Get Out of Your Head!
My dear friend,
There are nights when my mind feels like a storm. Thoughts come in waves, one crashing into the next, until I can’t tell where one ends and another begins. If you’ve ever been caught in that spiral — the one that starts with a small worry and ends somewhere far darker — you’ll know what I mean.
That’s where I was when this book found me.
It was sitting in my Goodreads recommendations, Get Out of Your Head by Jennie Allen. I didn’t think much of it at first. But I had just finished Winning the War in Your Mind by Craig Groeschel, and I figured maybe God wasn’t finished speaking to me about this area of my life yet. So, I opened the first page — and it felt like He was waiting there.
Allen writes, “Evil never wants to be noticed. It sneaks in and hijacks our minds, and we barely notice anything’s amiss.”
I remember reading that and realizing how true it was for me. My spirals never came with warning signs. They started quietly — a single thought, a small doubt — and before I knew it, I was tangled up in anxiety, confusion, and guilt. God was convicting me, yet the enemy was whispering lies at the same time. My heart was split in two directions: one voice calling me to surrender, and another insisting that I was alone, alone, and alone.
That’s when I knew I couldn’t keep fighting this battle in silence. I needed truth that could out-speak my thoughts.
When Thoughts Turn into Chains
One of the hardest realizations this book brought to light was how many of my anxieties were built on expectations — the kind I didn’t even know I had.
Growing up, my mom — who isn’t Christian but loves me deeply in her own way — used to tell me, “You have to find a man who loves you more than you love him.” I know she meant to protect me, but those words planted something dangerous in me: the belief that love was measured by attention, by who called first, or who cared more.
So when I entered relationships, I carried that expectation with me like an invisible checklist. If he didn’t call enough, I felt unloved. If he didn’t prioritize me the way I prioritized him, I felt rejected. My worth was constantly shifting with someone else’s actions. And when that love didn’t meet my expectations, the spiral began — fast and merciless.
Jennie Allen put words to what I couldn’t explain, “Evil never wants to be noticed. It sneaks in and hijacks our minds, and we barely notice anything’s amiss.”
That’s what happened. Lies sneaked in and made themselves at home.
But Romans 12:2 reminded me,
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
By the gentle grace of God, He convicted me and made me realize how my thought patterns were worldly — not godly. I had been building my sense of love and worth on human patterns, not heavenly ones. And until I let God renew my mind, those thoughts would keep me chained.
The Gentle Conviction of Choice
One sentence from this book hit me like a gentle but holy interruption:
“What is the one thought that can interrupt every negative thought pattern? I have a choice.”
It sounds simple, doesn’t it? But for me, it was revolutionary.
I had always believed my emotions were in control — that once the spiral began, I had to ride it out. But the truth is, in Christ, I do have a choice. I can decide which thoughts to let live in my mind and which to bring to the cross.
2 Corinthians 10:5 says,
“We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
That verse became my weapon. When a thought whispered, “You’re not enough,” I learned to stop and ask, “Is this from God?” If the answer was no, I refused to let it stay.
Anxiety feeds on passivity. But faith — active faith — breaks its rhythm.
Now, instead of spiraling, I pause. I pray. I open my Bible. I name the lie, then replace it with truth. Over and over again, until peace slowly returns.
This is what Jennie Allen calls “interrupting the spiral.” And it’s what I call grace in motion.
The Missing Puzzle Piece: Expectation and Worth
There was a paragraph in the book that felt like a mirror held up to my heart. Allen writes gracefully,
“No human is ever meant to be the person who fills our souls or holds in place our worth. Only God can do that.”
I stopped reading for a moment. It was like God was saying, “Do you see now?”
I realized that I had been treating people — especially those I loved — like they were responsible for keeping me whole. My relationships were full of expectation because my heart was full of need. I wasn’t looking for companionship; I was looking for completion.
But only God can fill that kind of space.
In Hebrews 13:5, we’re reminded to live free from the love of money and to be content with what we have, because God Himself promises:
5 Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
At first glance, this verse speaks about wealth and material possessions, but when I read it, it pierced deeper. I realized it’s not only about money — it’s about anything we cling to for a sense of security.
For me, that wasn’t money. It was affection — the kind that comes from people. I had been holding so tightly to human connection and constant reassurance that I forgot divine affection was already mine.
It wasn’t about finding satisfaction in daily phone calls or endless messages. It was about rediscovering satisfaction in prayer — in quiet, daily conversation with God instead of desperate communication with people.
And slowly, the missing puzzle piece in my heart began to fit again.
Faith, not control. Prayer, not panic. Peace, not performance.
When God Takes Up Space in Our Minds
One of my favorite lines from Allen’s book says, “When we allow God to take up so much space in our thinking, our fears shrink in comparison.”
I underlined it three times.
That was the shift I didn’t know I needed. I’d been asking God to remove my anxious thoughts, but what He really wanted was to replace them — to fill my mind so fully that fear simply had no room left.
So I started making small, practical changes:
I played worship music in the shower.
I listened to instrumental worship music and prayed while commuting.
I replaced late-night scrolling with a Bible in hand, prayer in mouth.
I sometimes journal verses when feeling inspired.
And I noticed something — the more time I spent with God, the less control my thoughts had over me.
Philippians 4 became my anchor:
8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. 9 What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.
That’s the secret: peace isn’t the absence of thought; it’s the presence of God in every thought.
Practical Ways to Fight the Spiral
Jennie Allen offers so many simple tools in this book, but these are the ones that have stayed with me — my little “battle plan” for the mind:
Pause. Notice the thought before it grows.
Pray. Ask, “Lord, is this from You?”
Replace. Find a verse that speaks against it.
Refocus. Thank God for what’s good and true right now.
Release. Whisper, “This belongs to You, Lord.”
And when the thoughts still return — because they do — I repeat the process. Not as a ritual, but as a reminder that my mind is not a battlefield I fight alone.
Psalm 46:10 says,
“Be still, and know that I am God.”
Sometimes the greatest act of warfare is stillness — the decision to stop fighting with fear and start resting in faith.
Freedom in Thought
If I could summarize this whole book in one sentence, it would be this: You can’t always stop the storm, but you can choose who commands your ship.
Before, my thoughts were steering me. Now, I’m learning to hand the wheel back to Jesus.
Allen writes, “Our hope is not that we would wrestle each and every fear, but that we would allow God to take up so much space in our thinking that our fears will shrink in comparison.”
That’s where freedom lives — not in a perfect mind, but in a surrendered one.
Friend, if you ever find yourself trapped in your head, please know this: you’re not powerless, and you’re not alone. The lies may be loud, but truth whispers louder when you invite God into the conversation.
He is not afraid of your thoughts. He is not disappointed by your spirals. He simply wants to sit with you in them until peace takes over.
A Prayer for the Anxious Mind
Lord, thank You for being patient with our racing thoughts. Thank You for giving us the choice to stop the spiral and come back to You. When lies whisper, remind us to hold every thought captive. Teach us to fill our minds with what is true, noble, pure, and lovely. Let Your peace guard our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. --(Philippians 4:7) Amen.
So, friend, if your thoughts feel too loud tonight, remember this — you don’t have to silence them on your own. You have a choice, and the One who silences storms is still speaking peace over you.
With love,
Source: Get Out of Your Head!
