A public journal that acts like the most exciting segment of your local newspaper, where the cool girls hang out, drink cosmopolitan and lavender tea!
I wanted to write something that girls (or anyone, for that matter) my age would relate to, like how SATC influenced women in their 30s to live and have fun with the girls. I wanted this blog to be a place where we can all talk and share experiences, something we couldn't do with newspapers back then.
Most of my entries are based on:
SATC
Movie reviews (because Letterboxd isn't enough for me)
Quotes that altered my brain chemistry, and I hope that they will alter yours too
Open discussions about art., music, film, fashion, literature and everything fabulous
Essays and other subjects that involve girl blogging.
And everything I put my mind into
ALL readers, fandoms, and dolls are welcome to digest and interact with this blog. Criticism and suggestions are also encouraged for frontal lobe development hehe.
I probably can't top Carrie Bradshaw's enthusiasm for the whole dating scene, or the interesting subjects about somewhat reasonable people. Now, I concluded that everyone is forced to be a "Miranda" after all the women getting fcked over by men (not surprised).
All we can do now is be a cynic, because give me a good reason to trust these boys again.
"Fuck around and find out" until you wake up next morning regretting everything, having to wince every time another "flashback" comes in. Yeah, don't drink, kids.
“We were all in fact just dating the same person over and over again?”
–Carrie Bradshaw, Season 2; Episode 14 (1999)
Relationship patterns, will we ever break them? The question that lingered throughout this episode was the certain repetition that we all have when it comes to relationships. It defined what it even means and how do you identify that it's actually a pattern and not just a statistical error in the system. According to the Show, Relationship patterns are the repetition of human archetypes in the context of dating or attraction. For example, you tend to like or date men who are insecure and self-loathing, or you notice yourself dating the same person all over again, but with different hair, different age, different everything–but the outcome is always the same: they’re emotionally unavailable and have an utter fear of commitment. But what is the root of this “pattern”? And why is it so relevant to this day?
A pattern is like a criterion, a basis, a textbook of which ones to date and which ones to throw, which ones to keep and which ones to forget. A pattern which determines your choices of men (or women) we usually end up with. Will this pattern perpetually haunt our dating experiences, and will it permanently put us through an endless cycle of identical men? Was this pattern given to us, or did we aimlessly follow through it until we soon realized that we are isolated in the same situation all over again?
My father once said to me that you can never really choose which person to date; the universe or destiny just throws a person at your face, whether you like it or not. This person can be either a gift or a bomb, a person who can either fix or ruin your life. At the end of the day, you learn from this person–grow as if they were some kind of fertiliser, the good ones usually stay or leave with good provenance, and the bad ones leave to develop your frontal lobe. But then again, my father has been married for 27 years, trying to salvage any romantic feelings in my body.
One of my friends said that if was the familiarity that kept us around, we were so used of being treated like shit–we eventually just fell into that routine. This statement can lead to many things that psychology can answer for us. I am not a psychologist; I’m an architect. But it made sense in a way, we were so comfortable with what we had before, we’ll do it all over again–like a cigarette.
At the end of this episode, Carrie emphasized that we don’t actually break patterns just because we tell them to, but there’s this certain detail we usually miss, so faint that we tap ourselves from going rogue, like when Miranda suddenly grew fonder of Skipper after he lashed out at her or when Carrie went back to her same old routine.
Author's note: This is my first time writing a column-type piece, treat this as my first day as you will. Criticism is always welcome, opinions and reactions are allowed (ofc). Treat this blog as an interactive "New York star". Please enjoy reading this short entry, and my ask box is fully open for more additional edits!!! Thank youuu!!!
