Beary-Imperfect

Love yourself for who you are and you will truly be loved!:) https://twitter.com/MabikaLoVe

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[expensiveity]

as i continue to become a better woman. i’m really starting to understand the importance of remaining silent. everything doesn't need your input or opinion. everyone doesn’t deserve a reaction from you. some situations are really meant to bring you out character. know when to speak up. most importantly know when to remain silent.

[itsbetterwhenusmile]

Life itself can be so heartbreaking in so many different ways. One cannot even imagine…

[jaidspo-deactivated20250929]

My Digital Diet

~ rules i've set for myself to stay in the present

1. No phone for two hours after I wake up

this is a common one and it makes a big difference to my well-being. if the first thing you're seeing is news, emails from work, and notifications from socials you're throwing yourself into a bunch of unneeded tiny stressors before you're even out of bed. I like to stay unfazed and in that dreamy state for as long as I can.

2. Set it and forget it

If I'm doing a chore or task my phone goes in my room until everything is done. If I want music or a podcast on while I do it, I have wireless headphones and speakers around my house so I can set up the music then forget about my phone and get to work.

3. Maximum one hour of screentime per day

I love utilizing the digital wellness setting and making sure I keep up with my goals. I set locks on socials so after a set amount of time I can't access the app again that day and my phone automatically goes into Do Not Disturb in the evening.

4. No phone while with company

This is an obvious one that's seriously overlooked. The last thing I want while visiting with someone is having to take their attention away from their phones so I set the tone by putting my phone away whenever I'm chatting with someone. I want them to know I'm present with them and care about what they're saying.

5. Weekly digital detox

Once a week, usually on the weekend when I don't need my phone for work, I turn off all my tech and spend the day indulging myself in hobbies and activities that don't involve screens. Puzzles, crosswords, books, training my dog, food prep, cleaning, drawing, journalling, you name it. A day to disconnect and turn inwards. Mmm.

These are the more basic of rules i've set up to remind myself to stay grounded in the now. no distractions, no unnecessary noise, just me soaking in the present moment for all it's got. Thanks for reading. 🤍

[perfectfeelings]

[theisisnicolemag]

[itsbetterwhenusmile]

To find someone who genuinely cares and loves you unconditionally is truly a blessing.

[itsbetterwhenusmile]

This past week or so has been one of the toughest moments I had to endure. I lost a friend to something that could have been easily prevented. My friend lost his life trying to save another life. Despite the hurt and pain his family and friends have to experience from this loss, his legacy will live on. He lived such a selfless life that I think is worth looking up to. His contagious smile and motivating spirit will forever live in my heart. Grieving and looking back at his legacy has taught me a lot and has open my eyes to a lot of aspects of life. I love and miss “CHUI” so much. My heart hurts at the thought of knowing that he’s not physically here. One thing I know is that his spirit is here forever and it was such a privilege that I got to experience life with such a genuine and clean heart...

[mahoganymamii]

Lela Rochon as "Robin" In Waiting to Exhale (1995)

[nessanotarized-deactivated20200]

Such a 90s aesthetic 😍

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[brooklynrwhite-deactivated20160]

OH MY GOD !!!!!!!!!!!!

[musiqchild007]

OHHHHH MYYYY GODDDD WATCH THIS NOW!!!!

[bambietta666-deactivated2015090]

FUCK. IT. UP!!!!

[profashionall]

She fucked it up👏👏

[fckyeahprettyafricans]

Nigeria

[digg]

this tip tho!!!!!!!!

[rikkipoynter]

I need to try this for trips I only bring a carry-on to.

[rattlecat]

I use to do this all the time in the military. Just forgot how to over time o.o

[dancing-coyote]

I wish I’d known about this when I was homeless.

I could’ve taught it to all the other ladies at the shelter and Darlene could’ve sucked a sour one because she never would have been able to bitch at us for “having too many clothes.”

[mxalmighty]

reblogging this to have it forever because holy god damn

[iambaby-j]

Okay first of all this is my color , and second of all mid turtle necks are definitely for me , thirdly I somehow had no idea we had a black out day already ….

[itsbetterwhenusmile]

You so fine😍😍😍

[16bliss]

one time in grade 6 a girl called me a lying slut in front of our whole class during lunch because i was hanging out with her boyfriend a lot. she was dating my brother

[hellyeahrihannafenty]

[brimalandro]

this is sexual

[baba-wanyi-deactivated20170312]

✌ (favourite proverb/saying from your language)?

Lingala proverb

Bino batu ya mikanda milai, mindodo mingi. = You educated people have too many problems

Swahili proverb

Kheri kufa macho kuliko kufa moyo. = better the death of the eyes, than death of the heart/its better to lose your eyes than to lose your heart

Tshiluba proverb

Balela naabù kîmbèètù. Bàdì bèètù nebàngaakwìlè.= Those with whom we share blood are not our people. Our people are the ones who will defend us

I’ll add a Kiluba proverb even though I don’t speak it or know anything apart from basic greetings. My grandad from my mum’s side is part Luba-Katanga so it’s my language 

Bene biyombo b'onabyo. Buki bwakupa mukwabo kafita = Those who own the country spoil it. It grieves them even to give honey to others. You who have plenty, don’t grieve to help those who have not.

This proverb explains the current political situation in Congo so well

[jigglypuffsvevo]