Innate Goodness

Sometimes we have dark nights. Sometimes we beat ourselves down. Sometimes (most times) we are our own worst enemy. However, your true nature is one of innate goodness. You are the light that shines inside causing everyone around you to smile. So smile! Be happy! It takes work, courage, and support to believe in your light. The world is there for you. I am there for you. Let's evolve together. Disclaimer: This is not intended to substitute professional mental health or medical advice. Please do not delay or hesitate to seek professional help because of something you have read on this site.

[ashramof1-deactivated20201019]

Ego is neither positive nor negative. Those are simply concepts that create more boundaries. Ego is just ego, and the disaster of it all is that you, as a spiritual seeker, have been conditioned to think of the ego as bad, as an enemy, as something to be destroyed. This simply strengthens the ego. In fact, such conclusions arise from the ego itself. Pay no attention to them. Don’t go to war with yourself; simply inquire into who you are.

Adyashanti (via ashramof1)

[ashramof1-deactivated20201019]

Relationship Yoga

“The healthiest relationships are not necessarily the ones that look ‘happiest’ to the naked eye. They aren’t necessarily the ones where two people are always seen holding hands, giggling, dancing and singing with the butterflies, where nothing ever ‘goes wrong’ and life is always perfect. External perfection can easily mask internal devastation, disconnection and a quiet, unspoken desperation to be free, or at least alone. The healthiest relationships are the honest ones, the ones that might not always look ‘happy’ or ‘carefree’ from the outside. The ones that might not fit society’s image of what a relationship ‘should’ or ‘must’ look or feel like. Where two people tell the truth about today, and continually let go of all their preconceived ideas about each other. Where the relationship is forever renewed in the furnace of honesty. Where there may be ruptures, misunderstandings, even intense feelings of doubt and disconnection, but there is a mutual willingness to face this seeming mess head-on! To look –with open eyes – at the present rupture, and not turn away or cling to the past. To sit together in the midst of mutual shattered dreams and expectations, and work to find a place of reconnection, here, now, today. Where relationship is seen as the ultimate yoga – an ongoing and deepening adventure and rediscovery of each other, a constant meeting, not a future destination, fixed conclusion, point of arrival, or a convenient story to tell others during polite conversation. As Eckhart Tolle reminds us, relationships aren’t here to make us happy (for true happiness lies within) –they’re here to make us profoundly conscious.”

Jeff Foster

Dedicated to my beloved friend, mother of hermes,

 ( http://motherofhermes.tumblr.com) who said this to me years ago.

[etherealimprint]

You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don’t have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success - none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here

Ram Das (via etherealimprint)

[lazyyogi]

Prejudice of any kind implies that you are identified with the thinking mind. It means you don’t see the other human being anymore, but only your own concept of that human being. To reduce the aliveness of another human being to a concept is already a form of violence.

Eckhart Tolle (via lazyyogi)

[momentary-transparency-deactiva]

It is possible to move through the drama of our lives without believing so earnestly in the character that we play. That we take ourselves so seriously, that we are so absurdly important in our own minds, is a problem for us. We feel justified in being annoyed with everything. We feel justified in denigrating ourselves or in feeling that we are more clever than other people. Self-importance hurts us, limiting us to the narrow world of our likes and dislikes. We end up bored to death with ourselves and our world. We end up never satisfied.

Pema Chodron (via hello-ineffable)

[innategoodness]

[anghellrose-deactivated20180626]

TRANS WOMEN RESOURCES MASTER POST

I tried to dig up as many resources and tutorials as possible from old master posts and normals posts as a lot of people have been complaining about the lack of resource posts for trans women. If you have anything to add please go ahead

CLOTHES ETC

Fashion71 (F/M)

ClothingUnder10 

$5 Fashions 

TenFifteen 

TenDollarMall (F/M) (No international shipping)

Eastclothes 

Gojane 

Dresslink 

Moddeals 

dress lily 

sammy dress

brave store 

viejos amores

chiara fashion 

love culture 

ami club wear 

fashion 71

east clothes

Miss A  (Accessory/makeups $1 shop)

glitter  Accessory/makeups

kmms  Accessory/makeups

mba cosmetics  Accessory/makeups

Cheap makeup (ELF)

MAKEUP TUTORIALS ETC

How to hide stubble (Tumblr post)

How to Contour and Highlight Using Makeup (video)

How to Apply Eyeliner with a Spoon (video)

How to Apply Foundation (video)

How to Apply Blush (video)

How to Apply Eyeshadow (video)

tutorials for beginners

quality makeup for less money

choosing foundation

ask mod li about makeu

How to apply makeup for the absolute beginner

 [trans-specific, p. useful]

Foundation for Dark Skin (2) (3) What products are and how they are used

A brand that makes products specifically designed to go over stubble

What brushes do what

, 

(2)

How to Choose Foundation

How To Apply Eyeliner (Using Tape)

WIGS

amphigory

lock shop

funny wig

quality low budget wigs

cute hairstyles on pinterest

more cute short femme hair

hairstyle guide & beauty

GL Wigs

Wowwigs

Arda Wigs

Wig Salon

Hairbird

Others (in list format from a myriad of sources)

TUCKING

tucking and creating gaffe [video] 

tucking forum and thread 

Tucking How-to Guide

BREASTFORMS

sewing pattern for silicone bead forms

low budget diy breast forms [video] 

creating cleavage with bras [video] 

“illusion” cleavage with makeup [video] 

Realistic Breast Form Tutorial (Video)

The Breast Form Store

Cheap (Sale) Breast Forms

Breast Form Adhesive Discs (For wearing breast forms without mastectomy bra)

How to create cleavage using a silicone bra (video)

Measuring Bra Size for Trans Women

Mastectomy Bras with Built In Flap for Breast Forms

Breast Form Adhesive Discs (For wearing breast forms without mastectomy bra)

How to make home made breast forms

amoena

OTHER

Women’s Clothing Terminology Chrysalis (Lingerie for Trans Women, autoplay music) Cheap Control/Shaping Briefs TheLeelahProject (Provides free essentials to those who cannot afford them)

surgery booklet 

hrt booklet

Trans Health Matters: Trans Women

Bust enlarging pads

Bum enlarging shapers

Transgender advice and resources list

Transfriendly- online forum for trans community

[bidyke]

PSA: When therapists receive bisexual clients and try to convince them that they’re actually gay or straight, that’s conversion therapy.

This has happened to so many people I know it’s not even funny.

[bisexual-community]

Have situations like this happened to you? Are you in the USA? Try looking for a Bisexuality-Aware Professional instead.

This directory of professionals has been created by and for the Bisexual/Non-monosexual and Queer Community. It includes psychologists, psychotherapists, physicians, lawyers, financial advisors, massage therapists, social workers, chiropractors, lecturers, organizers, and others. 

And if you or someone you know should be on it please do spread the word about this Community Resource.

[lazyyogi]

[ccarlisleauthor]

Things Not to Do to People with Service Dogs, Please, I’m Begging You

Immediately assume they are pets without looking

Pet them, ESPECIALLY without asking

Ask their owners to leave without checking to see if the dog is a service animal

Roll your eyes when the dog is a service animal

Ask whether the dog is a service animal when they are clearly wearing a service coat

stop????????????? questioning my wife’s fucking service dog

It doesn’t matter if “other people have tried to bring pets inside,” that doesn’t give you the right to ask illegal questions??

That’s like saying, “Someone hit me with a stick once, so no one can use a walking cane in my establishment because they might hit me with it.”

if you see a dog wearing all of these:

ASSUME SHE IS A SERVICE DOG

Helpful Facts About Service Dogs

They can be any breed.

They may even be other species, such as miniature horses.

They are allowed anywhere the human public is allowed, such as restaurants, stores, markets, hotels, bathrooms, etc.

You do not need to ask if a dog is a service dog, as long as the dog is wearing a clearly-visible jacket.

As an owner/employee of an establishment that someone brings a dog to, you are only entitled to ask two questions. You don’t NEED to ask any. You are allowed to ask two.

The first question: “Is the animal required because of a disability?” NOTE: If it is obvious what the dog does and why it is required, you ARE NOT allowed to ask this question (for example, if the handler is in a wheelchair or also using a red-tipped white cane).

The second question: “What task does this animal perform?” ALSO not required if it’s obvious.

That’s it.

Any more and you are violating the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act), opening yourself and your business up for a hefty lawsuit.

There are two times you are allowed to ask a service animal to leave. You are NEVER allowed to ask the dog’s handler to leave, no matter what the animal is doing.

The first time you are allowed to ask the animal to step outside: if it is not housebroken, and poses a sanitary risk.

The second time you are allowed to ask the animal to step outside: if it is acting aggressive towards or endangering other patrons.

That’s it.

You are only allowed to charge a cleaning fee if you would normally charge a human for the same fee. In other words, if the dog leaves hair on the floor and you wouldn’t charge a human for shedding on the floor, you can’t charge. If it’s a hotel and you wouldn’t charge a human for peeing in the tub, you cannot legally charge the dog for the same.

You are never allowed to ask for documentation that an animal is a legitimate service animal. This is in part to protect many people who don’t have access to medically-provided dogs, who have trained their own service dogs (perfectly legal and fine), or who can’t carry papers around with them at all times.

You may not ask that the animal perform their task for you. What the fuck, don’t do this. Think of allergy alert dogs—are you really going to wave an allergen in front of someone that might have a deadly allergy just to prove that the dog is “real?” congratulations, your ass is sued.

If you want more helpful facts please hit me up, I’m just really sick and tired of going places with my wife and her service dog only to get the message loud and clear that everyone is nervous and we’re unwelcome, when her dog is the most polite, well-trained, well-MARKED animal you’ve ever seen.

A typical conversation entering 2/3 businesses we went into today:

Person: Ma’am, you can’t have a pet in here. You have to leave. Wife: She’s a service dog. She’s wearing her coat. Person: Oh, sorry. We have to ask. People bring their pets in here sometimes, and we have to ask them to leave, because they’re not allowed. Wife: She’s not a pet, she’s a service animal.

Please spread this. Some people just don’t know. Others think that if they can’t see a disability, it doesn’t exist or need treatment.

[stormphyre]

[innategoodness]

Cops don’t know how to deal with mental illness, and it’s a huge problem

Half of all Americans killed by police every year are mentally ill

[innategoodness]

A Prayer for this New Soul

I pray I keep with me 

a willingness to be

an ever-changing entity

void of solid identity.

Help me be like water

soft but strong 

moving mountains with time

and patience

Acceptance for this new soul

facing constant birth and death

that there are many places to be

people to love, activities to do

energy to be spent, relaxation to be had

itches to be scratched, ideas to be realized...

to take a pause inside that breath 

between the thought and the action

there are infinite possibilities in this life

but only one finite life

I pray that I accept my mortality 

that this new soul cannot do it all on its own

Give me strength to abandon my isolation

to be vulnerable and free

So that I can see

my ever-changing entity

free of solid identity 

one with all eternity 

[innategoodness]

THE PEACE OF WILD THINGS

When despair for the world grows in me and I wake in the night at the least sound in fear of what my life and my children's lives may be, I go and lie down where the wood drake rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds. I come into the peace of wild things  who do not tax their lives with forethought of grief. I come into the presence of still water. And I feel above me the day-blind stars waiting with their light. For a time I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.

— Wendell Berry

[abiding-in-peace]

Leave everything undefined, including yourself. Befriend uncertainty. Fall in love with mystery. Kneel at the altar of Not Knowing. Give your questions time to breathe. And the answers will find you.

 Jeff Foster (via abiding-in-peace)

[innategoodness]

The Byrds - Turn! Turn! Turn!

The classic song from the 60s band "The Byrds"

[innategoodness]

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

Theodore Roosevelt