How I feel when my therapist asks me about my genitals/dysphoria.
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How I feel when my therapist asks me about my genitals/dysphoria.
Boys are allowed to be feminine and that includes trans boys, pass it on. Girls are allowed to be masculine and that includes trans girls, pass it on. Nonbinaries are allowed to use feminine or masculine expression, pass it on.
Hey, do me a solid and really pass this on. Please give this lots of notes, thanks.
make more art. write bad poetry. paint and make a mess. take pictures of your friends, your dog, nature, everything. make art and love it; not because its good but because it makes you happy. make an imprint on the world.
Trans men who are pre-T are still men. Trans men who are never-T are still men. You guys are so handsome, strong, and talented, and I hope you know that. You’ve come so far as a person and I’m proud of you. Honestly, you’re some of the toughest guys out there, cuz you work twice as hard to prove your masculinity to people and to yourself on the daily. I see you and I admire your resilience. Stay strong, my dudes.
Everytime I read this, I cry. I really needed to hear this today.
I’m really glad this post is that helpful for you to read. Have a lovely day, my guy!
Relatable
I think a thing a lot of people don’t get is that… early in your transition, it’s really common to look for Signs. “my digit ratio is masculine!” “I played with dolls as a kid!” “I like science!” “I’m emotional!” “I like wearing dresses a lot!” “my mother dreamed I would be a boy when I was a kid!”
and ofc none of that means shit, but it’s really hard and scary to say “I’m not the gender I was assigned at birth because I don’t want to be”
so we look for signs, for validation, for evidence, for proof that it’s Okay, it’s Allowed, we are Really X Deep Down
but the thing is… you don’t have to do things that hurt. You don’t have to be in a body that hurts you. You have the right to not be in pain, because you are a person, and no one can take that away from you. You don’t have to earn your right to not hurt. You don’t have to prove that you deserve to not hurt. You can just… not hurt. It’s okay. It’s allowed.
it’s felt really good for me to be able to say ‘i don’t know how to be a man, yet. i’ve only been doing this a couple months. i’m figuring it out, i’m growing into something very new. i’ll know more later.’ rather than trying to approach my transition as like, gender affirming? being someone i already am and always was, or something? some people do transition that way, they are that confident.
but i definitely am not one of them, and it’s been a lot nicer for me to just be upfront about how much i don’t know, rather than trying to fake any kind of confidence in order to justify yourself to other people.
learning who you are as you go along is, i think, a fine way to be, for anyone. you don’t have to already have all the answers! especially not about who you are or how you want to live in the world. that’s always going to be an ongoing question. just saying ‘i don’t want to be how i was’ is enough. you don’t need to know what the next step is before you take it. you’ll find out.
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Use for when someone dead names you, asks for your “real name,” or any other inquiry that’s douchey.
1. Obtain a large crystal that repels negative energy (obsidian, black tourmaline, etc.)
2. Throw it at their fucking mouth.
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For trans day of visibility, I’ve decided to create a guide: how to spot trans people
1. Fucking don’t. Even if it’s really obvious someone in public is trans, don’t go up to them. We want to be left alone. Your “hey I support you” and “you’re so brave” comments make most trans people uncomfortable and dysphoric. Yes, you were trying to be really nice, but the fact you could tell we were trans makes us realize we don’t pass, and that can be dangerous. Also, there’s the chance that the person you went up to is cis. If I were to make a list, it would be off terrible steryotypes. Even if you’re at a beach and you see a man with chest scars, don’t congratulate him. Cis men can have those scars, and trans men just want to swim and not be stared at. If a woman at the store has a really deep voice, don’t assume she’s trans. Making lists like this can cause transphobe to find us easier. The only time you should talk to a stranger about being trans is if they are wearing a flag or pin. They are probably open to talking to you, but please, leave us stealth trans people alone.
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me going into the psychiatry: hello I'm here because of my depression
me going out of the psychiatry 7 months later: hello I also have borderline, panik attacks, social phobia, ...
Social Phobia Problems
- I want new friends, but I don’t want new friends.
- I want to be alone, but not always.
- I’m afraid of talking
- I’m afraid of saying the wrong thing.
- I’m afraid of being laughed at or gossiped about
- I’m afraid of rumors
- I check the doors twice before I go to bed
- I cry when I watch the news because somehow when something terrible happens it is always my fault.
- I’m frustrated because I want to be heard but I’m afraid of my own voice.
- I’m afraid people will attack me
- I’m afraid of living
- I’m afraid of elevators and crowds
- I panic.
- I hate going to sleep because I don’t want to wake up the next day and start all of these fears over.