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Final Goodbye!

Hello Everyone,

My family and I are gonna be going to Washington soon to see my husband. Apparently, a few husbands coworkers have seen my blog, so my husbands want me to meet with some of them. I am pretty nervous, but just maybe my husband is going to “Remember The Ladies.” My daughter is doing well at school, and her finals are coming up, so she is pretty stressed about that. I see how hard my daughter is working and I am so proud of her. My son, which by the way I never talk about my son because he is off with his Dad in an internship and sometimes he doesn't even write me back too. Anyways I just see how hard my daughter is working and she tells me that she feels that she has to work even harder because she is my daughter but most importantly because she is a woman and wants to be taken seriously in the business world.

Then really does sadden me because I try to remind my daughter that as long as she continues to work hard, she will be successful and that she should look up to all the CEO woman out there. But, it is true sometimes an opportunity will be given to man just because he is a man. So what I am going to propose in my will when I die which I know is something private, but I have to put out there for my daughter. In my will I am going to give all my stocks and property stocks to my daughter. I want her to feel that she has something stable with her so that she can invest even more. I am going to leave the right amount for her daughter one day and even her granddaughters. For the rest of my money and valuable fortune, I am going to give to the woman that has helped me with my business and who believed in me. I will leave one property site to my son, but my intention for my will is to help out the woman that helped me.

Us females need to have each other backs! And once we do oh it's over for you men.

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By blackonblackbk

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Feminist Myths

As you can tell, I am feminist because I advocate for gender equality, but people (mainly boys) think that being a feminist means that you burn your bra and a lesbian. Now if you want to burn your bra by all means for it but don’t do it and say it is because that is what feminist do because we feminist do so much more than that. Even when you google “what is a definition of feminist” and the response is “someone who supports feminism” now we do support, but again we do so much more than that. We support all types of gender and people of all colors, shapes, and sizes.

Everyone has their own definition of what it means to be a feminist, but for me to be a feminist, it says that you support everyone and anyone and everything that I have listed above. Being a feminist means knowing that I am privileged women in this country and I am going to fight for those who do not get the same privileges like me only because of their skin color or their gender. Even being a woman I have to fight for my own rights because I do not get the same treatment or opportunities as my husband does. Unfortunately, there are still people who are not as open to this and still like believe that just because their ancestor migrated here that they are superior to other races but let's not forget that this is not your motherland because your ancestors took this land from the native Americans. However, I would like to point out that with this new generation more people are open about being a feminist and seeing this make me happy because everyone is working together to fight for what is right and becoming patriotic by protesting for a better democracy.

https://ezproxyfh.fhda.edu:2248/stable/40662848?seq=1#metadata_info_tab_contents

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Human Trafficking Awareness Day. (11th of January)

20-25 million victims;

Silenced, abused, sold.

Slavery was abolished in 1833 (in the UK), yet over 180 years later we hear of innocents sold for sexual exploitation, made to work with little pay, forced to beg but not seeing a penny and transported from country to country.

Some as young as 12, used and abused.

And our society, our leaders turn a blind eye. How to we respond to this atrocious global fast-growing crime? Do we choose to ignore it, or raise our voices for those silenced?

It’s time to speak up, it’s time to act.

Slavery

Listen up I am agitated. I have not heard from my husband, and I just need a few moments to rant because the government right now is just trying to calm this orange guy in oval office and I’d rather have my husband devote at least some of his time writing or even emailing me at this point. The president is a racist who wants to get rid of hard-working immigrants that they only just want what is best for them and their families. I have heard so many stories about immigrants from coming to the United States for their children to get a better education.

I personally think that the president should be focusing his issue on human trafficking because they are young girls and women right now being sold off as sex slaves. I am proud American, but this country from the beginning has been doing slavery since before our founding fathers came to place. Families in African countries were being kidnapped and put into ships just so that they could come to America to be sold off to a white farmer. Slavery is what started racism because the white male farmers would treat the African American enslaved men and women even children in inhumane acts. They would rape the women and then when they birthed their children they would sell of the child the moment it was of age. The civil happened because of slavery and even though they did make out a law to end slavery. There is still human trafficking. My husband who I love dearly needs to reply to me or at least tell that man to focus on this more significant issue. This whole issue just makes me anxious because I am a mother and I would never want any mother to go through this or see their child go through this.

https://www.masshist.org/digitaladams/archive/doc?id=L17750616aa&bc=%2Fdigitaladams%2Farchive%2Fbrowse%2Fletters_1774_1777.php

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Black History Month day 13: Phillis Wheatley, first published African American poet

Women in Early American History

When people think about early American History, they think about our founding fathers, but I want to discuss the woman that shaped American because let us be real here our founding fathers weren’t that great I mean the only great thing is the fact that one of them was also named John Adams.

Mercy Ottis Warren (1728-1814)- Mercy was a political writer and propagandist of the American Revolution. Mercy was very openly political and opened meetings at her house and named it “Committees of Correspondence.” Mercy was a famous poet, and personally, I think that if I were living at that time, she and I would be great friends.

https://www.britannica.com/biography/Mercy-Otis-Warren

Catherine Ferguson(1779-1854)- was a slave until one of her friends paid 200 dollars for her freedom. After that Catherine spent her devoted time to teach young children black and white on the services through the church. Catherine herself did not obtain an education, but that did not stop her from helping the children. Catherine started her own Sunday school and would take of these children that came from horrible parents would even raise them as her own until they were fitted to better accommodations.

https://www.varsitytutors.com/earlyamerica/notable-women/mercy-warren

Phillis Wheatley(1753-1784)- She was kidnapped into slavery at a young age was given to John and Susannah Wheatley where she was given an education. Phillis was fortunate to be placed into Wheatley family because Phillis was able to write poetry and later have her poems published. Phillis introduced the horrors of slavery and how her family was taken away from her.

https://www.varsitytutors.com/earlyamerica/notable-women/phillis-wheatley

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A gentleman has no business to concern himself about the Legs of a Lady.

Abigail Smith to John Adams, 1764.

The proper response when your fiance tells you that crossing your legs isn’t ladylike. According to John, it “ruins the figure”.

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“Basis of Sex”

If you haven’t already watched this movie, I highly recommend it because a couple of weeks ago I went to watch this movie with my daughter. This movie is about Ruth Bader Ginsburg and the difficulties she faced as being a woman in education. Ruth went to Harvard where she was not taken seriously as a student because she was a woman although she was in the top of her class. Later when her husband is sick, she begins to do her husband homework aside from being a mother and trying to be taken seriously at her school. Ruth was able to persevere her entire life while struggling to be a lawyer. Men wouldn’t hire her because they only saw her as a secretary. Yet, Ruth changed her career by taking on a case within gender discrimination. Ruth does not do this alone with the help of her husband; she was able to take her case to the courts and win.

Seeing this movie with my daughter made me a proud mother because even in the film Ruth was having difficulties with her daughter but in the end, Ruth taught her daughter how to fight for what she believed in, and that is precisely what I am trying to do with my daughter. With everything that is going on right now, I am concerned with our country, and I do feel that we are not walking forward but almost working backward. The orange man just wants to kick hard-working immigrants out of this country when he should be focusing on more significant issues like education and health care. I sure do hope my husband can knock some sense into him.

https://www.masshist.org/digitaladams/archive/doc?id=L17740819aa&bc=%2Fdigitaladams%2Farchive%2Fbrowse%2Fletters_1774_1777.php

Self Care

This is one the most important and sometimes the most ignored factors in a woman’s life. We as a woman feel that is our duty to take care and make sure everyone else is okay before checking up on ourselves. My daughter has joined a club at Foothill college called “We for She,” and she told me that in this club the spent an entire quarter focusing on self-care. I was amazed by how these young group of the woman was taking the time to reflect on their bodies and resonate with each other on how they were doing. Being a mother and having to do all these tasks that my husband has left me while he away does make me forget about myself. I "needed to create a secure domestic environment in which he felt completely comfortable, a calm place where his harangues and mood swings were treated as lovable eccentricities"(Estes). I will admit it I do care more for my family than I do myself. My daughter started noticing it, and she began to help me more around the house for me to care more for myself. I admire that this club is bringing awareness to this factor because how are we able to fully enjoy our time being here if we are not listening to the factors in our bodies.

Woman especially need to focus on self-care we not to stop allowing for the mistreatments that other people put onto us and start to act selfishly. Since then I told my husband that he needs to come home more because our president is just in golf course and if he can go to the golf course than my husband can visit me. John has been coming home more often, and when he does I feel a whole again, but then my daughter reminds me that self-care is a one-person process. So then I began to do yoga and write more letters to myself this time rather than my husband. When I feel lonely or distraught I let my daughter know, and we go have lunch together, and she asks me how I am doing. I am so proud of my daughter and these woman in this club and hope that other woman and mothers do this with their daughters.

https://www.masshist.org/digitaladams/archive/doc?id=L17640408aa&bc=%2Fdigitaladams%2Farchive%2Fbrowse%2Fletters_1762_1773.php

Estes, Todd. “First Family: Abigail and John Adams.” Presidential Studies Quarterly, no. 1, 2013, p. 211. EBSCOhost, ezproxyfh.fhda.edu/login?url=http://search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx?direct=true&db=edsgao&AN=edsgcl.320732052&site=eds-live.

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thepowerwithin

Fall in love with yourself more and more with each passing day. Have so much respect for yourself that you automatically reject anyone that doesn’t.

Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin (via thepowerwithin)

Social Media

As a mother of a teenage daughter, I am appalled and sadden with the fact that my daughter spends her time comparing her body to models and she feels that she has to work out every day or eat healthy meals just to look that skinny. But that she also has to eat even more just to look “thick.” As a mother, I encourage her and any young woman out there that you should not be focusing on your appearance; everyone else is already doing that. You should and need to focus on your education on your intellectually. My daughter always tells me she does this to fit in or to have boys like her. I tell her that the right man will love you for you not for what you are trying to look like. Yes, that response is cliche to some of you but it worked for me, and it will work for all of you.

Social media can have such a negative connotation because people are continually posting all the beautiful glories about their lives but not sharing their troubles. It is an endless competition of who has the better life. You can choose to follow through this infinite cycle, or you can choose to start your own path. I decided to choose my own way. I first made my daughter take a break from social my deleting all her apps because of that she was able to focus more on her self interest and worry less about what others would think. My daughter was able to focus more in school and communicate more with her peers in class. As a mother, I could see that my daughter found it hard to not want to reload the app because she is such a millennial, but I told her that if she did want to re-load the apps, she would have to do it differently this time. My daughter, of course, re-loaded the apps but this time she started unfollowing all the beauty pages and started following accounts that helped her stay motivated.

That is the thing with technology it can either be as a useful tool, or it can harm you, and you can choose how you want it to affect you. In this family, we believe in ourselves and in each other. I decided to use technology as a way to start this blog and discuss topics that need to be mentioned to create a change. I feel that more woman is beginning to do the same. My husband just tells me that I should not focus on the negativity of social media and just write to him, but I feel like I must write about this because I know they are more young girls out there like my daughter feeling this way.

https://www.masshist.org/digitaladams/archive/doc?id=L17740224ja&bc=%2Fdigitaladams%2Farchive%2Fbrowse%2Fletters_1762_1773.php