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thin with disabilities
Would you still believe that a thin person who is disabled/physically disadvantaged from birth or a traumatic injury or has chronic pain is still more privileged than a fat person who has no disabilities or chronic pain?
Where do we draw the line between how much privilege somebody has or doesn’t have, and isn’t it unfair to assume all thin/thin-passing people are much more privileged than fat people simply by their size and not what you can or cannot physically see?
Mod response:
Go look up the concept of intersectionality, and come back either when you’re not playing gotcha, or when you can have a coherent and informed conversation. Because right now you’re full of shit one way or the other.
-MG
It sucks to be a thin disabled person because the world is not set up to accommodate disability well. But at least when I go get treatment for my disability, I can get healthcare without having to lose weight (or otherwise change lifestyle) first.
I may lack able-bodied privilege, but the intersection of disability and fat is much worse.
I’m fat and disabled. I have to pay twice as much for a wheelchair or crutches because cheaper ones are only designed for thin people. (Are thin people even aware that there is a max weight limit on all these things?) And the ones I can get are in the lovely color options of grey or beige.
I can’t find splints or braces for my dislocating joints because they don’t make them in my size in spite of the common narrative that being fat causes joint problems. If that’s true, surely there’s a huge waiting market for plus size splints and braces, yet I can’t find them.
If I use a wheelchair or mobility scooter or disabled seating people assume I’m just a lazy fatty and not really disabled. Or that being fat is my only disability (as if that’s a thing). I always have to measure how much abuse and side-eye I’m willing to endure before I use a mobility aid.
I could go on. Being disabled sucks for all disabled people. Being fat doesn’t somehow make it easier. And tbh, I get more abuse for being fat than I do for being disabled. Like, airlines have to accommodate my disability by law, but they can still abuse me and kick me off a flight for being fat.
I just don’t get why people are so set on this sense of trying to be the ultimate check mate. Why would you want to put these groups against each other? What purpose does it serve? We can care about more than one thing at a time, we can care about ableism, fatphobia and the intersection of these things. People are complicated and these type of questions are so often from a disingenous place.
We need to stop seeing dogwhistles everywhere. This could just as well have been a genuine question from an ignorant person looking for information FROM A POLITICAL BLOG (and thus a good place to ask for info from). This isn’t a rando bothering a personal blog with dumbass questions.
That being said, at this point we need to acknowledge that thin people also experience medical issues. Thin privilege absolutely exists, up to a point. Thin people failing to find adequate care because they’re underweight and thus deemed healthy, that’s a problem.
Socially, while women are usually advantaged when it comes to thinness, thin men are likely to struggle with body image issues when compared to their chubby counter parts (I mean chubby; at a higher scale the social dynamic shifts around). Virility equals mass. See the way we talk about “dad bods".
(now, this may be an issue with the definition of “fatness”, which ranges from overweight to obesity, and those in no way have the same impact)
I say this not to negate or erase social fatphobia. I am merely begging for nuance. Truthfully, this would be a good time to remember that, especially in the medical field, most people falling outside of the statistical “norm” will get underwhelming care (diverse degrees of underwhelming care depending on their weight, but this is. not. a. competition.)
As for the intersectionality OP is talking about: what they mean is that fat people have a deck of cards stacked against them. Or, say, imagine a D&D dice roll. Well, fat people will have additional social fragilities to defend against every single time, when compared to medium weight people or thin ones. And a fat person may be lucky enough to succeed in all of their dice rolls, and the other two may fail theirs; it doesn’t change that originally, they had the bigger DnD handicap pertaining to their weight.
Otherwise, here’s the wiki about intersectionality. It’s a start to dive deeper.
This blog has NEVER been a good place for people to get answers to questions like that. It wasn’t ever designed to be. @artetolife founded this blog as a safe space for fat people to talk about what it’s like to be fat, not to answer the questions of the clueless. There are places that exist for that purpose. This is not one. If you don’t like it, then move the fuck along.
I’m going to quote from our FAQ here:
This comes up quite a bit, so I’m going to stop and explain something.
People send stuff in as suggestions, as concerns, as questions, as whatever, and some people are being sincere, but a lot of people who write in with the same thing and the same types of phrasing are being trolls, and go on to get nasty if we respond as if we’re sincere. We’ve been doing this for a while, and we know perfectly well what trolls sound like, and we don’t need any more nastiness in our inbox, because we already get a shitload. So when it sounds like a troll, we respond as if it is. And since most trolls reply to that with the hurt, “But I was just asking/commenting/whatever, why are you sooooo meeeeeeaaaaaan to meeeee?” we respond to that badly, too. And yeah, some of the people who respond that way are not trolls, but, again, we don’t have any way to know, and we don’t want to deal with the shit from trolls, we often just block them at that point, or continue to treat them as trolls. Because what’s the difference, practically speaking, between somebody intentionally trolling, and somebody who means it, but sounds exactly like a troll over several exchanges? They may feel differently, but they have the same effect on us either way.
Now, this blog isn’t busy like it was when I wrote that originally. But I’m still fucking sick of dealing with this shit. I’m not going to stop being sick of dealing with it. And it continues to be not my job to do so on this blog, so I’m going to continue to not do so here.
Sometimes I do choose to educate someone I think is being sincere, both here and elsewhere. But it doesn’t matter whether this question is “sincere” or not, because the question itself is fucked up. There are lots of resources out there that are better suited to explaining to that person why it’s fucked up than I am, and they should go find one of those.
Any asswipe who says "thin privilege exists up to a point" clearly thinks they're the one who gets to decide what that point is. That isn't "learning" or "being educated"; that's fucking trolling. It's nauseating and anyone who expects someone of a marginalized group to coddle that kind of attitude can LITERALLY go fuck themselves with a cactus.
Hello. I my bmi is 21, but i have body dysmorphia. I am struggling to understand where i fit in the body positivity movement. Because on the one hand, i logically know I am thin because of the numbers, but I see a considerably fat woman when I look in the mirror/ at my body. I don't feel like normal body positivity is right for me, because i dont see myself in those people. But i am able to understand and love myself through fat acceptance, and yet i am not supposed to be in that space. its hard
Look, you find self-confidence wherever you find it. Just, when you’re talking to fat people, or you’re talking about fat issues, remember your privilege, and especially when talking about fat issues, use it to your advantage.
-MG
Thinnos will use literally anything to take up space in fat spaces.
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every time I see that post about the 4chan incel dude turning his life around bc he started raising shrimp or whatever im like yeah okay man but do you still hate women? you still hate women bro?
Like “I had an easier time developing empathy for shrimp than for women” is not a success story.
to expect exemplary behaviour from someone who was in the rock bottom of a system designed to radicalize these disillusioned young men and turn them into white supremacists and by himself found a way to get out of it and realize he can do better, and then treat him as unsalvageable and permanently damaged because he used bad words, is why this same system keeps being so successful at catching and ruining these men. the shame they are made to feel becomes anger.
i understand not having the patience to educate everyone you ever meet (i don’t do that), but you all on this hellsite need some nuance and realize people can be in different points of enlightenment and recovery. that dude was reaching out, don’t throw him back in the pit.
If you’re just going to decide people are irredeemable trash because they fucked up, that just isn’t terribly useful.
Like, forget moral purity or whatever. If you’re writing off people who are trying, who may choose to do good in the world in some way, that’s wasteful. It’s stupid.
There’ve been articles upon articles, about the path this stuff takes, nudging guys - some of them actual children - further and further right. (And how it takes a similar path in other circles, like with TERFs preying on young women here on Tumblr.)
You don’t get to just throw people in the Permanently Bad Forever bin and exile them from society. That’s not how that … that’s not how anything works, and honestly you should be pretty suspicious of anybody advocating it.
Consciously, or not, Everyone, every day, is making choices about who they are and what kind of person they want to be - and refusing to make a choice is still a choice. And you can always make a different choice. It’s not too late. You can decide “I don’t like the kind of person I am, I would like to be better”.
You know that headline “I don’t know how to explain that you should care about other people”? The thing is, people don’t go from apathetic nihilists to caring about strangers with no intermediary steps. They’re just not wired that way. Empathy is learned.
Honestly, unironically caring about something is a pretty good step. That’s something that can be built on.
“Perfect” is the enemy of “Good”.
Nobody’s going to make you be his BFF, but it’s a start. And, quite frankly, the more of them that climb out of that pit, the better off the rest of us, as a society, are.
In a better world, there wouldn’t be any men who lack empathy for women to start with. There also wouldn’t be any racists or any transphobes. We shouldn’t HAVE anyone who has to unlearn the toxic shit they were marinated in during a formative point (or all the formative points thus far) in their life. But we do. There are people who have been convinced of some pretty fucked up things in regards to equality and the way the world ought to work. We’re not denying that, right? We can all see it? That there are people with some genuinely wrongbad opinions out there? And we all agree that it would be better if fewer people- if NO people- held those opinions? So why shit on anything that inspires them to reconsider their perspective and decide that their opinions are wrong and bad and they need to develop some new ones? I mean, OF COURSE it would be great if it wasn’t necessary in the first place; if there weren’t people being raised or groomed in a way that gave them such a negative opinion on a particular group of fellow humans that they don’t even see them as real people. Living in a world where nobody is ever convinced to think that way in the first place would be fucking fantastic. But as long as we’re stuck in this world, we’re stuck with those people, and we’re stuck with the fact that it’s easier to get some of them to reconsider their beliefs using an indirect approach to bring them around, rather than confronting them head on. We shouldn’t have bigots that need to be convinced to stop being bigots, but as long as we do, whatever path works to get them to take their heads out of their asses is something we should be taking notes on, because screaming, “You should have empathy for women! You should have had empathy for women all along!” at misogynists hasn’t historically helped make them decide to agree with us about that.
That’s all well and good and everything but life isn’t kambooah hippy bullshit. White supremacism is not limited to explicit neo nazi fascism, neo nazi fascism is just one of its most militant forms. How are you going to fight fascism without directly naming and describing the culture that produces it? How are you doing that by refusing to acknowledge the white supremacist/nationalist violence this culture was already comfortable with when otherwise not identifying as explicit fascists? Let’s not mince words. We know America is an empire built on war, displacement and slavery. They were indoctrinated into a culture that celebrated all of that and willingly acted as agents or representatives of an agenda of white terror at home and abroad. That’s way we need to explicitly name the connections between the growth of 21st century fascism and the militant racist patriarchal American culture it easily found home in.This is actually one of those things where it’s important to be direct and confrontational. If no one is telling them that their normie opinions were already fascist before and that’s why they became easily immersed in fascism then how are they even going to know? How can we even disrupt fascist recruitment effectively if we aren’t ruthlessly critical of the people backed by billionaires and armies that makes fascism so palatable to so many? Make no mistake about it. Before and without their explicit identification as fascists they were still acting like fascists, with the body count of the whole American project to prove it.
We should be directly confrontational to that culture that breeds fascism like a virus and yeah that includes pointing to the realities of 4chan being a white supremacist patriarchal militant front that harbors fascist sentiments even when individual losers decide to stop having genocidal fantasies for a second to farm shrimp like a rich white asshole with too much money that decided spending money was better for life success than hating women. Okay? Not an interesting perspective to me. Yes compassion is always the principal we should hold stongest when interacting with even our most hostile of enemies, but we shouldn’t pretend they weren’t our enemies already, independently of them being nazis and that this is a life or death issue that was present without anyone needing to adorn swastizkas for it to be white supremacist/nationalist. When the fascists, the imperialists and war criminals, the thieves, the child murderers, the ethnic cleansers and pedophiles agree to lay down their arms and stop literally killing people then we can talk about whether or not it’s too militant to question if 4chan users leaving their mother’s suburban home attic are still misogynist. Until then this is an absurd laughable contribution to antifascist struggles I’m sorry. The enemy is militant against our existence we should in turn be militant against the institutions and culture that justify their behaviors. Otherwise what are you doing? Wasting our time on meaningless abstractions like how we should be nice to the imperialists who support drone bombings of weddings on Tuesdays and may or may not be Holocaust deniers on Saturdays but hey they farm shrimp so don’t be too mean to them they’re learning?! That’s a joke right? This is 2019 and there are armed paramilitaries organizing hate crime terrorism cells in America right now while the state infrastructure and organization of the border patrol has been built for ethnic cleansing decades in the making. I’m supposed to have sympathy for wealthy shut-ins who scream slurs at each other while pretending to be big army men on Xbox? They were “just following orders” so don’t be hostile to the culture that made them follow those orders? Bullshit.
Not sure how “anonymously berate people for improving the wrong way and assume that ‘fascist’ is an immutable category of person” is going to resolve any of this
The fascists are killing people. Why does it matter if they’re being berated? Why should I put their feelings over my life when they don’t fucking care?
lmfao white people be caring more about animals than whole ass black people i hate this hell site
punkyiddishkeit:
Like “I had an easier time developing empathy for shrimp than for women” is not a success story.
Actually Potatoes were originally grown in Peru
As a kid who lives in Peru I can confirm that potatoes are from here and that we have over 1200 varieties of potatoes
only corn
Natives had corn before us. U gonna be a white supremacist u gonna eat white food. Sheep guts and boiled bread my dudes
Haggis is from Scotland. If we’re being fair with no immigrant food whatsoever, they can’t eat that either.
We’re getting down to “if you hate immigrants you can’t eat” and I’m 100% okay with that
Even the white immigrants are stanning this post. Keep the solidarity going.
There are only two foods in America that were actually originally from here and not brought over from somewhere else (or stolen from native cultures)
Ballpark hot dogs
Peanut butter
That’s it
I dunno, if we're talking US bigots, then both are kind of off the table Ballbark brand may be American but hot dogs aren't and wikipedia says Peanut Butter is Canadian. *shrug*
[CN: incels] “There is nothing radical or extreme about men’s sexual entitlement and women’s sexual obligation. There is nothing “provocative” in the question, “ If we are concerned about the just distribution of property and money, why do we assume that the desire for some sort of sexual redistribution is inherently ridiculous?” Culturally, we don’t assume it’s ridiculous, not by a long shot. It’s been standard operating procedure — often, it’s been law — in the West, for all of our documented history. It’s called “patriarchy.” […] Sex is not a drive. But connection is. […] We are failing boys by not teaching them lots of ways to connect. We are failing them by teaching them to be ashamed of their loneliness, to mask their sadness, to hide their longing to be touched more than sexually. The men who kill people because they can’t get laid have been failed. They weren’t born that way; they were made into murderers by decades of isolation, helplessness, and shame, piled on top of grief, despair, and desperate rage that their obedience to the commands of masculinity has not granted them the satisfaction they crave unto death. […] So whose job is it to help these men? Answer: It’s their own job. They are grown men, responsible for their actions and needs. It is no woman’s job to give him love or attention or touch. The process of becoming an adult is the process of taking on responsibility for meeting your own needs. Adults are responsible for sorting out their own shit, figuring out how to have relationships, finding ways to get their needs met without hurting anybody, even in the face of deeply toxic culture. Women have been doing that for themselves since forever; men are no less personally responsible. Isolation and helplessness are the most toxic experiences a mammal can have. It is difficult to unlearn the lesson of chronic loneliness, that you are not simply alone, you are not capable of not being alone. But that is the task of human adulthood.”
I’m sorry you’re lonely but it’s not my job to help you: the science of incels
Oh fucking please. Won't someone think of the poor murderers!
Conservatives are fucking stupid.
I get it. Sneering at mothers is a national sport in Australia. I used to play it myself before I became one. And then I realised that children aren’t robots and you can’t control them at will. Small children especially undergo enormous, rapid development in their early years and this can produce a range of extreme emotions. The compassionate response to these emotions isn’t to scream at them or threaten them with violence, nor is it to ostracise the people caring for them. The next time you feel tempted to judge a child and their mother for somehow failing to make your day as stress-free as possible, think instead about what you can do to make their day less stressful. And if you can’t do that - if you absolutely must be a complete git about it - don’t pull your phone out to film them. They might be the ones you’re capturing on film, but all you’re revealing is that you’re a massive creep with entitlement issues.
What should we do about children on planes?
Decides to make their children everyone else's responsibility, calls everyone else entitled. Fuck that. You had the kids; you deal with them. I’m not going to do anything to add the issue, but it isn’t my job to fix it either. I didn't have kids for a reason and if your kid's being a brat, don't make it my problem. If you can’t deal with that, you shouldn’t have had the kids; it’s part of the package. PS your stress levels aren’t any more important or precious than mine, just because you had kids.
tumblr radicals are so fucking detrimental to actual feminism honestly
I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS MY WHOLE LIFE
….don’t hate me for reblogging this…
There is no lie here.
And if anyone hates you for reblogging this, it just means it’s right.
I have no issue with dropping people who can’t grasp this
Feminism is really good but super radical tumblr feminism is gross, counterproductive, and hateful
Ya gotta love everyone guys, just love everyone equally and you’re doing it right
Hate me for reblogging it I don’t care
This is white-washing, colorblindness nonsense. I'm not talking about the radical cartoon thing. That's just...you know another day on tumblr. But the "you have to love everyone" nonsense. You don't have to love everyone. you don't have to love abusers or nazis or terfs or any other people who choose to marginalize, victimize, and traumatize others. And those who think you do are ignoring the privilege they have to not have a dog in the fight.
Not a single person was killed or permanently injured by Occupy Wall Street, and that lasted weeks. Not a single person was killed or permenently injured at Standing Rock, except for those injured by the violent police, and that gathering lasted for months. The right-wing throw one big rally - where the ideology itself, never forget, is extremely and dangerously violent - and 19 people end up in the hospital, 1 person is dead. Never once more should you equate the right and left. Never once fucking more. We are all antifa, now.
I agree with this in general but I don't feel comfortable whitewashing the sexual assaults reported at Occupy events.
Shaming culture teaches people from dominant groups that policing their language and thoughts is sufficient to achieve change. But you cannot be polite enough to black people, as a white person, to undermine white supremacy. You cannot be respectful enough to women, as a man, to dismantle patriarchy. You cannot celebrate LGBTQ people sufficiently, as a straight person, to reduce homophobia. Instead, tackling these things requires fighting for changes that will actually cause you real diminished status, as a member of a dominant group — reparations, equal pay laws, legalization of the undocumented. Thus shaming culture, though derided as too harsh on white people, men, and cis/het people, actually lets us off the hook.
marginalized people don’t need politeness, they need power
Raising others and getting out of the way so they actually have the requirements to raise themselves diminishes NO ONE. Of course we don't need to give politeness but calling out and shaming isn't about that...it's about disrupting the rudeness of the dominant culture, about not letting there be no consequences.
Oh, Canada. (via annascottpiano)
Here’s another sign that defines Canada:
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/jul/30/canada-first-nations-indigenous-women-inquiry
yeah cool and make young parents, almost always mothers, never leave the house again and socially isolate and publically embarrass em cuz they can’t afford babysitters for years, cool idea. at what point as a culture have we decided to hate on kids collectively. is it since the invention of refined sugars, I wouldn’t surprised if there was a connection.
And then be surprised when the children have zero social skills because they’ve been told they’re not welcome on account of Not Being Real People But Dogs Are Totally Ok.
…wow the comments on this are fucking scary. How many of the people going ‘yes ban kids from public spaces’ are also feeling disrespected by baby boomers? Do you fuckers not understand that Children. Are. People.
I’m conflicted about this, and I think it’s because the children that are most disruptive are the offspring of people who do not believe Children Are People, and that is the whole source of the problem.
I absolutely think that’s true. We need to allow for the fact that kids are adults in training and will often require our patience and leniency. BUT they respond much better to being treated with respect than, by default, as a nuisance. Kids in adult spaces are in a very difficult position. They are in a place where they can’t play freely, because it might disrupt the peace- so it’s up to adults who require them to behave with more control to include them and offer them something in exchange. Like, shit, it’s not fun when you’re five and there’s a family dinner and all the adults are talking about adult stuff you don’t understand, no one wants to talk to you because they’re not interested in the things that fascinate you, but you’re also expected to sit quietly and politely for as long as the adults need you to. And follow certain rules you might not even know exist yet. And not interrupt the conversation because whatever you say is not as important as whatever adults have to say, for some reason.
People often don’t realise how much self-control they actually demand from children. There was this excellent post once about how yes, you CAN take walks with your toddler, if you just account for the fact that they take smaller strides and walk slower than you. Scale down the experience. Make it inclusive. Make it enjoyable for everyone. Kids are People, and Kids are Not As Experienced Or Capable As You.
And also chill with the reactions to kids existing- soooo many people get all annoyed if they just hear a child’s voice. But if an adult says something a little louder, or does something clumsy, it’s no big deal. Every time I take an airplane and there’s a little kid, their babbling and whimpering and, yes, even crying is way less annoying than the exasperated sighs and demands to ‘shut that kid up!’ from entitled adults around me. Like, ok, the baby’s a baby, what’s your excuse for being rude and disruptive?
Whenever I see a child at a restaurant being ignored by their parents I try to engage the child in peek-a-boo or waving or just smiling. I know how bad social anxiety is, and I want to do my best to make sure no one else is forced into it - by making sure that being in public is a desired thing for the child. It has the side effect of reducing crying and yelling, because the child is too entranced to think of crying.
Ultimately, I wish children were treated like dogs, in that people look forward to seeing them and interacting with them, even complimenting them. And that dogs were treated more like children, with owners watching out for them and there not being regulations treating them as pariahs to be hidden or shunned.
This whole hating on children trend is so ugly
FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT holy crap
Even if you don’t like kids, be nice to them, treat them with dignity. They did nothing to you, especially not purposefully. A child won’t understand why an adult is being mean to them, but the psychological and emotional toll will be very real for them.
Treating them with dignity does NOT mean allowing them everywhere or everything, etc. Setting boundaries for kids is IMPORTANT and teaches them that they are allowed their own boundaries. I'm not saying to be mean or rude to them or parents, but I am saying that being permissive doesn't equal being good or respectful. Sometimes it's the opposite. Children do better when learning to deal with disappointments in healthy ways. Disappointments happen to everyone. Learning to deal with them, knowing you CAN deal with them, is way more loving than being kept from them. Ahem...keeping kids from disappointments, from learning to deal with them, is how we got the Trump kids. Permissiveness for the sake of itself is not healthy.
WHY IS NOBODY TALKING ABOUT THIS
THERE ARE GAY CONCENTRATION CAMPS BEING SET UP CHECHNYA, RUSSIA
GAY PEOPLE ARE BEING TORTURED AND PUT INTO CONCENTRATION CAMPS AND IT’S NOT EVEN IN THE TOP TEN IN THE TRENDING SECTION ON TUMBLR
WHAT THE HELL CAN WE PLEASE TALK ABOUT THIS
‘murica!!!! Happy (early) 4th of July :)
P.S.: I know Gordon Ramsay’s Scottish, it’s just that he’s so ubiquitous now in American cooking competitions. Also not trying to downplay his international culinary achievements!
not only is he not American, american shows are NOT like this unless they're set up that way. even chopped has people sharing and sometimes allowing people to add ingredients after time is called. there are lots of reasons to criticize america; this isn't one. It's just stupid.