I did enjoy my best physique ever for a while, #but !
One main thing that surprised me is that i was not a bit happier now than when i was over weight, my level of happiness, and self esteem was just about the same when i was overweight ! how could this be !?
i heard the saying “6 packs won’t make you happy” before, i just did not believe it at the time, “of course it makes you happy i thought” . it was a big disappointment , after a while i got used to my new look , things were good until my body started to become an obsession, I STRESSED ! STRESSED A LOT .
At that time i no longer cared about my major and uni, i wanted to be a fitness trainer, i wanted to help people make the same kind of transformations that i made, unknowingly i was putting more pressure upon myself, now i had to look like a fitness trainer !
I stressed over food and training way too much, my mood was tied to weather i ate right or performed well at the gym, some days when i would go over my calories i would start feeling bad and turn a few extra calories into a binge eating disorder where i just eat too much, i stressed about food a lot, i had a notebook were i logged every single calorie that i ate, i stressed over the fact that i had only 4 packs visible and not 6 , i was training 8 sessions in 6 days, between lifting and a martial arts class .. i was looking for perfection , i was turning my life into living hell. my body was struggling and i started getting small niggling pains and aches , but i kept going.
I remember one time i was on a trip with my class to Melaka, Malaysia , it was part of the graduation requirements , i was there with my friends and a very dear person , and for the first 2 days i was unable to enjoy because my mood was so bad because i over ate and binged on caramel popcorn . it was getting that bad . the stress was too much , i was no longer happy in the moment, the moment was just a means for me to reach the future were i can be really happy .
This went on for a while (1-2 monthes) until i noticed this, Shaqira (the dear person) helped me opened my eye to this fact, i was finally able to relax and i just LET GO , it was the last month for me in Malaysia, the place that grew on me slowly, my first year with all the trouble i faced was the hardest, but now i loved the place, i had so many friends and loved ones, “its gonna be hard to say goodbye i thought” .
I stopped training all that much, i left the martial arts class and i only lifted 3 days per week, i was flexible with my diet and ate everything but kept my calories around maintenance level, things started to change for me, instead of forcing myself to do all that training before, i started looking forward to my training days, i loved going to the gym to lift , healthy eating was no longer something i needed to do , it was part of who i am .Unknowingly tracking macros in such detail had made it harder for me to stick to my goal, i stopped logging every single calorie i eat, i just guessed the number and tried to stay around maintenance . life was much easier, and the reduced training sessions came with a reduction in my cravings .
I have actually learned how to live a HEALTHY LIFE STYLE, physically, mentally and spiritually i was in my best shape ever .
i was eating right, training right, i fully accepted myself, i was happy and no longer stressed about training or dieting , “i wish i had been this way the whole time” i thought.
My last month is Malaysia was my most enjoyable one through my whole 4 years, time came to say goodbye, on 31/7/2016 i had to say goodbye . i was leaving a different person than the one that arrived . it was very hard to say goodbye, i had graduated and had to listen to my heart’s calling, i felt it is time to go somewhere new and start a new chapter . the Architecture Degree was just a piece of paper . the real value was somewhere else.
if i would take 1 thing that i learned from my whole 4 years in Malaysia , it would be how to live a healthier lifestyle . how to make training and healthy eating and positive thinking part of who you are , that is the main difference between the me that arrived in 2012, and the me that left in 2016, i was stronger, healthier, and positive towards life.
My goal from sharing this is simply to HELP , EDUCATE, and MOTIVATE .
i know there are those who struggle with the same kind of problems that i had. and those that don’t !
for those who resonate, i hope to inspire POSITIVE CHANGE in YOU !