[leohearts]

“Humble enough to know that I’ve got a ton of flaws. But wise enough to know that my heart is pure and my soul is as dope as they come.”

—

[wolftyla]

Going through a very raw transition within myself. I’m becoming exactly who I prayed to become, maintaining really level headed throughout my lows and striving to be the best “me” that I could be. Instead of being disappointed within myself and talking to myself as my worst enemy, I’ve been talking kinder and more humble to myself. I’m affirming myself that yes, I can be my worst critic but I can also be my best friend too. I’m no longer getting caught in between who “I think” cares for me and who doesn’t - I’m calling it and taking it how I see it. I no longer allow myself to hold in, bottle up or conceal what bothers me or may hurt my feelings to spare the feelings of others. I’ve learned that that doesn’t do anything but hurt me, make me feel even more misunderstood and lonely in my own thoughts. I’m not allowing myself to find comfort in my pain just because there’s nothing else to find comfort in at that moment. I’m acknowledging my feelings more and listening to how I feel so I don’t hinder my own growth or conceal my mental health. I’ve began to realize that sometimes I am going to be put in unfortunate situations or around people that make me feel uncomfortable not for a day but maybe months/years. I am going to want to be alone for awhile sometimes and I shouldn’t feel rushed to give an explanation to others in the process of trying to pick myself back up. I’m not going to pressure myself to constantly try and figure out where I stand with people and what position I hold - either tell me what it is or don’t bother telling me at all and miss out on your opportunity of once being able to tell me exactly what it was. I’m understanding that in the process of someone else healing and hurting, building and burning that they may hurt me in the process. I may hurt some too. I’m learning to let go because letting go is a form of love too that sometimes I may not even understand but have to have enough belief in myself to let that cycle play its course. I’m telling myself that things happen and sometimes there are just things we don’t have control over…especially the people who find pleasure in being negative and/or put others down around them. I’m also coming to terms that I don’t necessarily need to be strong all the time and I don’t need to be positive all the time - there is a blessing in being able to bring yourself to a vulnerable state and recognizing that. I don’t feel I need to go out my way, through loops and turns for anyone who can’t see my true value because they can’t even value themselves properly. I’ve came to a place where anyone and everything can go because I’ve built a strong enough foundation within myself to know that anything that comes can go and anything that goes can come back - I have full power of who I’m surrounding myself around at the end of the day. I’m learning that love can come in different forms and take the shape of various people and different times too - even if it’s a short interaction or limelight moment. I’m learning that all that matters in this life is how many people you can impact in a positive way - everything else is either a blessing on top of what I already have, what’s to come or a lesson that helps me be able to influence someone else even more to keep going and see another day. I’m loving to just be wholesomely me unapologetically at every second of this life in all ways, always.

[battling-my-demons]

If you're over the age of 20 and lost all your teen years to mental illness and never got to be normal, or have healthy relationships, went down the wrong path or didn't have the right nurturing support from BOTH your parents and now you have to sort of catch up on your life whether that's getting your license, getting your GED, starting college, fixing your mental health, or starting things you told yourself to start or try again and again no matter what it is, and trying to fight to live and accomplish shit you FEEL you should have accomplished as a teenager but didn't have the capacity or insight to care about due to mental illness.

I am so incredibly sorry, and I'm thankful you're here and alive and trying!!! also;

You are N O T a failure you took your time because you couldn't put more on yourself than you could bare to carry and that is a mark of self care so don't ever feel bad about it.

I am so fucking proud of you, you're trying your hardest to get to the top even though it may be harder now, you could have given up but you haven't and for that you are victorious and I am in awe of you.

[positiveautistic-deactivated202]

The part of recovery people rarely mention..❤️

[catchymemes]

[fullregalia]

“If you are unhappy, or if you frequently say you are ‘exhausted,’ if maybe you cry at work a little more often than you personally think is reasonable, if you wake up in the morning and consider dying instead of going to work, you CLEARLY owe it to yourselves to do something else. Will making a change maybe make you poor or scared? SURE. Could the change be bad? ABSOLUTELY. But the alternative — staying put, degrading like an old yogurt — is to become a worse person. You can’t solve your own burnout, you can only change the system or your situation. And while it seems like becoming a worse person is a pretty common choice, do you really want to be common?”

— Choire is outta the Times and back on his own (for a moment)! 

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

You don't have to fix your whole life all at once. Slow down and focus on your current needs. Do you need food? Sleep? Water? Medication? A break? A shower? To spend time outside? To move your body? To take some time to connect with someone you care about? To do that stupid chore you've been postponing? To express yourself through art or writing? To sit down and read a good book? To cry? To rest? Whatever you need, I hope you take the time to do it soon - because the key to a good future is to be found in our daily habits.

[warm-autumn-evenings]

there is nothing wrong with being mediocre. there is nothing wrong with not being the best at everything you do. there is no guilt in doing the bare minimum because you have no energy to do more than that. “living your life to the fullest” can mean different things for you at different times in your life. sometimes, it is achieving your goals and fulfilling your purpose, and sometimes, it is allowing yourself to rest and just get through it.

you deserve the space to simply be. to exist, to witness, to breathe, and to find peace.

[creatingnikki]

It's okay to not be

Cooking fancy things and uploading aesthetic pictures of it on Instagram

Taking an online course and upgrading your knowledge and skills

Painting and reading and writing more than you normally would

Able to maintain a super tight sleep cycle and daily schedule

Video calling a loved one every day

Having virtual dance parties or movie nights with your friends

Sure of what life will be like when the pandemic is over

Meeting the goals you set for your self when 2020 started

It's been a while since the Coronavirus pandemic + lockdown started and if you're safe at home things may have become slightly normalised by now. But we are still living through a global pandemic.

So it's okay if you don't try making dalgona coffee (and it's okay if you do) and it's okay if you are doing what you're supposed to like work and studying and then not being productive or social or aesthetic for the remaining hours. Even those 'basic' obligations take so much from you mentally at a time like this.

Honestly, I'm feeling it physically too now. I just spent all of today lying down on my bed because for a reason I can't fathom I felt like every trace of energy had left my body.

[ohvibes-blog2]

the good news: therapy works

bad news: therapy only works if you work really hard to face the most uncomfortable issues

[hope-healing-recovery]

98 self-harm coping skills

exercise (running, walking, etc)

put on fake tattoos

write (poetry, stories, journal)

scribble/doodle on paper

be with other people

watch a favorite tv show

post on web boards, and answer others’ posts

go see a movie

do a word search or crossword

do schoolwork

play a musical instrument

pain your nails, do your make-up or hair

sing

study the sky

punch a punching bag

cover yourself with bandaids where you want to cut

let yourself cry

take a nap (only if you are tired)

take a hot shower or relaxing bath

play with a pet

go shopping

clean something

knit or sew

read a good book

listen to music

try aromatherapy (candle, lotion, room spray, etc)

meditate

go somewhere very public

bake cookies

alphabetize your cds/DVD’s/books

paint or draw

rip paper into itty bitty pieces

shoot hoops, kick a ball

write a letter or send an e-mail

plan your dream room (colors/furniture)

hug a pillow or stuffed animal

hyper focus on something like a rock, hand, etc.

dance

make hot chocolate, milkshake or smoothies

play with modeling clay or play-dough

build a pillow fort

go for a nice, long drive

complete something you’ve been putting off

draw on yourself where you want to cut

take up a new hobby

look up recipes, cook a meal

look at pretty things like flowers or art

create or build something

pray

make a list of blessings in your life

read the Bible

go to a friend’s house

jump on trampoline

watch an old, happy movie

contact a hotline / your therapist

talk to someone close to you

ride a bike

feed the ducks, squirrels, birds, etc

color with crayons

memorize a poem, play or song

stretch

search ridiculous things on the internet

‘shop’ online (without buying anything)

color-coordinate your wardrobe

watch fish

make a playlist that calms you

play the “15 minute game” (avoid something for 15 minutes. when time is up start again)

plan your wedding/prom/other event

plant some seeds

hunt for your perfect home or car online

try to make as many words out of your full name as possible

sort through your old photographs

play with a balloon

give yourself a facial

find some toys to play with

start collecting something

play video or computer games

clean up trash at your local park

perform a random act of kindness for someone

text or call an old friend

write yourself an “i love you because…” letter

look up new words and use them

rearrange furniture

write a letter to someone that you may never send

smile at at least five people

play with little kids

go for a walk (with or without a friend)

put a puzzle together

clean your room or closet

try to do handstands, cartwheels or backbends

yoga

teach your pet a new trick

learn a new language

move EVERYTHING in your room to a new spot

get together with your friends to play games, frisbee or soccer, etc

hug a friend or family member

search online for new songs/artists

make a list of goals for the week/month/year/5 years

[cobotis]

All blame is a waste of time… No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you… The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration… You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.

Wayne Dyer (via cobotis)

[mysterymellie]

[shitpost-senpai]

This is what it’s like to be an adult.

[room-of-angel-deactivated201910]

in the english dub she say “-just one more good sob - OKAY I’M READY” and that’s pretty accurate too.

[spiritualseeker777]

[glouptips]

[tipsforthosewithbrainweasels]

Tip #2: Know When to Push and When to Give

If you’re anything like me, it’s impossible to know if you’re letting the brain weasels win.

Before you write off the day completely, brush your teeth. If that wasn’t so bad, wash your face. If that wasn’t so bad, put on real pants, not sweats.

And once you have real pants on? Hell, you can do anything!

If you’re still feeling weaselly after you’re wearing real pants, it’s probably a bad brain day, and you can take a break.

The thing about brain weasels is they like to lie to you about what you can and can’t do in a day. Prove them wrong. Brush your teeth.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

10 Truths to Live By

1. It’s your life not their life.

2. You’re stronger than you think.

3. You’re not the lies you believe about yourself.

4. You’re not your past – and your past is not your future.

5. No-one else is going to solve your problems for you.

6. You have the power to turn your life around.

7. You are worthy of success and you can reach your dreams.

8. Don’t put up with mistreatment and abuse.

9. Treat yourself with respect and require respect from others.

10. Keep searching till you find unconditional love; there are people who will love you just because you are you.