Shit society taught us that most of us are yet to externalized. Round 1 :
1. Romantic love is more important and more powerful than any other form of love. It is viewed as normal (and almost encouraged) once you are in a relationship, to consider all other relationships, friends and family alike, as less worthy of your attention. It is normal to seek for romantic love more than a good friendship because romantic love is the strongest bond. It completes you, because you are not seen as whole until you find someone who will want to follow you everywhere and love you no matter what. Society treats romantic love as a mode of validation rather than as the simple feeling than it is, thus taking it to proportions that are both stupid & harmful. Friendship can be just as strong, it can also be stronger. Family ties as well.
2. Speaking of family ties : you have to love your family no matter what. Even if you do not feel any connection with relatives, even if you have abusive/manipulative/toxic parents or siblings or cousins, you are expected to still love them no matter what and give them second chances when they screw up/hurt you, because of “blood”. Wrong again, of course. The truth is blood ( or adoption ) means nothing but a biological/paper bond. You do not have to love a family that does not love you back. You do not have to consider your family if they are the furthest thing you can imagine from this term.
3. If you spend your whole life both without children & a significant other, you must have a good reason like being a Geography-Channel explorer or a doomed artist. Otherwise you’re definitely a creep. Once again, the necessity for a human being to reproduce and form a family, has also turned into a socialized factor of happiness. Years of shoving down our throats images of people only being able to find fulfillment in the presence of a family construct have conditioned us to feel like not having it is a plague. No matter how we want to convince ourselves that this is old-fashioned, the truth is most of us get a sad, creepy feeling at the idea of not having a family nor children, even if it’s not something we actually aspire to. Not because we crave it, but because we know how society would respond to the lack of it. Fortunately, this is beginning to change.
3. When you are a child or a teenager, people older than you are to be respected even if they do not respect you themselves. You must not argue logically with your parents even if you sense they are wrong and if they insult you unjustly. Otherwise you’re insolent. Because an opiniated teenager/child is only ever whiny/petty/over-dramatizing. Your voice doesn’t count until you’re ‘legal’. Youth is directly associated with naivety, inexperience and leisure. Despite many children and teenagers nowadays having more common sense/perception skills than many ‘adults’. Once again : rubbish. I don’t need to expand on this one, just watch The Fine Bros react video with children talking about Trump and you’ll get why it’s never possible to pin down brains by age categories.
4. Not being good at school is a direct synonym of your human worth. You can be twelve or seven, having bad grades will be blamed on you, as a person, rather than on your difficulty of comprehension or other reasons why you could not perform. That’s society meritocracy taken to an extreme, if you will : the less you give, the less you’re worth to receive. From the earliest age, we are told that our intelligence and our ability to give to the world will determine our worth as beings. You have to be intelligent/efficient, or not only will you never be successful financially & socially, but you will also be regarded as less important than the rest of the crowd. This is obviously rubbish : intelligence may bring some people further in life in terms of profession and financial gain, but someone with less brain elasticity is not less important than another being blessed with that gift.
Once again, this is the proof that only someone who will either be able to impress and/or contribute to society highly can be regarded as important.
Which leads me to the last point. One of the worst and most damaging.
5. Money & level of success will entirely determine your human worth and the importance of your life on earth. If we are taught soon in life that we need be intelligent to be given attention & prizes, it’s because society praises only two kind of people :
. the prodigy (the one that is almost god-like because of a talent, often artistic, and eventually maybe, who will be given to contribute to society in turn)
. the excellent (someone who can thrive in fields that are likely to lead them to high-paying, charismatic professions).
And a striking fact is that people who do not fit in either categories are actually the majority. Society ostracizes the majority of its occupants to select only a few for its social pedestals. (Oscars, Nobel Prizes, all honorable competitions in themselves which still are constructed in a way that distance the ‘common crowd’ from the ‘olympus’ and overtly, even if unconsciously, create a sentiment of worthlessness in people (which we have largely resigned to, speaking of it cynically for the most part).
What society needs is the notion that a person’s worth lies only in their character traits. If they aren’t total monsters, then they matter just as much as the next celebrity or a richer/more professionally successful neighbour. Such thing should go without saying, and yet we still need to tell that to people.
Contributing to society is good, being gifted by multiple talents is good, but not everyone can have that and that does not make them less important.
Teach children that weaknesses and commonness do not make you worthless. Actually : teach everybody this.
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