Jane's Room

[thevirgodoll]

halfway through the semester 😭

[nsaint1]

90s black girls in college >>>

[yourbigsisnissi]

I found a partner who I love more than life itself. He doesn’t complete me. But my life feels complete with him in it.

God has given me many things to accomplish on this earth. And one of them is loving this man in ways that make him feel loved, seen, and valued. And it’s an easy purpose to fill because he is the example. He loves me in ways that make me feel loved, seen, and valued.

And the least I can do with this blessing God has given me is to cherish this blessing for the rest of my days on earth.

[wutsetien]

An idea that changed my life is that self-esteem is created by becoming visibly good at things, whether it's playing a sport or knitting or what have you. Esteem is about admiration, and you build up admiration for yourself by becoming someone you can admire. If there's nothing about you that you can deeply admire—and, to some extent, which you know others admire as well—then of course you can't be confident.

[thevirgodoll]

How can I get comfortable with speaking my mind?

Know why you feel the way you feel, and stand in it. Take responsibility for you and your experience. Speak to honor yourself. Respect outside interpretations, but develop boundaries that strengthen your bond with yourself over time.

Think of Nietzsche - “There are no facts, only interpretations.”

There’s no universal truth at the end of the day. According to you, you have yours. At this point, rather than worrying about possible interpretations, you should speak your truth.

[thevirgodoll]

i feel like anger and numbness after a breakup is just passion that cannot properly be expressed. it's a loop of "i hate you i hope you never find happiness" "i'll never love again because of you" "you never cared about me and used me" "what did i do wrong" "f*** you" when it's really "i feel neglected and abandoned, you probably cared but i will never know. i feel so much towards you that i cannot express. because you have not given me that space to express myself, i have no choice but to resent you for not respecting me enough to give me the opportunity. your lack of intentionality with someone you claimed to care about ignites extreme resentment because i would never do the same to you. i am forcing myself to turn my emotions off because you aren't seeing them anyway. i don't hate you, i loved you, but i can't love someone that doesn't acknowledge it. i would do anything for you, but it seems like you forgot that along the way. i will never love anyone more than i was starting to love you" or smth. maybe not

[2productive]

Always wear your cutest outfit. Stop saving so many looks for “special occasions”. You showing up is a special occasion. Look your best.

[soliqz]

[aidashakur]

[babyphat05-deactivated20250613]

Hello, I hope you're doing well ! So since I started class I noticed that boys stared at me lot and I always try to avoid their look. I'm not used to that and when they're talking to me I laugh too much even when nothing its funny. I feel out of character and I hates it. Especially since I don't want to deal with them In any way. What can I do about it ?

You need to realize men are normal human beings and they look at any and every attractive women. One thing that causes me not to act giggly over men is to remind myself I'm not special and that they're spitting the same game to 10 other girls. Keep a straight face, flirt occasionally and keep it pushing.

[nsaint1]

Hello how do I become more high maintenance while dating ?

Hey ♡

Here are my tips for becoming high maintenance while dating:

- set boundaries 

- never step out of character

- know yourself

- respect yourself and respect the other person ALWAYS

- only set standards that you know you meet 

- have control over your emotions

- communicate 

- let them know what they can and can not do

- do not reward bad behavior

- hold yourself accountable as well

- let them know your expectations and let them know that you are not settling for less than those expectations

[latenights]

Allow yourself to be a beginner. No one starts off being excellent.

[pics-vids]

[babyphat05-deactivated20250613]

very true gems.

[babyphat05-deactivated20250613]

Loved this book too

[yourbigsisnissi]

“I acknowledged my sin to you, and I did not cover my iniquity; I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord,” and you forgave the iniquity of my sin. Selah”

‭‭Psalm‬ ‭32:5‬ ‭ESV‬

[sweetlikeacherry]

stop the self doubt and just decide that you are sexy. and then you will be

[sweetlikeacherry]

I still see some of you in the tags with self doubt....saying this is easier said than done. stop putting any focus into how you’re being perceived by others and start focusing on how you’re perceiving yourself and treating yourself. when you know and believe that your sexy no body can say anything about you. whatever people say is about themselves. If you cling to a false center that depends on others, you’ll always be looking to what people are saying about you. you’ll always be following other people, trying to satisfy people, trying to be respectable, you’ll always attempt to decorate your ego. this is a loosing game. rather than being disturbed by what other’s say, you should start looking inside of yourself... whenever you are self-conscious you are showing that you are not conscious of the self at all. you don’t know who you are. if you had known, then there would have been no problem—you are not seeking opinions. then you are not worried what others say about you—it is irrelevant! it doesn’t matter! when you are self-conscious you are in trouble. when you are self-conscious you are really showing symptoms that you don’t know who you are. your very self-consciousness indicates that you have not come home to yourself yet. decide that you are sexy and you will be. I’m serious bitch

[haelxtii]

[2productive]

How do I stick to my goals and work harder???

Get up early enough to set your intentions for the day in stone. A good morning is the beginning of a successful day. Don't ask what's the least you can do to be good. Ask what's the most you can bare to be great. Ask yourself if what you are doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow. Every time you feel really unmotivated, ask yourself what kind of a person do you want to be. Do you want to be hardworking, determined, and intelligent? Do you want to create something meaningful, to make a difference? Do you want to be the person others look up to? And then ask yourself what you can do to become that person a little bit more. If you’re not willing to put in the work, how can you expect to succeed? You get what you work for. Be ambitious. Kill distractions. Take an audit of your progress today and make alterations for tomorrow until you get higher success rates. But most importantly, do NOT give up.

The price of excellence is discipline. The cost of mediocrity is disappointment. - William Arthur Ward