NOTICE REGARDING USER IMBICILITE / WHITLEY.
alright - i want to preface by stating i absolutely did not want it to have to come to this. at all. ever. but after being advised by several people i trust ( some of whom are my closest friends ), i have decided to post this for my own safety and sanity. please do not interact with me if you interact with my ex boyfriend, imbicilite / vaniteuxite ( as well as other blogs ). this is not a petty drama following a breakup. i put up with consistent guilt tripping, gaslighting, victim blaming, manipulation and emotional abuse during my time being involved with whit, as well as having his friends sent after me to white-knight for him whenever we got into a disagreement.
 i do not want to be forced to make a full callout, so i will include some brief screencaps underneath my post. anyone who needs to see more can contact me privately, but i will not be sharing the full conversation - both for whitâs privacy and for my own as a great deal of personal details were included. his silence has made me concerned that he is going to try and twist this to paint me as the villain ( as he has so often done whenever anyone calls him out ), so i just wanted to put this out there and get it seen, both for my safety and peace of mind and for yours. i would also like to point out that he has already attempted to make himself the victim of this situation, and made it public himself. here is evidence of that so he cannot blame me for this:Â
this is not a call to abuse, harass or otherwise harm whit. he is ill, something that he has stated several times, and he is trying to get help. but, in his own words, sometimes you have to speak up to avoid others getting hurt. and after a tough decision ( and him vpn blocking me on every platform and blog ) i have reached this decision. whit if youâre reading this, i truly apologise. i will not make a callout on you as i know that you have trauma regarding them, but i HAVE to make this post for myself. i will not be bullied into staying quiet. i canât. screenshots and further explanation will be below the cut. please like / reblog if you read this so i know who ends up seeing it.Â
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i typically donât involve myself in things like this, but. iâm the person that whitley accused of being an awful and mean backstabber who uses people for free graphics. so i feel my involvement is now necessary, and my screenshot heavy experience will be posted under the cut. as kier said above, please like or reblog if you read this so i know who has seen it.Â
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i donât want to drag up old drama, but I am also someone who has had trouble with whit in the past and had many people confide in me about being uncomfortable rping and interacting with him. those individuals repeatedly came to me in very emotionally unstable states due to being guilt tripped in order to continue to interact, always catering to whitâs preferred scenarios.
additionally, whit very often victim blamed myself and these people, and I myself was personally triggered by the way he romanticized abuse.
when i got the courage to call whit out, it was due to him actively hurting one of my friends. the callout I posted was angry and not very well written, and I do wish I had written it differently. However, that does not negate the reaction it got, wherein I was attacked by several anons, whitley himself, blocked when I didnât give whit his way, and then approached by several more anons thanking me for making the callout post, and revealing that they too had been hurt by whitâs actions.
i reblog this only to let it be known that there is an additional someone who can vouch for OPâs story, and to share my own experience.
 So I understand how these posts look. It looks like a lot of personal drama that has been passed back and forth - so why post it on tumblr at all? Why not like, deal with things in private? If Whitley does this stuff, why not block him?Â
 This goes beyond personal bullshit. This is why I havenât talked about what Whitley has done to me: itâs personal, so I donât need to put it on tumblr. Now, Whitley has done this to a lot of people.Â
 I am linking the stalking that Whitley has done to me since November. Recently, I had to change all of my discord information because Whitley found it and I donât feel safe joining discord servers now. In November, I made the mistake of informing him that I will be blocking him (after repeatedly asking him to please, please leave me out of his personal issue). Since then, he has been keeping track of anything that I post. Multiple people have asked him to stop, to leave me alone, and he has refused.Â
 Please listen to people when we say that we have been stalked and abused.Â
please listen to this post.Â
this is not âone incidentâ this is not âbreakup dramaâ this is not one person with a problem with another, this is dozens of people with their own stories, their own bad feelings, their own struggles.Â
the level of abuse, gaslighting and manipulation i have seen come out of this person. itâs hard to believe, but i am asking you to believe it.Â
i have been told that whit seems to think iâm personally responsible for turning people against him, which i never attempted to do (until this moment i guess). in fact, iâve had nothing to do with whit for months now, but he is still warning people away from me. heâs still claiming extreme emotional trauma over being ghosted by a group of people he was making feel uncomfortable and unsafe; as if he didnât cause us severe emotional distress first.
i might get called out by him for ghosting him, but sometimes thatâs what you have to do to make yourself feel comfortable. his presence in my life was causing me anxiety, so i stopped talking to him. and contrary to his belief, that doesnât require an explanation, no-one has to explain themselves, no-one needs to give someone who is mentally harming them the reason that they are leaving. especially if the person they are leaving is known for manipulation and guilt tripping people into staying or stepping outside their comfort zone.Â
i donât have screencaps, i donât have a long winded story or a big dramatic reveal. what i have is months of the little things that eat at you. the vague feeling of being watched and stalked, the unease and discomfort, the feeling like the next thing you say might set someone off in a bad way, or that it might be taken out of context and used against you publicly, or that someone is talking behind your back, or trying to get you to do something you donât want to do and wonât take no for an answer, or any other number of tricks that whitley used to try and keep people quiet and complacent and scared. well iâm none of those things right now and iâm here to tell you:Â Â
it doesnât have to be one huge moment, it can be lots of little moments. and thatâs okay and valid too.
i would like to add onto these posts and say iâve made my own post about whitley. i didnât want to add it to here, because i thought it would be better in itâs own separate postâŠ
anyways, if you would like to see it, and/or reblog it, i will link it here. and i just want to reblog this post itself to get this spread around and to get the word out of all of this to as many people as possible. my heart goes out to everyone involved in this, and with him, and if you need anyone at all to talk or vent to, my IMs are always open.
PLEASE READ. A FINAL ADDITION TO MY STORY.
this will be my last addition to this post. i am tired. i am physically ill due to stress and anxiety, and mentally iâm not doing too hot. at the time of writing this, i have whitley blocked everywhere, on every platform. the reason i state this is - after the posting of my original post yesterday - whit sent me friend requests, both on my current discord and on my secondary one. as i am someone who believes in seeing the good in people, i accepted his request in the hopes to sort things out. however, this was not to be the case.Â
i am, once again, putting this under a read more as it got rather lengthy and has several screenshots. i donât want to clog peopleâs dash with this. i just want to feel safe and okay again.Â
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This user is @/archclergy @/dicerph && considers Whitley a deadname. X now uses the handle Rosario and the pronouns x/xs/xself, so refer to x accordingly.
@archclergyâ : â This disclaimer, âIâve changed my alias from whitley to rosario for gender-affirming purposesâ , has been in my rules page since day 1 on this blog. Itâs a little more out of the way as of my latest page updates, but itâs still there and was front and center in my rules for the first two months of this blogâs existence. Iâm not hiding anything, nor am I trying to fool anyone. I simply no longer wish to go by a name that gives me the dysphorias. Itâs my deadname. I donât like being called it. â disclaimer x references, screencapped beneath.
pokemon, the owl house, steven universe & fandomless muses beware.
btw Whitley / Rosario is currently active on Twitter/X.
DO NOT ENGAGE.
Simply letting people know so they can be proactive in blocking and keeping the victims safe from being taken off guard.