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hi welcome to chili's

hi im james

i am transmasc nonbinary and use he/they pronouns.

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#j.txt #thats my personal post tag!#also my resources tag is full of......resources lol #love yall!

sucubism-archive

hi. i literally hate doing this, but i’m in a desperate situation. i’ve had some family issues lately, and haven’t been to work as much and i’ve already renewed my loan and am not eligible to refinance soon, and i do not have the money to get to work at all next week, much less pick up dog food or groceries for myself. i am planning on picking up OT next week but i unfortunately do not have a car, and my public transport does not come by my house, so i’m forced to uber to work.

if anyone could help i’d be eternally grateful. it really doesn’t matter how much, anything would help.

paypal | venmo | cashapp $witchcore

#pls help out my lovely friend if you can <3

jamesvanriemsdyk

this is literally the bare fucking minimum of all i have to say but are yall done? are yall fucking done with chicago now? can it be over? i mean, like, ive known chicago stans dont give a fuck (and historically have never given a fuck) about indigenous people and sexual assault survivors, but yall have somehow managed to talk yourselves into think toews specifically is okay (and others as well) because, yknow, he's part of the org but he's just a player, he's great off ice, he didnt design the logo or do what kane did so he's fine, blah blah blah.

this is a man that was captain not only during the kane assault scandals (plural.), but during the entirety of the events of the current sexual assault lawsuit against the chicago blackhawks. are yall done yet?

jamesvanriemsdyk

kirby dach, dylan strome, and alex debrincat are not immune. if youre comforting yourself about liking these guys because you think theyre exempt, i need you to critically think about your engagement with it all right now. do you know what's going on with this lawsuit? all the details, all of the people who had to work to cover this up - are you aware of how deep the rot runs? do you know that patrick kane and jonathan toews are captains of the team, and that their leadership is built into the fabric of that team? do you understand the implications of that? and once again, this is not even speaking on that horrible fucking logo and all the harm it does. if you think youre exempt because its just those guys you like, not the organization as a whole, youve missed the entire point of this post, and you have failed to acknowledge that no amount of critical thinking or critical consumption of media can make any connection to the chicago blackhawks even close to okay.

#remember when i said this and you all lost your fucking heads #no amount of engagement with this team is okay and if you think it is youre a bad fucking person #blackhawks tw #sexual assault tw #j.txt

excessively sexualizing teenagers and very young adults no matter that theyre technically legal when youre in your 30s and older is in fact weird, predatory behavior. it is not a kink. individuals in this fandom have been called out for it before but have continued and worsened said behavior and it makes this fandom an actively more unsafe place to be, especially for teens (legal or not!) and young adults. even more important than that: these young players are not massively public figures, they are d-list celebrities at best, and some are literally just university students. stop being fucking gross.

#at the very very least put a goddamn age range in your bio #you dont have to doxx yourself but jesus #j.txt #oh and watch your mouths about calling me a puriteen or whatever the fuck words yall make up to excuse yourselves from accountability #i literally grew up in a fundie household and under purity culture; i am fully deconstructed #and yall are mad disrespectful for taking the language we (religious trauma survivors)#use to talk about our experiences to keep people from calling you out for your shitty behavior #ok to rb i am logging out now and will not be taking questions criticism or comments at this time. or ever.

halliewriteshockey

I was hoping to not have to do this again, because it’s so humiliating to ask for help, and also because my ex’s girlfriend stalks my blog - which is why I’ve pretty much stopped sharing anything personal, if anyone was wondering.

But the father of my children cut off all child support. He’s not giving me a penny now. Three hungry teenagers eat a lot, as you might imagine, so my grocery bill has quadrupled and I have the lawyer’s fees to pay as well as the credit cards I’ve had to max getting us up here and settled. He’s also cut off my access to their pharmacy coverage information, so I’ve had to pay cash for all their prescriptions.

(Seems to me someone who has his children’s best interests at heart wouldn’t refuse to help financially and force them to possibly go without necessary medication and, y’know, food. But clearly it’s more important to punish me than it is to actually provide for the kids he claims to love.)

My next book should be available for preorder in the next week. I’m taking the next few days to finish it, and I’ll have a cover reveal soon. But Amazon pays royalties on a two month delay, so even once it’s out, things are going to be tight for awhile longer.

I hate asking for more help. I hate that my ex will read this and think he’s won because I can’t do it on my own yet. I hate everything about this situation. But my kids have stopped shutting down and bursting into tears when they make a mistake because they’ve learned they won’t get screamed at. Their laughter rings through this house. They come to me when they’re upset or have a bad dream because I don’t lock my bedroom door and refuse to answer when they need me in the middle of the night. It’s been worth it to see how they’ve blossomed, and I’d do it again in a heartbeat if I had to. I just… need a little more help until this is settled.

Link to my GoFundMe

Note—I’ve gotten feedback that the link is making people log in. It should be correct, I’m not sure why it’s doing that, but PayPal is https://www.paypal.me/greymichaela or Venmo is my username here if that’s easier for y’all. ❤️

Go to paypal.me/greymichaela and type in the amount. Since it’s PayPal, it's easy and secure. Don’t have a PayPal account? No worries.

#<3 #donations

apples are good in every form except the original. like apples themselves are bad, but apple products (cider, juice, etc etc) are fucking amazing

#amanda said i should post this and it was my most controversial opinion #so here we go #food mention #j.txt

the people counting down the days until prospects turn 18 so they can "ethically" ship them are just as weird as the men who count down the days until female celebs turn 18. literally jail lmao

#once again not taking criticism reblog if you please etc etc #remember that one post i made about you weirdos staying the hell away from luke hughes? yeah #j.txt #:)

some people in this fandom have just reinvented homophobia but made it, like, woke. somehow.

#as per my last post i will not be offering elaboration or taking comments and will in fact be logging out immediately.#thank you and goodbye #j.txt #rb if you want such is life