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When there’s too much shit you need to get done at once

#Too many like two #Or three #Honestly even just one

Anyway if you’re from the US and you ever wanted to know what tumblr feels like from a non-USAmerican perspective (please note that the rest of the world is not a monolith either and none of these apply without exception):

Everybody’s talking about brands and stores you’ve never seen in real life. You generally assume they exist, but they might as well be one giant prank the rest of the internet is in on.

You find a post that just sounds wrong. It makes no sense. It’s like OP lives in a weird alternate reality. 9/10 times, it’s just some USAmerican Thing.

You’re still not entirely sure how much an inch is. Or a foot. Or even how many of the former there are in the latter. You maybe know your height in feet and inches.

You have no idea how much a pound is. You’d also like to know how the fuck pound shortens to lbs.

What the fuck is “military time”

Somebody talks about some legal process or something similar. They don’t mention which country’s legal system this pertains to. You know anyway.

People talk about politics. None of it pertains to you. Many posts contain guilt tripping. “How can you not care about this?? Why won’t you reblog this?? People need to know this about x candidate for y position!” You’re busy trying to stay on top of the political landscape in your own country.

You pick up some random slang from the internet. Monkey see monkey do. You’re called racist. You didn’t know it was AAVE. You learnt it from black letters on white background, not from the mouths of people whose faces you could see. How would you have known? You try to unlearn it.

People tell you that you must publicly denounce Chick-fil-A or you’re homophobic. You don’t even know what a Chick-fil-A is.

People say you don’t know LGBTQ+ history. What they mean is you don’t know USAmerican LGBTQ+ history. Nobody cares about your country’s history.

You’re “called out” on using an “offensive” term. It’s (a direct translation of) a completely harmless word where you live.

People expect you to have an idea of how far apart 2 USAmerican states are. You barely know geography past your country’s immediate neighbors.

You randomly switch between British and American spellings. Nothing’s real and there are no rules.

People talk about multiple hour car rides and you get twitchy just thinking about it. You suddenly understand why USAmerican cars are so big.

Somebody talks about school shooting drills. You only ever had fire alarm drills.

You see a cool statistic. The study’s only about the US. It’s unfortunately of no use to you.

People misuse/misspell words and names from your native language. It’s tiring.

(You feel sorry for the French. Nobody should be allowed to mangle the word déjà vu like that.)

You’re still not over the fact that USAmerican school children are supposed to say that pledge thing every morning. You’re never getting over that.

You still don’t know why the men are fresh or what the fuck a sophomore is.

Who the fuck pays up first and then fills up gas??? That’s made up, right??

Everybody has a weird obsession with some comfort food you’d never even heard of before you signed up here.

Fellow non-USAmericans, please add anything else you can think of.

#Ahahahahahah #Why men are fresh just killed me

lilli9

day to day

#oh god I haven't reblogged anything in YEARS #i almost forgot how this looked like #i'm so bad #these photos though are amazing

I haven’t been here in forever, but I’m back! I don’t know if anyone cares or even if I have any followers left, but hello there!

#Lorelai Gilmore #gilmore girls #Luke Danes #mystuff #So..i'm back

theirglassofteaat221b

Besides the fact that Mary is an abysmal wife (I could go on for years about that point), John’s not the best husband, and their relationship was doomed from the start. Obviously we didn’t get to see every single aspect of their dating life, but in regards to the show, their entire relationship pretty much revolved around Sherlock.

John was deep in grief over Sherlock when they met, and it was heavily implied that working through that grief is what triggered them to start dating. John even semi-referenced his grief when he was proposing (usually people focus on the happy excitement not dead best friends).

Much of their engagement was spent with Sherlock, mostly John and Sherlock on cases because John wanted to escape the wedding planning. Not to mention Sherlock planned their wedding.

One month post wedding, when they should still be in full blown honeymoon phase, and getting ready for stupid accident baby (I still really hate that stupid baby, worst plot decision ever!), John is beyond grump and literally dreaming about running off on an adventure with Sherlock.

Immediately Mary’s lies start to be revealed, and John presumably moves in with Sherlock for MONTHS! He sure as hell doesn’t talk to his wife for months. And again, they should be prepping for the stupid baby.

John “forgives” Mary, moves back in with her, yet still seems to spend all of his free time with Sherlock, to the point that he ignores his phone and almost misses the birth of his stupid child. Even after the stupid baby comes, he’s at Baker Street. Remember when he made balloon John to keep Sherlock company when he was downstairs helping Mrs. Hudson with Sudoku? He’s not helping Sherlock with a case, you think he’d be at home with his beloved wife and spawn, but no, he’s doing number puzzles with his former landlady.

More of Mary’s lies are revealed and she ditches her husband and child (who those after her should be fully aware of), and even in her goodbye letter, she references Sherlock. Let’s not forget that John anticipated that she’d ditch them before Sherlock even confronted her (Sherlock and John always trusting each other), and he and Sherlock worked out a plan together.

Then we have her “tragic” death complete with a guilt trip, and she leaves the ridiculous DVDs telling Sherlock to nearly kill himself, and that since she’s gone they can become “what they’ve always been and were meant to be” (I’m paraphrasing)

And I didn’t even talk about how John conducted an emotional affair with Sherlock’s sister (perhaps because she subconsciously reminded him of someone?) when anyone else would have been in full on happy family, “we have a beautiful new child” mode.

TL;DR: If we were meant to root for John and Mary, why the fuck did they make their relationship such shit, and have John running to Sherlock at every possible opportunity?

#hey I resurface at times

nordic-at-heart

Today on “rules of English language I didn’t realise were a thing until someone pointed it out”

#well I didn't know I needed this

the-7-percent-solution

If anyone wants to see the low attendance numbers for themselves at the LA Sherlock con, notice that this is the main stage and the talk occurring right now is with Mark, Steven, and Sue. This is nothing like the London event last year.

#I am so glad

love-in-mind-palace

"Mary shot him nicely." Can someone make a compilation of Sherlock's expressions of agonic pain after he's shot? Because I recall them awfully heartwrenching.

I got a visual for ya

Here is Mary shooting Sherlock nicely

Here is the nice handiwork

Here is a face journey of sherlock feeling nice..

holmesianscholar

Nice

love-in-mind-palace

the reaction is spot on

#I'm dying ahahahahahahah

friskykatt

Something More About Mary

I didn’t realize people would be so salty about my brief convo with Steven about Mary. I prefer Mary to be evil cuz I think it’s more logical and hella more interesting, but to me it’s their show, they do what they want. Anyways, here’s the whole exchange while I remember it.

Me: do you think Mary was redeemed in the end, or was she still morally dubious?

Steven, surprised: well I don’t think she was morally dubious at all!

Me: uhh she did shoot Sherlock…

S: but she did it nicely, it was surgical. She was stuck in a difficult situation. If Sherlock didn’t mind it, why should we?

Me: so you think she was redeemed by her ending?

S, slightly frustrated with me: she didn’t need redemption, it’s not a scorecard. She had such a tougher background, so her movement towards humanity means more than …Sherlock is also, but he’s getting there, and John is solidly (for humanity, something like that I forget the wording, he rambled a bit, Mary took a bullet for Sherlock etc. )But she’s dead now, and there’s not a scorecard for that. It’s not black and white.

Me: ok, thanks for your time.

ravenmorganleigh

Sigh.

sussexbound

Moff’s emotional intelligence, understanding of relationships, of the natural consequences of one’s actions, and knowledge of the way to influence and impact your audience with your writing seems to be really low… I mean even Amanda was tweeting stuff like, “Mary is a fucking psychopath”. Granted Amanda says a lot of stuff on Twitter for strokes, but like I think it’s fair to say that even she thought Mary’s arch was either going to turn out a little differently than it did, and/or felt that some of Mary’s actions in TST qualified her for ‘fucking psychopath’ status. Also, if you set a character up to a) come between the protag and his love interest, and b) have them shoot the protag, and c) have that protag claw his way back to life just to save his love interest, and then d) have that character threaten to murder him again if he causes her to lose the man they both love, it’s only logical that an audience will assume that that character is meant to be viewed as villainous, or at the very least a clear danger and obstacle to your protag’s happiness and wellbeing. And yet Moffat seems incapable of comprehending this? The mind boggles…

johnlockheartor

So if you have a tough background and are in a tight spot, it is ok to shoot someone? I’m sure law enforcement will be happy to let you go once you explain the circumstances. I really feel sorry and maybe even a little worried for Sue to be married to a man who thinks these things. In what universe would Sherlock be ok with being shot, going through months of pain, suffering and rehab. What if Mary had shot John because she was in a tight spot. Would that have been fine? Truly, this is a man who has absolutely no understanding of consequences of actions.

milarvela

Don’t know what made Amanda say that Mary was a psychopath. My theory is that that happened when she’d decided it was all over between her and Martin. Before that tweet, in every interview, she was of the opinion that Mary shot Sherlock because she loved John so much and was scared or whatever. Or perhaps she’d learned that Mary was going to jump in front of the bullet intended for Sherlock and thought that made her a psychopath?

lotsofstuff1987-deactivated2023

Oh for Gods sake, what absolute crap that man talks. How the fuck can you shoot someone, and they actually die, nicely? If someone shot him and he died and then magically came back to life when the surgeons had given up on him does anyone think he’d become friends with his attacker and then go around saying oh yes, but I was shot nicely?

That whole scene and its idiotic aftermath was one of the reasons I gave up on the show, because I thought it had simply become unbelievable rubbish. Now, Moffat compounds my loathing of him, sorry about that, by talking this absolute mind blowing drivel about someone being shot nicely. Sherlock didn’t mind. Oh well, that was your crappy, shitty writing, and totally unconnected with reality.

I’m somewhat tired, to be honest, in trying to be polite and reasonable about this, sorry, but everytime I read what Moffat says now I just get incredibly angry. He is simply absolutely clueless, as far as I’m concerned, and understands nothing.

YOU CANNOT SHOOT SOMEONE NICELY STEVEN. Go away and do some fucking research. Or just go away, permanently.

wssh-watson-deactivated20191117

I’m laughing so hard about this. It isn’t even just only what @sussexbound addressed–the function of Mary as minor character coming between protagonist and love interest, shooting the protagonist etc.–it is the fact that Mary was blatantly MIRRORED WITH MAGNUSSEN on several levels. And it was done in a way that either signals total brain death or absolute intentionality. We’d thought it was the latter; now it’s the first? Am I really supposed to buy that? There seems to be no other choice?

So you just… well, what, if you discard one scene as deleted scene you’re like oh hey wait I liked the lighting so much in that scene let’s re-shoot it and just have someone else in the protagonist’s place without any repercussions! Oh let’s take Mary to give her a bit of an edge why don’t we?! And what do you think about recycling lines? Been thinking all night, can’t think of any other but the t-shirt line for John… yeah let’s take it. Audience won’t notice it anyway they’re all brain dead, plus it’s once at the start and the end of the episode. No one will notice!

What the… fuck. They clearly know how to write antagonists. Moriarty? Magnussen? Hell, even Smith? Well done villains. I would have said Mary up to s4 too, but… LMAO? you can’t tell me you aren’t aware of what tf you are doing when you’re conceiving a character in a way you did with Mary. I suppose we’re supposed to be happy about the psychopathic edge they’ve given her to show John’s interests lie with the “different people,” because he isn’t that ordinary either? Who’d have thought! I would never have been able to think of that! It isn’t like he has been pining for his self-proclaimed sociopath of a best friend the last YEARS! Good god, what planet are they on? What the fuck? It’s hilarious to me by now because I’ve really come to care so little, but a part of me is still furious and disappointed af.

Yeah let’s just be glad they gave John an “intriguing” love interest. It could have been someone as funny and upbeat and crazy as Sarah who in the end it was just boring and normal! could have been Jeanette who has some self-respect and deals with difficult men in a way that involves not killing someone else. How mundane her problem solving behaviour was… so let’s get John a psychopathic woman who’s then reformed in her ways because she got a family who don’t we?! Jolly good idea!

What were they smoking?

witch-lock

whatever they were smoking can I have a hit cause lord I feel like I need it

#It is crazier every post damn

A Study in Shooting Nicely.

Mary: Hi Sherlock! I'm going to shoot you and you may have like a 95% chance of dying. But don't worry, I'll shoot you NICELY and even give you 3 seconds to figure out how to not die. That's ok right?

Sherlock: Yeah ok that sounds like surgery

Me: WTF

Everyone else: WTF

Mark and Steven: ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ You can totes shoot people nicely. It's a thing now.

#jeez

marcespot

Mofftiss on Mary.

witch-lock

Mofftiss, an intellectual: we looked up the word grief in the dictionary

“Acceptance” as a part of emotional healing means “acceptance that this is where you are, and all positive progress will stem from this point in time, you cannot move forward from some imaginary point in the past or future, you can only begin from where you actually are.”

It does not mean “you need to learn to regard the shit situation you were/are in as acceptable.”

That shit that happened/is happening to you? That is merely the reality of what has happened/is happening. Your goal is not to say “it’s okay”, to forgive, to say “this situation is fine”. You NEVER have to say those things if you don’t want to, and you SHOULDN’T say those things if they are not true, it will not make things go any faster.

Your goal is to be able to say “WELP, here’s where we are, in Bullshit City. I guess we start from here.”

Acceptance is a realistic assessment of where you are and a willingness to begin from there. It is a recognition that old patterns, whether positive or negative, cannot or do not have to continue.

And it’s not a 100% all-or-nothing thing. Some days you will be a lot more level than others. Some days you will be really angry or sad about what happened/what you lost/what is happening. That’s okay. But on many and eventually most days you will be a lot more focused on the future, and what you can do. And believe me, that is SUCH a huge relief.

Soooo, if someone is encouraging you to think of “acceptance” solely as “contentment” or “totally at peace”, they are approaching it wrong, in a very not-helpful way.

If you are struggling, maybe it will help you to see that this important recovery stage is not an insultingly tall hurdle you have to jump with a smile on your face and perfect gracefulness.

It is merely an end to foundering because you have found your new solid ground. It will be a quiet, messy thing, and it may sneak up on you, but it will come. And from there, you can go in many different directions. New ones. Ones you never imagined.

If you aren’t there yet, keep going. Fight and scream and cry if you have to. All that shit is necessary shit! Do what you gotta do! Just keep slogging, and try to hold on to the fact that eventually, even if you don’t feel like it, you’ll get there.

The bad stuff will never be “okay”. But YOU can be. YOU can be okay. You WILL be.