 rated one, not the Unrated if you are more choosy on your ratings like I am. I don’t like rated R movies. Disturbia is really good too. 

Love Disney and Emperor’s New Groove, Mulan,  and Pocahontas are my faves. 

As for older movies, I like quite a few. I personally LOVE Doris Day, and like the movie called “Move Over Darling”. I also enjoy the John Wayne films “ McLintock! “ and “The Quiet Man.” Super good imo. If we are looking at  older TV shows, I like shows like I love Lucy, The Dick Van Dyke Show and Andy Griffith.

Hope that kind of gives you some ideas! I have so many movies I have seen, it would be hard to names them all lol 

-Best Love

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I'm an 20 y/o infp and have always been waiting for"the one"since i was 12. Being an infp and a extreme dreamer, I have high standards for my future life& love in my way -for example I want to marry the first boyfriend that'll i date who's a foreigner(i have my reasons for him being a foreigner but the word limit won't let me explain).Lately I doubt that I can find someone like in my dreams.Waiting for him was like the energy for my life& i feel aimless and empty when I stop thinking about love.

Hello Fellow INFP, 

Well, we being the idealist types, we feel like things should be just so and that what we have wanted since we were young especially if we are ambitious or very driven and we feel that this thing we have in ,mind should be a thing that happens. We are also very hopeless romantic types. But I am here to tell you that the things that you think you will want, and the things that you need are quite different. I dreamt of being in a certain place by the time I hit 30. For example, I never wanted to get married and I wanted to just be by myself for a very long time. And I enjoyed my time to myself and my business. 

BUT things changed when I got serious with my now hubby. I never planned to be where I am now. I planned for a long time too, like since I was 17. Also, 20 is not old at all love. 20 is very young. And I know it doesn’t feel young right now maybe, but you have so much time ahead of you. 

What I am saying, is that it may take some time. You don’t want to end up with a person that you don’t love or that doesn’t suit you. Same goes for the person that you end up with. I understand the want to have a mate and to only want the first one to pan out. But sometimes the wait and the struggles, can actually be what makes the journey and the one you end up with all the more special. It was that case for me. I got married at 28. It gave me time to understand myself and what I needed more than when I was younger. I’m not saying you will be married that late, but what I am saying is that it is ok if you wait. The reward will be worth it. 

In the mean time, I wouldn’t not think about love, but I would find a way to channel it so it is not the only thing! There are so many things that you can do! Writing, reading, channeling that energy somewhere that makes you feel good and accomplished. Because if there is one thing I have learned from all of this, is that it is when you stop looking, that is literally when you find the one you need. 

I hope that helps love. Please message me if you would like. I am right here! 

-Best🤍