I think Differently And That's Okay

[forty1daydream-deactivated20210]

every time my mood drops, it’s like i can hear everyone around me sigh a silent exasperated sigh of, “not again”

i promise that i am just as sick and tired of it as you are

[imsoofuckingsad-deactivated2018]

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[teamnowalls-deactivated20180918]

realizing as an adult your family should have treated you differently as a kid is fucking terrible

[anshelinasholie]

me for 3 years straight: “sorry i haven’t been myself lately”

[botanize]

this is really my diary like i can’t believe u all get the exclusive access to this content..the fact that i do this for free.. is beyond me

[bublegunn]

“I only believe what I want to believe so I can be a little bit happier, I only remember what I want to remember because I need to protect my self..”-Ji Won

[tankaramo]

it’s incredible how everyone on this site talks about their mental illnesses and how childhood in particular is usually the root of it, how literally almost every person going to therapy has childhood traumas caused by adults, but you’re so happy to talk about hating kids, to say cruel and dehumanizing things about them (calling them “demons”, comparing them to animals and inanimate objects you dislike, viewing them as an inconvenience and a thing to be trained and disciplined, etc), to not show them basic human decency or compassion while acting like this kind of mindset is completely okay and harmless

[sunflorally]

bad friends will showcase you as the villain in every story, even when they’re actually the ones doing you wrong. these people have a habit of sugarcoating who they are for the world so they’re seen as better than they are, and are so afraid to admit to a mistake that they assign the blame to you. these people are toxic to your reputation, to your mental health, and to your lifestyle, and if it becomes a noticeable problem, you need to set yourself free of them.

[sunflorally]

your relationship doesn’t have to be toxic to be a bad one. it can be unfulfilling, exhausting, loveless. and someone doesn’t have to be terrible to you for you to leave them. if you aren’t primarily happy in your relationship, you have a valid reason to not be in it. don’t beat yourself up because your situation “could be worse.” if it isn’t what you want, you don’t have to stay in it.

[stimman3000]

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[4lup]

echolalia is maybe. the weirdest adhd/autism Thing because sometimes you just. hear something. or read something. and your brain just goes. No. You Must Say This And Only This In An Extremely Weird Voice Over And Over For The Next 2 Hours

[wavesrising-deactivated20190412]

Have compassion for yourself!!! I cannot say that enough. You are human. You are imperfect. You’ve been wrong in speech and action. You’ve made mistakes and you will make more! But you are still worthy of empathy, understanding, and love. You deserve this and I understand self compassion can be hard, but it is a practice to work at. We deserve that within ourselves. 

[heathens-and-kings]

I’m gonna be blunt: you bring little worth to a friendship if you’re apathetic toward the good in your friends’ lives. If you shrug when they come to you with little things that they’re happy about, they will eventually stop coming to you with anything and you’ll wonder why that relationship feels stale. Practice genuine excitement with the people in your life. If you see a friend try to downplay how excited they are about something just be like “yoooo! This is a cool thing! You’re a lovely person and you deserve lovely things! I love you!" 

I think it’s easy to be someone people complain to, but it’s just as if not more important to be someone they know they’re allowed to be excited and proud and happy around.

[foulserpent]

i think another trend to ditch is attaching MORAL significance to one’s stage of recovery. like unfortunately people on here are starting to act like hating yourself or struggling more heavily with your mental health than others makes you a bad person and like. it doesnt. what determines the kind of person you are is how you treat others, not your personal struggles

that doesnt mean its ‘okay’ to hate yourself or whatever, its a bad mindset to be in and you need to make moves to start finding value in yourself and take steps towards having a better future rather than accepting stagnancy. but it doesnt make you a bad person and youre still a valuable person who is loved regardless of your feelings towards yourself or the things youre fighting with. 

someone who hates themself is at a different stage of their recovery, and though they need to make the choice to move forward, they also need support. they arent a tool for your moral posturing to treat like a bad person and “anti recovery” for not being as healthy as you are

[furiousgoldfish]

your abuser could have gone thru life without abusing you. this was an option all along. they didn’t have to hurt you, they didn’t have to be cruel, they didn’t have to declare themselves an authority for what is and isn’t good for you and decide that abuse is what you deserve, they didn’t have to manipulate you, they didn’t have to lie to you, they didn’t have to insult, criticize or humiliate you, they didn’t have to control you, they didn’t have to crush your self confidence, they didn’t have to scare or hit or push or torture or gaslight you, they didn’t have to do any of it. they could have gone thru their life without doing it. nobody forced them to do it. it was their own decision to do those things. they are the sole person responsible for doing all of it. they would have lost nothing if they didn’t do those things. it wouldn’t take anything away from their life not to destroy yours. hold. them. responsible.

[fdsfjdsfjkf93723679267-deactiva]

the way that tumblr treats mental health is really bad. there’s a weird culture on this site where nothing but misinformation is spread and text posts like ‘that bpd feel when you listen to the same song over and over’ get thousands of notes without a single person questioning it

this site honestly makes mental health issues into something ‘cool’ and also encourages never recovering. phrases such as ‘we cant all be neurotypical karen’ become more popular than ‘even if there is no cure, there is always treatment’, and when actually mentally ill people share coping mechanisms, they’re accused of being neurotypical. instead of helping each other and supporting each other, it feels like this site just wants to keep people miserable forever and discourage any attempts to recover.

its extremely damaging. i hope it changes. as a mentally ill person, taking a step back from the popular rhetoric that goes around on this site did me a great deal of good. i recommend it.

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being praised for my resilience is nice but what’s not nice is that I never had a choice