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lena-point

day and night in the Shire

(prints)

anyataylorjoy

THE FELLOWSHIP OF THE RING + FIREWORKS

lovetechnique

Mad Men s07ep06 "The Strategy"

#every time I remember this show exists its wild #it feels like a fever dream #- said by don draper

harrietdyker

dana & collins // emergency contact (andrea gibson)

#we've come all the way back around. life is cyclical and here I am on tumblr caring too much about a medical drama

kirkwallers

Rook! It's very exciting. Neve's invited me to help solve a murder!

#da:v #veilguard spoilers

gordonstanheight

this is kind of my favorite genre of image ever. like THIS is what the internet is for

televisionenjoyer

#lmfao i knew what every tag was gonna be before it said it i'm in love with f1 help me

strawberryjayne

ri5k

the assurance "nobody is judging you" is straight up false... people ARE judging you and you have to find a way to be ok w it

giritina

My methods as someone with schizotypal (feeling of constantly being judged disorder)

1. Even if you do something embarrassing AND someone judges you AND talks about it to others, you really haven't done anything but improve their life. People like bonding over interesting stories. If I'm at the mall and I look strange or act weird, people at best don't care and at worst have a little story to tell their friends.

2. Talking about people is part of life. You probably have done it to others. What comes out of people's mouths when you're out of the room doesn't necessarily reflect their true feelings. Getting words out of your head can be how you check if they're true. Many people might say something mean so they can come to a more neutral understanding. We often think "said behind my back = true feelings" but it isn't true.

3. If someone is actually consistently talking behind your back in a cruel, mean way and being two-faced to you, that's actually them being in the wrong. You aren't responsible for that. You don't have to burden yourself worrying that you're doing something that would make someone act this way. You can operate as though everyone is being upfront and honest and not make concessions for passive aggression.

4. If you talk behind people's backs a lot and operate in a judgemental way to others, try cutting back on that behavior. It honestly helps you feel less scared of others talking about you.

5. If your friend group talks a lot behind people's backs and judges or harasses others for fun, try to discourage that behavior or step away. Seeing people obsess over others isn't good for your health, and those people's behavior isn't normal. Same with hanging out on dramamill websites etc.

6. If you actually concretely find people actually talking behind your back a lot, analyze why. It could be that it's bullying, but it could also be that people don't feel safe telling you their feelings. Think about how you treat others.

7. There's always a risk of being judged and hurt by others, but the rumination on the possibility of it being the case is going to hurt you. The goal should be to live life in the moment and deal with cruelty when it actually emerges. Constantly being on guard for tragedy doesn't actually make it any easier, it just makes you really tired.

giritina

Oh, also 8. Imagining a scenario where people are judging you or talking about you behind your back doesn't make it true. You will think "obviously but it can actually be very hard to tell that it isn't true. You start judging people for what you assume they're judging you for. The hard thing is you really can't know what people are talking about, even if they are talking. You can't read anyone's mind, and you have no knowledge of their life when you can't observe it. This is hard to accept, but freeing once you absorb it.

#damn #remember remember remember