BAHARAN —•)

we are all drifting reefwards now — nilou, 28, pnw, she/her.

[probuccalfat]

why are you a cunt

to honour my mother before me and her mother before her and so on and so forth

[probuccalfat]

Sometimes you’ll post responses to bad opinions you’ve come across and I’m like oh my god there are hills I could have never conceived and you’ve encountered people dying on every one of them

oh baby it is a horrifying world out there. the “please do not have a baby unattended” hill is one that i wish didn’t need so much revisiting for me, but the rise of crunchy moms has been… Not Good.

[probuccalfat]

i cannot emphasize enough how important it is that you should ideally give birth in a fully equipped and staffed medical facility or if you insist on giving birth through an alternative method you should be within minutes of a hospital and i mean under 5 minutes if you’d like me to be really fucking frank

[probuccalfat]

like i can get on board with so much feminist theory and stuff, truly, and i do acknowledge that obstetrics and gynaecology as a field holds blind spots that are egregious (e.g. infant and maternal mortality in the black community) but there is no empowerment in risky birthing practices that our foremothers, and i’m not mincing words, often suffered through. birthing is natural, but it is not “easy” or even “innate”, it is best practiced guided and witnessed by those that know what to do in an emergency. you are not reconnecting to any innate feminine nature by practicing dangerous birthing practices—you are recreating a time when the bodies and lives of women barely mattered and it was expected that death would/could occur at insane and tragic rates.

[probuccalfat]

this is a hill i will spend the rest of my days fighting on because while i am not interested in birthing children myself, i have an incredible passion and interest in the field of labour and delivery. it’s been one of my greatest joys to play even a small part in delivering neonates. i do not want anyone to risk their babies over a deeply, deeply misguided idea of free birth being “the natural way” when natural is not always synonymous with the safest way.

[anarchohellenism]

So many people think it's either midwife or doctor. It's not. Have your midwife or doula in the hospital room with you, I promise the doctors don't give a shit. Hell, you can have her do the delivery itself and just have the doctors there as emergency backup! But for the love of your baby, go to the fucking hospital.

[probuccalfat]

yup. a lot of hospitals are willing to work with you to realize your birthing plan as much as they can within safe limits and parameters. my hospital is closely and highly allied with midwives all up and down the coast, with the explicit instruction to call the midwife when we know a labouring patient is about to deliver so we can respect their plan. genuinely, you can have almost any kind of birth you want—just make sure that there are qualified professionals in attendance, and it’s not just midwives or OBGYNS you need. you have no idea when you’ll need a respiratory therapist on call, you have no idea when you will need a blood transfusion within minutes or risk certain death, L&D nurses do not have the same training as NICU nurses. it’s a literal thousand things that can go wrong and you should be in the best place for them to go wrong.

[probuccalfat]

i cannot emphasize enough how important it is that you should ideally give birth in a fully equipped and staffed medical facility or if you insist on giving birth through an alternative method you should be within minutes of a hospital and i mean under 5 minutes if you’d like me to be really fucking frank

[probuccalfat]

like i can get on board with so much feminist theory and stuff, truly, and i do acknowledge that obstetrics and gynaecology as a field holds blind spots that are egregious (e.g. infant and maternal mortality in the black community) but there is no empowerment in risky birthing practices that our foremothers, and i’m not mincing words, often suffered through. birthing is natural, but it is not “easy” or even “innate”, it is best practiced guided and witnessed by those that know what to do in an emergency. you are not reconnecting to any innate feminine nature by practicing dangerous birthing practices—you are recreating a time when the bodies and lives of women barely mattered and it was expected that death would/could occur at insane and tragic rates.

[probuccalfat]

this is a hill i will spend the rest of my days fighting on because while i am not interested in birthing children myself, i have an incredible passion and interest in the field of labour and delivery. it’s been one of my greatest joys to play even a small part in delivering neonates. i do not want anyone to risk their babies over a deeply, deeply misguided idea of free birth being “the natural way” when natural is not always synonymous with the safest way.

[probuccalfat]

i cannot emphasize enough how important it is that you should ideally give birth in a fully equipped and staffed medical facility or if you insist on giving birth through an alternative method you should be within minutes of a hospital and i mean under 5 minutes if you’d like me to be really fucking frank

[probuccalfat]

like i can get on board with so much feminist theory and stuff, truly, and i do acknowledge that obstetrics and gynaecology as a field holds blind spots that are egregious (e.g. infant and maternal mortality in the black community) but there is no empowerment in risky birthing practices that our foremothers, and i’m not mincing words, often suffered through. birthing is natural, but it is not “easy” or even “innate”, it is best practiced guided and witnessed by those that know what to do in an emergency. you are not reconnecting to any innate feminine nature by practicing dangerous birthing practices—you are recreating a time when the bodies and lives of women barely mattered and it was expected that death would/could occur at insane and tragic rates.

[probuccalfat]

i cannot emphasize enough how important it is that you should ideally give birth in a fully equipped and staffed medical facility or if you insist on giving birth through an alternative method you should be within minutes of a hospital and i mean under 5 minutes if you’d like me to be really fucking frank

[probuccalfat]

why didn’t anyone tell me my tesla smells like pussy

[probuccalfat]

okay i’m gonna stop sleeping i’m gonna wash my face and make myself a little pizza on sourdough and start road to empress 2 and get it together

[probuccalfat]

i see li tai imma lick the screen

[probuccalfat]

i died badly

[segamascott]

welcome to.. the world... of gay guys....

[probuccalfat]

okay i’m gonna stop sleeping i’m gonna wash my face and make myself a little pizza on sourdough and start road to empress 2 and get it together

[probuccalfat]

i see li tai imma lick the screen

[probuccalfat]

i don’t want relationship advice from a woman who got married before seeing an uncut dick

[gentlier]

This is so oddly specific that I have to ask: Why?

(I hope this is okay to ask.)

[probuccalfat]

she hasn’t studied abroad

[probuccalfat]

i don’t want relationship advice from a woman who got married before seeing an uncut dick

[amazingtoysandgifts]

When a bitch so bad U NEED TO DIE!

😂

[probuccalfat]

Truly trying to adopt the response "so let's not chat" for when people come forward with poorly thought out inflamatory nonsense. Thank you again for your contributions to the lexicon.

it is my great honour

[probuccalfat]

nobody else doing it like me. particularly because the way i’m doing it is needlessly difficult

[free-my-mindd]

[probuccalfat]

okay i’m gonna stop sleeping i’m gonna wash my face and make myself a little pizza on sourdough and start road to empress 2 and get it together