Jefferson Santos

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What to do when you get burned by life

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What do you do when you get burned? There’s a story that talks about a cat that jumped on the hot stove, got burned, learned his lesson, never jumped on the hot stove again. But guess what? He also never jumped on the cold stove, either. Have you ever been burned by life, and then it made you a little gun shy?What should you do when that happens? Because it is one of those things where it happens in relationships, it happens in business, and it really sucks. We have to learn from that. Every time we come up against a struggle, we can’t just stop. I wouldn’t be where I am in life if I just stopped at every struggle. Some of you guys might not know this, but I’ve actually been through two divorces. I’ve been through two relationships that didn’t work out, but now I’m happily married for five years, going on six. I have two beautiful kids. If I would’ve said, “Relationships don’t work.” Guess what? I wouldn’t be happily married right now. I wouldn’t have two beautiful kids. I wouldn’t have the life that I have right now because I said, “Well, it just doesn’t work.” I know, I get it. There are times in our lives where you might say, “I got burned. I’m just going to shut it off, and I’m just going to be single for the rest of my life.” Or, “I’m not going to ever start a business.” Or, “I’m going to just have a job for the rest of my life.” I don’t know what those things are for you, but I think that we just need to calm down for a second and think about, “Okay, what really happened? What can I learn from it?” Then, “Can I live to fight another day?” I think that the more struggle you go through and the lessons that you learn, you’re able to help more people and give back more. Heck, maybe you don’t have kids, but when you do have kids, you are going to be able to share with them these stories because guess what? Our kids are going to have struggles too. Obviously, if you have kids now, that’s something you could share with them, whether that’s now or maybe later on when they get a little older. I think it’s part of life. I think it’s normal. I think, yes, it doesn’t feel good, but it’s something that, hey, we all get burned. I tend to trust people very quickly; that’s just the way that I am. That has burned me a lot, more times than I would like to share. But even though that’s hurt me, I continue to be giving, I continue to be trusting, I continue to have that abundant mindset. It has gotten me very, very far in life. It doesn’t make me feel good at all when I get burned and that I go internal and I close myself off. Think about this, when you close yourself off and you start blaming other people and you’re mad at the world, guess what? The world doesn’t care. The world doesn’t care, and I had to realize that. I had to say, “Okay, great, I’ve got to get over myself and just get moving again.” You know what? You have a lot to offer! We all have a lot to offer the world and the people in our lives. Let’s get back on the saddle. Maybe you’ve been burned on something just recently; it’s time to get back on the saddle. If you have to have a conversation with somebody, have that conversation. Have that crucial conversation, set those boundaries so that doesn’t happen again, but it’s time for you to get back on the saddle and do what you’re supposed to do to get your life where it needs to get to. I hope this helps you arrive at your next intended destination healthy, wealthy and happy. Get back on the stove!

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How mistakes can work in your FAVOR!

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Do you ever make mistakes? Of course you do, we all do! Let me tell you how to get mistakes to work for you. I’m paraphrasing a quote from George Bernard Shaw. He said “Success doesn’t mean you’re not making mistakes. Yes, you’re making mistakes, but the key thing is not to make the same mistake a second time.”

So, what happens when YOU make a mistake? Does it cripple you, or do you actually learn from it? I think that’s a really key thing because a lot of us get lost in the process. It’s a myth that these successful people or these people who have a great life don’t make any mistakes. Guess what? That’s how they learn to have a successful is to make those mistakes.

We learn what to do. We actually learn more from failure than we do from success. We’re learning from our mistakes and it makes us a better person of we learn from them and we actually apply what we’ve learned and carry that forward so we have a better time. The other thing is, if you’re not making mistakes, you’re not even doing it right. That sounds kind of oxymoron-ish, doesn’t it? If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not doing it right. When you’re achieving and going for something that maybe you’ve never done before and nobody’s ever done before, yes, you’re going to make mistakes.

That means you’re on the right path. Some of you might need just a reminder of this right now because you’re working on something, you might be making some mistakes, you’re not maybe feeling good about yourself, but guess what? You’re on the right path if you learn from it. This is a huge ask that I really need from you right now. What mistake have you made in the past? What did you do to kind of correct that? What did you learn from it?

Please comment below because this is a chance for all of us right here to actually all learn from each other. All of us are probably hundreds of years of experience, depending on how many of us actually contribute to comments below. Just share with us. What’s one of the mistakes you made in the past? What did you learn from it? What did you do the next time to overcome that, or what did you do the next time after you made the mistake? Comment below, and I hope this helps you arrive at your next intended destination, healthy, wealthy, and happy.

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The SECRET to true happiness

I came across this amazing quote the other day that I have to share with you. The quote says, “Happiness is a butterfly which when pursued is always beyond your grasp, but which if you sit down quietly, it may alight upon you.”That’s from Nathaniel Hawthorne. My question to you is, “What makes you happy? Are you going after it? Are you kind of waiting for it to kind of find you?”

I think that if you struggle so much to search for happiness, it’s kind of unfulfilling. Let me put it like this. I hear so many people say: “Someday, I’ll be happy when….”

For instance: “I’ll be happy when I get this car. I’ll be happy when I get this house. I’ll be happy when I get this raise. I’ll be happy when I get this job.”

When we do that, we put happiness outside of ourselves, but we must find a way to find INNER happiness.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with going after things. However, is it tied to your happiness? Of course I like to celebrate. I love the pursuit. I love the journey. I love the path & the process. I love all that, but what’s the happiness while you’re doing it, right? You know what? Instead of going too deep here, let’s just talk about things that make us happy. List some things down that make you happy.

For example, for me, I love to watch football. I don’t watch a lot of it, but when I sit down to watch football, it’s like guilt-free. Something else: I love to eat. I’m happy when I’m eating. Right? These are just simple things, right? I’m going to ask you in a second to list some of those, but one of my best friends in the world — she’s like a sister to me — her name is Kim Campbell. She wrote a book called “Inner Peace, Outer Abundance,” and she met people that were out in the world, because she’s traveled all around the world, her and her husband Rob.

They’ve met people that have inner peace. They’re very spiritual. They’re just very peaceful people and happy, but they don’t have any outer abundance. They don’t have any resources or money. Then she met people that had all this outer abundance, that had all these material things and all this stuff, but they didn’t have any inner peace inside. So the worst thing that you want to do is be striving for things and running after it, but it’s an empty victory or hollow victory.

I think the goal, and it’s perfectly titled, the book that she wrote: “Inner Peace, Outer Abundance.” What is it that kind of helps you have your inner peace and your happiness? There’s probably little creature comforts or things that we do. For me, I love to work out. That’s something that really makes me happy. Psychologically and physically in your body, the endorphins can go, and all kinds of stuff happens in your brain when you work out. That probably definitely helps with most people anyway.

Now what are some things that make you happy? I know some of you are listening to this. Some of you are actually watching this. If you are watching this on the Facebook channel, then down below here, please list what are some things that make you happy, because I love to learn, because maybe they might make me happy as well. I think that, once again, I always love when you guys participate and actually listen and put the comments below, because I read each and every one of them, and I really, really thank you for that. I appreciate that. What is it that makes you happy all the time? Just list those below. I hope this helps you arrive at your next intended destination: healthy, wealthy and happy.

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What is YOUR definition of success?

What is your definition of success? There’s so many people around the world that have their vision. Do you remember when you were young and you maybe wanted to be a teacher, or a firefighter, or a pilot? Do you remember those goals that we had? That was a definition of success back then.

For some of us that are watching this right now, that might still be your goal, and that’s awesome. Then there’s some of us that everything’s tied to a monetary gain. I get that as well. The question is that I think it’s time for us to pivot and really think about more meaningful goals, because one of my good friends, Mr. Gary Vaynerchuk talks about it. He talks to 90 year olds.

I’ve spoken to several people that are wise beyond their years. They have those words of REGRET. You know, I should have been spending more time with these people and this person versus working harder. I know there’s a lot of us in different parts of our careers right now, different phases of our life right now. We’re in the accumulation stage.

I think that when you think about life and how we spend it, you have to boil it down to two things. This is what I heard the other day from a guy that’s been coaching for 40 years. He said the global economy is kind of boiled down to two things: mindset and relationships. I really have been thinking about that and stewing on that for the last five days. It’s really powerful because, when you think about attitude and mindset, when you have a great mindset and you have a great attitude, everything gets looked at through those filters.

Then on the other things, relationships, everything travels through the speed of trust. In business, and all things get done very quickly when there’s trust there, when friends tell friends something, because trust… Things happen. When you really think about your life and think about the goals that we have and our definition of success, and it is something that we define, you define.

That’s got to do with two things, mindset and attitude, and then relationships. Think about this. Think about our life right now. When things aren’t going well, we’re probably not having a good mindset or attitude and/or maybe our relationship or relationships aren’t going that well.

I think it’s time to really open up our definition and not look at social media and Facebook and Instagram as our definitions of success. I think that we can get some ideas. I think that we can get those guidelines, so to speak, but really it’s about us.

My question for you is, what is your definition of success? I’m going to give you my definition in a second as well. I think that all of us are smarter than just one of us. I’m really looking forward to the comments below this video of your definition of success. By the way everyone, make sure that as we all look at each other’s definitions, no judgment whatsoever. Let’s atta-boy each other, let’s plus each other. I think that’ll be great.

My definition of success boils down to having an incredible mindset, an outlook about life and having meaningful relationships. Everything else is going to fall into those two things, because for example, if you have the money, does that guarantee you’re going to have the best mindset? Nope, but I will guarantee you this, if you have the right mindset and attitude, the money will come.

Another thing to think about is that if you have a lot of money, but you’ve got no relationships and nobody to share it with, and nobody to hang out and party with or travel around the world with, how is that important? Everything else kind of falls under the mindset and relationship part.

That’s my definition of success, is being able to have an incredible mindset and be happy and also have meaningful relationships. That doesn’t sound like a standard definition. It’s just really actually really simple. Maybe it’s easier to understand that way.

I’d love to hear from you guys because I know that all of us are smarter than just one of us, like I said a second ago. Comment below, put your definitions of success. It can be long. It can be short. It can be simple. It can be complex. It doesn’t really matter because I want to hear from you.

Last thing here is I really appreciate you guys engaging on these videos and the posts and everything. I really appreciate that. That’s really helping a lot of us as well as me as well. Thank you very much. I hope this helps you arrive at your next intended destination healthy, wealthy and happy.

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What comes first: Success or confidence?

I had a question the other day my Facebook page and someone asked:

“What comes first, success or confidence?”

That’s kind of like the chicken or the egg, right?

The answer is confidence comes first before success. Now, I understand that you can look at the other ways like, “You know what? When I get successful then I’ll be more confident”.

You’ve got to think about it. How are you going to get the success? The only way, really, to get confident is to fail, is to display courage, right? Really, what comes first, success or confidence? It’s really neither. It’s failure and not doing it right and then figuring out how to do it.

Here’s another thing. There’s this competency-confidence curve. You get more competent on doing something. You get some new skills then you get more confidence. When you get more confidence you get more competent. That starts to happen like that. It starts to spiral up.

That’s also something that happens when you’re working at it, you’re getting in the trenches, you’re learning what to do, what not to do, all these different things. Then finally you start to gain that confidence to get a little success. Then you get more confidence, a little bit of success.

It’s not all just one thing. You’re not going to get it all just in one shot, right? I just want you to understand something. I want to ask you a question now. What are you working on right now that’s helping you get more confidence? How are you getting more confidence in the moment?

I know there are some of you there like, “I don’t know how”. Then there are some of you there saying, “You know what? I put on some of my favorite music in the morning and I just start shouting out positive things to myself in the mirror”. There are some of you that do that. There are some of you that pray in the morning. There are some of you that have positive thoughts and you start to read affirmations. There are some of you that do that too.

I’d love to hear from you down below in the comments on what is it that you do to kind of get confidence in the moment. What do you think about? Is it something you think about like ten years down the road like who you’re going to be? Is it something that you think about like putting your Superman cape on or your Superwoman cape on? I don’t know, right?

I think a lot of us love to learn from each other. I’ll tell you one thing that I really enjoy about you guys is that you guys play full-out on this page. You guys are watching the videos and commenting. I appreciate all that. Like my buddy GaryVee says, it’s his oxygen. It’s our oxygen. I think it really helps us.

Success or confidence, confidence or success, well, you have to learn first to get that confidence. Then you get that confidence before you get the success. You’re always going to the next level. There’s that curve, that competency-confidence curve that you’re always doing, like an infinity sign. You’re always doing that. I hope this helps you arrive at your next intended destination healthy, wealthy and happy. Comment below. See you soon!

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How to keep going when you DON’T see results

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I got this question the other day:

“How do I keep going when I don’t see any results?”

That’s a great question. My question to you is is what are you committed to?

I think one of the things we need is we need the skill-set, we also need theenthusiasm and the energy, but we also have to add time to it. All of us want to be the microwave millionaires and obviously that’s not going to happen. We see other people, right, Facebook and social media, everybody else’s highlight reel, but we have to go through the trenches. We have to go through our learning curves and so, you know, have you changed your approach? Are you once again, how committed are you to it? Are you doing it kind of spare time? Are you really getting after it? I mean really.

When was the last time you gave it everything you’ve got? A lot of us out here we actually never have. And we always have a little bit left in the tank and we didn’t leave it all out on the field, so to speak, right? So that’s my question to you is, how committed are you and what is it going to look like for you 10 years from now when you do accomplish what you’re setting out to do?

And also, what’s the worst case? What if you don’t accomplish what you’re setting out to do? What is your life going to look like? I think that’s one thing, that’s a writing exercise that I did at one of the workshops that I was attending and it was powerful because I’m sitting there with myself and I’m writing and when you write and you get that ink to the paper and it’s coming out and you’re writing and you’re writing and you’re writing, things start to come out.

And what I want you to do and this is something that for you serious people that really want to know and if you’re stuck and you’re at a plateau here’s what I want you to do.

I want you to get a journal out and start writing. What’s going to happen to my life five or 10 years from now if I actually accomplish what I’m setting out to do right now?

Also, write what is the world going to look like if you don’t do what you’re setting out to accomplish your goals. Get dramatic with it! What is the world going to look like? What is your world going to look like, but what is your family’s world, what is everybody’s else world, what’s the world going to look like if you don’t accomplish what you’re setting out to do?

So I hope this helps you. A little bit more heady today, a little bit more thinking right, but we’ve got a little bit of homework after this, but I hope this helps you arrive at your next intended destination, healthy, wealthy and happy.

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How to dig DEEP to find your TRUE motivation in life

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What REALLY motivates you? 

I don’t want to sound cliché here, but hear me out. We’ve all heard people ask “what’s your why?”

The thing is, when you really break it down, there’s some of us that it’s money at first, because we didn’t have any money.                           

Let me share with you a story. This was probably back when I was eight or nine years old. We’d go to the store with my mom, and she would always have to say, “We can’t afford that. We don’t have the money.” In my head, I always thought we didn’t have any money. She’d always verbally say money’s hard to make. In my head, I’m thinking money’s hard to make, and so, I think, one of my reasons that motivated me to become an entrepreneur is I didn’t have any money. I wanted to have money. I wanted to have the lifestyle and things that we didn’t have as I was growing up.                        

Let’s expand on that. Let’s go a little deeper, though. There are some of us, and there are some of all of us, that we have these things that we want to achieve. We have these reasons why, right?

Here’s what I want you to do. When the video’s over, at night before you go to bed, or this morning, whenever, and you’re watching this, I really want you to write down what are some things you want, and then why you want them, but then I want you to dig deeper, and then ask yourself why do you want THAT?

For example, let’s say you want to become a millionaire. Cool. That’s a motivation, right? Why do you want to become a millionaire? What’s the reason there? Is it because you don’t have to worry about money, because I’ll tell you what. If you make a million, you’ll find a reason to spend a million. After that, you want to not worry about money. Why do you not want to worry about money? Is it because you want to stay away from – when you were growing up, you didn’t have any money? 

You want to dig three to four levels deep. I’ve done this before with several different things, and one of the things that I got down to, for me, and it might be different for you –we’re all going to have our different answers – but I felt that the reason why I wanted to do a lot of things is because it made me feel like I’m worth something. It made me feel like I mattered. It made me feel like I can contribute something to the world. That was way under the money part. Yes, I wanted money. Why do I want the money? Well, because I want this. I dig, and I dig, and I dig, and then all of a sudden it was like, because I want to matter. I do want to be good enough. I feel like I am good enough. That’s what it got down to.                           

You’ll be surprised, when you look at the surface, the first surface, and then you dig and ask the why of that, and the second level, you go down to the third, fourth, you might even make it to the fifth level deep. You’re really going to get to the root of why you want what you want. I think that’s key, because I think when nobody’s around, when you’re by yourself, you sit there with a journal and a pen and piece of paper, and you start to write, I think something really happens when you take time, and you block time to actually think about what you’re thinking about, and gaffe it out with your pen or your pencil. I think something’s going to happen to you.                          

I think what’s happening is we’re so distracted today by social media, by everything that’s happening in our lives and our careers and families, and all these different things. We don’t even have time to sit down and sharpen the saw and sit down and think about what we really want. We think we know what we want because that’s what the TV is saying, and that’s what people in social media are saying, and the Cosmo checklist, and things like that. What do you want? It’s going to take a little while to work at that. It’s not going to happen automatically. It’s not going to be just a surface answer. It’s something that you really have to work on. Don’t guess anymore. Let’s get to the answer.             With that said, hopefully, and I know this, digging deep to find your reasons why, the reasons why you’re motivated are going to help you arrive at your next intended destination healthy, wealthy, and happy. I’ll see you in the comments below. 

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Why your CHARACTER is more important than your REPUTATION

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I recently shared a post on Facebook that got around 16,000 shares and it was a quote by John Wooden, who was one of the most winningest coach in college basketball history.

It basically said something to the effect of this, “Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your reputation is what other people think of you, and your character is who you really are.” 

I think the reason why that had a ton a shares is because it boils down to our very essence. It’ll erode you if you’re doing things for other people just for how they think of you. 

I feel that a lot of my life has been affected because I was worried about how other people think of me. I think a lot of us do the same thing. I think that is something that paralyzes a lot of us, that we’re worried what other people think of us. When you’re by yourself and you see that piece of trash on the sidewalk, do you pick that up and put it in the trashcan, or is it only when you’re around other people, to look good in front of them, that you pick up that piece of trash?

I’ve been guilty of that, I’m gonna be honest with you, but you know what’s really funny? When I go to the bathroom, I literally wipe the seat....every time! Not even the seat, it’s like the other part, when you put the seat up. Always wipe that before I flush a toilet and go, because it’s kind of like it’s my house. 

It’s like I’m going to the bathroom in my house and how would I want somebody else to treat my house, if somebody went to the bathroom there, right? When you go to public place to go to the restroom, yeah it might be kind of messy, but that doesn’t mean you need to mess it up even more! 

It’s like one of those things, it’s like a study, when there’s a piece of trash in an area it’s like it collectively gets more trashy, gets more messed up versus a place that’s like nice, neat and clean. It tends to not get messed up so fast and so easy. I think that’s the same thing with our character, is if we constantly make these little itty bitty decisions when we’re by ourself, that really builds up the integrity. I know a lot of people throw that word around like it’s cliché and a different context or whatever, but when you think about a lot of the reasons why people don’t trust other people is because they don’t trust themselves.

Here’s what this means:

Sometimes we say “I’m going to go on this diet, for the next 90 days I’m going to eat clean and green and all of this stuff,” and all of a sudden three days later we’re eating pizza, and we’re eating candy and all of this crazy stuff. So we let ourselves down, but instead of taking that one meal and yeah, you messed up on that one meal and getting back on the horse, and getting back on track, we just throw the baby out with the bath water. We’re like, “Psh, forget it, you know? I knew I couldn’t do it.” It’s like you lost integrity with yourself and so now you don’t even trust yourself to do another diet.  Then it bleeds into other things in your life. What starts to happen is when you don’t trust yourself, you don’t trust other people. It starts within and you generate the trust, you don’t have trust, you generate it, and then you trust other people.

Now, I understand that a lot of us have been through a lot of stuff where we’ve gotten screwed and tattooed and all these crazy things, and now it’s hard to trust anyone. I get that. In one of my previous videos, months and months ago, as a young boy some things happened to me that really caused me to not trust anyone. But I lived to fight another day, I had to build up that trust. Until I started reading books and going to seminars and listening to things, started realizing that, you know, it starts from within. You can generate that, right? I don’t mean to go on a tangent there, not really a tangent but to explain more- but I really wanted to go a little bit more in-depth there, because I think our character is all we have. I think that who cares what other people think of us? If you’re true to your character and you’re the type of person who says what you do, and you walk your talk, then your reputation is going to be your reputation. When you’ve passed on, it’s your legacy! It’s what are the history books going to say about who you were and what you did, and what you stood for?

That’s what your legacy is and that’s what your character is, those little decisions that we make every single day when we’re by ourselves. It is what’s really going to build that trust in yourself, and also that confidence in yourself, because I get it. When I played football as a receiver, I found pride in catching every freaking ball that’s thrown to me, but when you drop that pass, that one in a million pass, it gets at you, it got at me. Then I tend to think about, “Don’t drop the pass, don’t drop the pass.” The problem is if I’m focusing on, “Don’t dropping the pass,” the word “drop the pass” is in the phrase, right? My brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and what I’m saying so it’s focusing on dropping the pass. I gotta focus on, “Catching the pass, catching the pass, catching the pass.” I can just play that on and on and on. That’s what builds up who we are, is those little decisions we make every day when people aren’t around.

Once again, a big reminder from Uncle Jefferson today of who cares about your reputation? I want you to care about your character, and thank you very much Coach Wooden. Hope this helps you arrive at your next intended destination healthy, wealthy and happy. Make those decisions guys, and I will see you at your next destination.

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How successful mornings can lead to a successful LIFE!

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I always have people ask me, “How do you start your day?” 

This is a great question because I truly believe that starting your days the right way will lead you to so much more productivity and HAPPINESS in your life!

As a matter of fact, I have a couple of "wake up times” for some of the worlds most successful entrepreneurs.

Tim Cook, Apple CEO, wakes up at 4:30 in the morning. 

Disney CEO, Bob Iger, 4:30am.

Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks, 4:30 in the morning. 

Richard Branson. Well, he “sleeps in” until 5:45 AM.

Now, you don’t have to wake up that early. It’s not about what time you wake up, it’s what you do once you open your eyes. I think that’s really important. When I wake up, sometimes it’s 6:00, sometimes it’s 7:00 AM. It kind of depends if the kids had a good night’s sleep too.

What I do the first thing when I wake up is I’m thinking about, and I’m grateful, and I’m praying. For you, that might be God, the universe, whatever that is, but it’s the instant state of gratitude. Literally, before my feet hit the floor I’m already thinking of that. I’m putting myself in that state. I’m not grabbing my phone and looking at Facebook, or Instagram, or Snapchat, or any type of social media, or email.

I’m not doing any of that. Your email box is just an agenda for other people, other people’s agenda for your life. I don’t want to be distracted. I want to start my day on purpose. I think that a lot of us, all too often, we just reach for the phone because it’s right there and we start to surf.

What happens is you’re literally at the whim of whatever shows up in your news feed. You have no control of what’s going to show up in your news feed on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, or really any other social media platform. When you check social media first thing in the morning, you’re already hijacking your mind. You’re hijacking your purpose. You’re already in reaction mode.

I don’t do any of that. Once I’m grateful and all of that, spend a couple of minutes there, I get up and I immediately start drinking water. For me, I put Super Greens in my water. Some of you are wondering, “What are Super Greens?” Well, Google that. Amazing Grass, Super Greens. That’s the product that I use.

I dump that in there in a half of a bottle of water and slam that down. Then I have another bottle of water after that. Then I get on the treadmill and I start moving. If you don’t have a treadmill, start moving, or walking around the house, or go up and down your stairs if you have stairs.

I always like to get the blood going in my body, in my brain. Once I start doing that, I start listening to something positive. For me it’s the audio bible, sometimes it’s a podcast, or some other personal development piece that I’m listening to. I want get that good stuff in my brain all the time first thing in the morning. We all know that as the day goes on, and we start interacting with other people, and they start bringing their energies, and their attitudes, or lack thereof, or whatever to us, we have to kind of have that barrier.

We’ve got to already develop that thick skin. I do that every single day. I’ve developed that for years, and years, and years, and years, so I have a really thick skin to be able to handle the stuff that comes at me. You have to be prepared for that. Not prepared for everything, but you know what I mean, just getting your mind in that place where you’re feeling good.

I think more often than not we kind of stumble into the morning. A lot of people do this. After this video, I don’t want you to do that. Don’t just stumble into the morning. Don’t shuffle your feet, and then you shuffle over to the coffee maker, then you make your coffee. Until you get your coffee it’s like, “Don’t talk to me.” I get that.

Sometimes I get that way when I’m hungry, I get “hangry,” right? One of the things that we need is that our body is dehydrated after a full nights sleep.

You might be a pro in your job, in different things that you’re doing in your life. Maybe you’re not really a pro with how you work your mornings. You could do some things that can move the needle and really give you the edge. Another thing that I love about waking up early, or a little bit earlier than everybody else, before everybody else wakes up, is I can really pay attention to what I’m doing.

I can really focus on it. I don’t have any distractions, and I feel like I’m ahead of everybody else, at least for a little while. It might still be dark outside. The sun hasn’t risen and I’m already working on my goals.

Try this. Try it for a week. Try it for a couple of days. It’s going to be a little tough to change if that’s not what you’re doing. I challenge you. This is what the top CEOs and Richard Branson is doing, every single morning. They’ve got all the money. They’ve got what they need. There’s a different reason why they’re waking up early.

They’re excited about life. They’re excited about their purpose. They want to snap back the sheets of the bed, and just hop out of bed, like cat-like moves. Really just attack the day. That’s the kind of attitude that we have to bring to the table.

We have to generate that in the moment. It just doesn’t fall on us like a piano from a third story building or something. It’s something we generate in the moment. My good friend Brendon Bouchard says, “The power plant doesn’t have energy, it generates it.” We all don’t have good attitudes, we generate it in the moment. That’s what we do.

Let’s start our mornings on the right foot this time. Let’s wake up on the right side of the bed. Let’s be grateful. Let’s get up and drink some water, or some greens, or whatever. Get some good stuff in our body. Get hydrated. Let’s get moving. Let’s start listening to something positive.

Those are four things you could start doing immediately. If you haven’t even done it today, you could start doing that today. Definitely start it tomorrow morning. Get going on a string of that. I’d love to hear the results from that. For those of you that have already been doing it, make your comments below.

Hopefully this helps you arrive at your next intended destination, healthy, wealthy, and happy!

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How to develop an attitude of EXCELLENCE

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I’d like to ask you a question:

Where in your life have you been doing less than your best? 

Today I want to talk to you about having an attitude of excellence. A lot of us, including myself, have done things where we say, “Oh, that’s good enough. I’ll do fine there.” When you really think about it, if you’re flying in an airplane, wouldn’t you want those people that built the airplane to build it in excellence? Think about that for a second. What other areas of our life have we been not playing excellent at?

One of my good friends Bo Eason played in the NFL for many years as a defensive back. In the middle of his career he got traded over to the San Francisco 49ers. Bo is the kind of guy where he always wakes up early, and he always woke up earlier than everybody else. He would also get on the practice field and in the weight room before everybody else, but his first day of practice for the 49ers, things changed. He went out there early before anybody, but there was one guy already out there before him. You know who it was?

Mr. Jerry Rice. 

One of the top receivers in the entire NFL history. He really observed that, and he saw that he was already in a full sweat working out before anybody even got there. Bo told me about Jerry’s work ethic. For instance, when they would go out for some little slant patterns, the other players would just jog and not really think much of the drill. They would just trot, catch the ball, and get back in line.

But when Jerry got to the front of the line, things changed. He got in his stance, looked at the quarterback, and all of a sudden.....BOOM! He would hit the three-step slant, catch the ball, tuck the ball, look at the end zone, and SPRINT towards the end zone.

Sometimes they were practicing on the 50-yard line, and he would run 50 yards to the end zone. Sometimes they would practice on the opposite 20-yard line, so he’s running 80 yards to the end zone. Every time he caught a practice ball, he went crazy and sprinted down to the end zone. Everybody else, when they got up, they’re just lackadaisical, doing their thing, but Jerry is the one going full out in practice. He was doing things in excellence. Bo goes up to Jerry, and he’s like, “Dude, what’s going on, man? Why are you going full speed every single practice pass to the end zone?” He goes, “Simple. Every time my hand touches this football, every molecule in my body knows it needs to end up in the end zone. That’s it.” Bo was like, “I get it.”

When I hear that, I think: Where in our life are we not running all the way to the end zone? 

I need to hear this too. Part of these videos that I do is so I can hear them again, because I need to be reminded of this stuff, to do things in excellence. Are we doing things in excellence at our job, in our career? At home, with our relationships? Where are we falling short, and really not going all the way up to excellence, and doing things in excellence. 

Even making your bed, even straightening up the kitchen. Even how your car looks on the inside. Even maybe how you put yourself together in your outfit when you go to work or when you’re going somewhere. It’s that little extra 30 seconds to a minute of time to make sure whatever you’re doing is in excellence.

I think that today could start that day. Maybe you’re like, “Hey, you know what? I’ve got some areas in my life I’ve been pretty excellent at, but these couple of areas, I haven’t. 

Another one of my friends and mentors, Joe Polish, always says “be willing to destroy anything in your life that’s not excellent”. That’s an over the top mindset, but think about that. What if you tried that on for a little bit? What if you were willing to destroy anything in your life that is not excellent? Think about the raising of the bar that you’re doing.

You see, there’s always a better version of ourselves. The challenge is COMMITTING to become that better version!

At the same time, one of the worst things you can do is try to be perfect. There was only one guy that was perfect. It was Jesus Christ, and he died on the cross. Let’s do things in excellence. 

That airplane you’re riding on, the car that you’re driving, or whatever thing that you’re doing, I hope that that person that built it did it in excellence, right? Let’s go through life like that, and do things in excellence. Let’s be a person of excellence, and let’s let people expect that of us, because I think that’s going to help us get to our next destination, healthy, wealthy, and happy. Let’s do things in excellence.

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Are you settling for GOOD when you could have GREAT?

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John D. Rockefeller said, “Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.”

We’ve all heard this before, right?

I’ve got a buddy of mine and his name is Nate Ridgeway. He inspires me to go ALL OUT because he is literally working on running a hundred mile marathon. I don’t think it’s call a marathon. It’s like an ultra-mega grand poohbah run!

For me, to run like three or five miles is kind of big task for me! For a lot of us maybe just a mile! But the thing is is like when I started talking to him about about this, I kept thinking “This is crazy!”

Here’s my point:

That literally stretched my mind of what’s really possible. First of all, because I know him. And to think that he’s going to do a hundred mile run inspired ME to do better!

The question I want to ask you is….what are you settling for? Could you be doing something way better than what you’re doing it right now? Could we be a way better person than we are right now? Well, probably yeah, but there are some of us, and I’m talking to you right now, that you’re doing better than 90 percent of the people out there, but that’s not your best.

See we need to better our best. See we’ve got to beat ourselves what we did yesterday or the day before, and so this comparing ourselves to other people sometimes if you have the right mindset could inspire you, but also it’s kind of making some of us comfortable because some of us are talented.

Maybe we’re really great at so many things so we just kind of “coast”.

I’m here to tell you….don’t coast! You have to constantly challenge yourself because if you just rely on talent for the rest of your life, I’m telling you people are going to catch up. The world needs to see the best you possible.

That is why I’m constantly going to seminars and reading books and listening to MP3s and podcasts and all kinds of stuff. Why? Because I want to keep on getting better. Why? Because you know what, if I can help you the leader and you’ve got a team whether it’s in the office or a sales team or whatever that is, if I can help the leader, then the leader gets better. Guess what? The team gets better, and that’s all I want to do. So don’t settle for you think where you’re at right now and that’s doing good. Let’s go to the next level.

Now some of you might say, well Jefferson, hold on a second. I worked really hard to get to this point. Well, that’s fine! And when you get to a level that you’re happy with, you can celebrate that. You want to integrate that into your being, into your molecules of your body like integrate that, and now that’s your new baseline. That’s where you live, okay, but if that becomes your new baseline, where do you go from there? Do you just stay there? You see, there’s always another level.

I think us as human beings we have to keep on shooting forth and growing because I think one of the pillars of happiness for us as human beings is progress. We want to know that we’re progressing in some direction, right, and so once again I’m just here as kind of Uncle Jefferson to say hey, look, we’re doing great. You might be doing great, but could we even be doing better, and get ready to prepare to do that another launch that you’re going to do to the next level of where you’re going to go. So if you just achieved it, hey celebrate you know for the next couple of days or a week or so, right. Then you’ve got to be thinking about what is pick your next goal. What is that going to be? Okay.

So with that said, you know, what is your next level for you? Comment below. I want to hear what you’re talking about. I want to hear what you’re thinking, and if this video helped you think or kind of uncover some of the things maybe you’ve already been thinking about. Maybe I just articulated a little bit more for you to help you kind of bring it down to brass tacks, right.

So comment below. I look forward to helping you arrive at your next intended destination healthy, wealthy and happy.

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When do YOU give up?

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Thomas Edison literally found out 10,000 ways that the light bulb doesn't work. It's been said that you're not really in business as an entrepreneur unless you're made a thousand phone calls.

My question to you is, how many times are you actually trying in putting that effort in to get to that next level -- in your relationship, to get that promotion. How many times are you really putting that effort in? Think about this: Thomas Edison attempted the light bulb 10,000 times! 

So my question to you is -- and I'm talking to myself right now, too -- is when was the last time I actually tried something 10,000 times? We never know when that breakthrough is going to happen for us, when that breakout year or that breakout performance or that breakout presentation or whatever happens. We don't know when that is. We have to do enough to win. Right?

If you're going for that promotion or you're in a relationship, how many times are you really putting that effort? Here’s something else I’ve heard: “I’ve tried everything.” And sometimes that makes me stop and ask.....Everything? Have you tried every single thing possible in the world for this thing you're going after? I have to ask myself that question as well. Most of the time, the answer is no. We haven't really, really tried everything. So this is just a reminder for me as well it is for you because the camera's just on me right now. But when you're going for that goal and you're going for that next level; you're going toward that destination, how many times are you going to try? I like the word attempt better. Let's say “attempt”. As much as it takes, right?

I don't know how many thousands of attempts that I tried to have at success or winning or getting some sort of traction toward the aim I was after. I think that maybe the difference between you and I may be just be a little bit of time and a few more attempts at doing it because we've all heard of -- I've mentioned this before -- don't stop at that last attempt when three more attempts could get you to that goal, to get you to that next level. Are you doing enough to win? Really? Ask yourself that question. Really?

I'm always inspired by you guys all the time and I want you to comment below on what is something that you've been attempting and that after watching this video now you're going to put in another thousand tries to figure that out. What is that? Because I just want to read those and I really, really appreciate every time you comment and you give feedback on these videos because that just lets me know that you're watching them and it's impacting you in some shape, form or fashion.

I hope this helps you arrive at your next intended destination healthy, wealthy and happy!

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How to create a BIG vision for your life!

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I want to talk to you about creating a huge future for your life. You know, if there’s a subject that a lot of us are numb to it’s goal setting. I’m not going to talk about goal setting. I'm going to talk about you can cast a BIG vision for your life!

I get that question at least a couple of times a week, and this will answer for a lot of you. I used to have a really, really small vision. Let me tell you how small my vision was.

My mother would rarely take me to church and when she did take me to church and they would pass around the offering plate, in my head – mind you, I’m sharing with you how small my vision was – the offering plate is coming down the isle and in my head I’m thinking, “Wow, what if I got a dollar from everybody in the room? I’d be rich.” I wasn’t even thinking about putting anything in the offering plate because we didn’t have anything. I didn’t understand what was going on. I just didn’t get the whole giving concept and all of that. That’s how small my vision was!

How did I get a bigger vision? How do people get a bigger vision? They get around people of vision. They get around people that have bigger thoughts to think about bigger things.

Think about the Wright brothers. They were not rational in their thinking; they were irrational in their thinking. They simply said, “We’re going to take man and  put him in a vehicle of some sort and fly like birds.” I mean, that’s crazy. OK, we’re going to flick a switch and all of a sudden the room’s going to light up. I mean, think about those thoughts. And Marconi talking about wireless and stuff. They thought he was crazy. "How are things going to go through the air?!?

I think one of the first books that really got me stretching my thinking was “The Magic of Thinking Big.” That was an incredible book and if you haven’t read that in the last five or ten years, I would read that book again. Hey, if you haven’t read my book yet, go ahead and read that too. It’s kind of a version of that but it’s really about keeping our thoughts fresh and being around people of vision because one of the things that helped me too is – see, books will only go so far.

I think one of the most impactful ways to learn and stretch your vision is going to some sort of a live event where there’s music and energy and people that you interact with and that you’re having conversations with and you’re hearing about what they’re working on or what they want from their lives and you’re comparing that in a way to what you want.

I got around people that thought bigger than me. That’s what I strive to do all the time. It’s why I still go to seminars. I go to learn because I love to teach but I also go to grow too. If you haven’t made it to a live event of some sort I would find out when the next live event is of the company you work for or some sort of personal development seminar or something where you can interact with people and learn from a mentor from stage and really just get amongst them. See, just like we schedule our workout or we schedule our meals or we schedule whatever – appointments at work – you need to schedule your success because time is a vacuum. If you don’t schedule it, time just goes away. Right?

How many of us have been at the end of a day where we’re like, “Wow, where did today go? I didn’t have time for the stuff that I wanted to do.” Why? A lot of it is because we didn’t prioritize something or we didn’t block time for it. So you need to block time for your success and for your mind and for your brain. So you need to find out when the next thing is. Do that at least every quarter. That’s what I do because I find that if I don’t go to live events or I don’t surround myself with the right people; if I don’t listen to the right MP3’s or podcasts or read the books, my thinking gets a little – I like to say – impotent. It’s not as big. It just doesn’t have that spark with those ideas.

A lot of us get ideas in the shower or when we’re listening to music or we’re listening to something when we’re driving in the car or we’re listening to some sort of personal development CD or something and so continue to do that. This might just be a reminder; you might already be doing it. If you’re watching this video you’re probably already doing it.

Maybe you need to ratchet it up a little bit more. Maybe you need to get a little bit rigorous with your curriculum; maybe just like you did when you were in college. I think a lot of people want to become wealthy but they’re not willing to put in the work. A lot of people stop reading books when they leave high school or college because they’re not doing it for a grade.

Unfortunately in today’s society, one of the grades is finances. You don’t have a lot of finances there’s not a lot of things you could do. I know that’s just one thing, but there are several things. But I’m just saying that income follows your personal growth. So let’s continue to grow. Let’s continue to learn and let’s continue to get around people of vision.

So hopefully this will help you get to your next intended destination healthy, wealthy and happy!

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PROSPER where you’re planted!

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Vince Lombardi said once that the measure of who you are is what you do with what you have. There are so many people that want to earn millions, but they're not taking care of their thousands. There are a lot of us that want a promotion. How good are we actually treating the job we have right now? We really have to prosper where we're planted. We have to take care of the small things so that the big things take care of themselves. Once again I'm probably just reminding you of something you already know. I think it's important that we kind of review this. Let’s say you're not in a relationship and you want that relationship in your life. You want that significant other. How are you treating the people that are in your life right now, maybe co-workers, family, siblings, something like that? How are you treating those people? If you're not treating them right then how do you expect to attract that right person into your life? Think about that for a second. What is it that you want? Let's say you want a new car. How are you treating the car you have right now? Are you just taking corners and trashing the car because you're like "Yeah, I'm going to get a new car later on." Are you taking care of your car? Are you getting the weekly maintenance or monthly maintenance? You're kind of paying it forward, so to speak, because you know you're going to treat that new car, whatever that new car may be — Mercedes, Lexus or Range Rover, whatever you want. You need to start treating the car you have now or the life that you have now or the job that you have now or the position you have now the way you want to be treated later. Think about this. What about the relationship you're in now? Are you treating that person like the person they are now or who you want them to be? If you're a guy and want your wife to be the princess, are you waiting for her to just somehow become the princess one day and then you'll love her or love her more? Are you treating her like the princess now to where she can live up to that standard? For the ladies, it's the same thing. How are you treating your guy? Are you complaining about who he is or he isn't? Are you treating him like the man that he's called to be or could be? Let him live up to that. Once again we've heard this before. I'm here as Uncle Jeff, so to speak, reminding you of what you are. Prosper where you're planted. Wherever you're at right now, look at what you have. Work with what you have! Be grateful for what you have as we're on our way to achieve more. There’s nothing wrong with achieving more because that's how the world goes around.

That's how we get innovations and disruption in the marketplace. That's how we have airplanes and cars, right? If Henry Ford took a survey, some people would probably have said "We want faster horses." No, he actually made a car. He wasn't worried about the horse and buggy anymore. He was innovating. He was thinking further on. He was pushing himself. He was achieving. That's what we want to do. What are you doing with what you have now? Comment below. What are some things that you learn? What are some things that you might do differently after hearing this video? What can you improve on what you have now to get to the next level in your life? I'm looking forward to seeing you at your next destination; healthy, wealthy and happy.

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What would you do if it was IMPOSSIBLE to fail?

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I want you to think about this for one second. What if you’re trying to do something, you’re trying to achieve something, you’re trying to create something? What if it was, for you, it was impossible for you to fail? Think about that for a second. We’ve probably heard that before, but I’m just reminding you. Are you acting as if it were impossible to fail?

Think about this: What if you made 100 phone calls, let’s say you’re in, I don’t know, let’s say you’re in real estate. You made 100 phone calls, and all 100 phone calls connected, the person picked up, they answered the call, and they wanted to buy. Think about that, 100 out of 100, what time would you wake up in the morning? How many calls would you make?

Would you do 300 calls? It’s crazy that a lot of us, including myself, sometimes we go through life as if everybody is out to get us. Let’s flip that on its ear. What if the universe, what if everyone is for us? What if the world is for us, and literally you cannot fail. Everything you do, you cannot fail. You’re doing it in excellence, and you can make it happen. What you be doing right now, if you could not fail?

Is there a girl, or a guy, you need to call, if you’re single that is...

Is there someone you need to reconnect with? Is there someone, you’re afraid of the conversation, you need to have that crucial conversation, and all the sudden we’re afraid to pick up that phone? 

We’re afraid to reach out and connect, because there’s that feeling of, “We could fail.”

Well, you know, really it’s just another way to learn of what not to do, and then we picked ourselves up, and we work on it again. A different attempt, a different angle, a different perspective, right? What if, just what if, you could not fail. What if you’re studying for a test right now, or a license that you’re trying to get? I want to you attack that test. I want you to attack that class like you could not fail.

It’s a different type of attitude. It’s like when you walk in a room, you own the room, not like for ego, but it’s like for service. For you’re going to be the best, not to puff your chest out, but to know inside your heart, in your being, that you can’t fail. You’re going to make it happen. If you walk through life with that type of attitude, it is a more powerful attitude to come from, and I feel you’ll be more happy.

It’s worked for me, and I’m a human being. I’m not a robot, so yeah, of course, there are times where I’m afraid of this, or afraid of that, I’m not a robot. More times than not, I have to recalibrate myself, and remind myself, “OK, I’m not going to fail at this, I’m going to forward. I’m going to learn what to do, what not to do. If it doesn’t work I’m going to do it again. I’m just going to go.”

It’s gotten me far in life, and I want to further, and I want to take everybody with me, but I can’t do it for you. You need to put the hat on yourself of, “What could I accomplish?” You, you accomplish. What can you accomplish if you couldn’t fail? Think about that. I’ll see you at the next destination, healthy, wealthy, and happy.

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What would you say to your YOUNGER self?

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There's was an article that Richard Branson put out the other day and he was writing a letter to his 25 year old self. Some of you that are younger than 25 it's going to be a little bit different, but if you're older than 25 -- What would you say to yourself? Some of the things he was talking about when he was writing a letter to his 25 year old self -- he was talking about the word "entrepreneur." He says, "You might not be familiar with that word yet but that word is associated with risk and what's going to determine your success in your future is how many calculated risks you can take." I think that's a huge thing because courage is a big factor in our success or literally our happiness.

(By the way, Richard Branson’s Full Article Can Be Found HERE)

Let's just imagine, let's just say you're 60, 70 years old and you're just not happy with where you're at in life. Wouldn't it be cool to go back and talk to your 25 year old self or your 20 year old self and just encourage yourself, so to speak. Say, "Look, that courage that we had at 16 years old and 18 years old -- we've got to keep that going. We have to push through because when there's times where everything feels like the world's falling down on us, we have to keep on pushing forward." That's the type of conversation that we have to be having with ourselves. But we have to keep on having that conversation with ourselves because if we press the fast forward button and we're now 60 to 70 years old, will we be happy with our legacy?

It's kind of a sobering question, isn’t it? One of the other things that Richard Branson talks about is he says that you need to keep your loved ones and the people you respect close to you. Don't listen to your naysayers and just push forward. I know some of us have heard that many times in many different ways and it might even sound cliche. But would you rather live your live by cliches and actually have a great life or be cynical about cliches and then not even get any kind of coaching and just follow whatever you're going to do not even knowing where you're going to go and all of a sudden it's 50 years later and you're not happy?

There's a lot of great sayings out there and quotes out there that we hear many times but maybe this video's just a reminder of something we need to be thinking about. One of the things that would help us -- all of us watching this video -- is if you comment below of, what are some of the things that you would say to your younger self?

So, that's one question: What would you say to your younger self -- and then let's flip it over, it's what would you say to your older self, your older self that actually went through the things that they were supposed to do and now it's 25, 30 years later and now it's like your life is exciting, all the dreams that you thought about have come true. What would you say to that person as well?

Guys, this is just a reminder. I'm sure we've heard of different exercises like this before and things like this before but this is something that kind of gets me going. It gives you a different perspective of why you would even start something or why you would stop something, is when you stop and think about -- What would my future self think if I stop right now? I'm inches away from that vein of gold like we hear about and we just throw in the towel and quit. You're an inch away from that vein of gold.

That's why some of you need to be hearing this right now. There's a reason why I put this video together. I almost didn't because we hear about this a lot, but you know what, maybe you haven't. Maybe just one of us, one of us who hears the message is like, "OK, thank you for the reminder; it helped me today. I'm going to change my trajectory of the path I was going on because I want my older self to be proud."

OK, so with that said, I hope this helps you and reminds you to help your next intended destination healthy, wealthy and happy. Please comment below.

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Are you BATTLE-TESTED?

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Summary:

Are you battle tested? I have a quote here from Dax Shepard that says, “Success is just a war of attrition. Sure, there’s an element of talent you should probably possess, but if you stick around just long enough, eventually something is going to happen.”

That’s what happened to me. I mean, for me, you know, it took me about 18 years to have any type of success. I played football in junior high, high school and college. I was part of losing teams all the way through. Then I got into business for myself as an entrepreneur and struggled for NINE years!

Literally, I hadn’t had success for many years but the hope of success was there. I saw other people that were making it happen and I was like, “Me too. I’m going to do it. I just have to stick around long enough.”

One of my friends that was in the military, he always told me you can always count on the guy next to you falling back when you’re, like, in a race, so to speak. It’s like I can always count on people kind of falling off because I had that stamina. I had that stick-to-itiveness.

If you think about Michael Jordan, he got demoted down to JV because he didn’t make the varsity team in his sophomore year in high school. That caused him to work even harder and then he got a full-ride scholarship to UNC, right?

Then also Carrie Underwood. She’s famous now but, you know, she had dreams of singing when she was a little girl. Then she, after high school, kind of temporarily gave up on it and she waited tables, worked at a zoo.

She thought it was kind of practical to kind of scale back the accelerator on her career. She thought it was unrealistic but it’s still in the back of her mind and she stuck around with it and then she decided to try out for American Idol and the rest is history, right?

My question for you is, what are you sticking around on right now? Do you think you’re about to give up on something? Maybe you need to stick around a couple of more years at what you’re doing, or another five years.

For me, in my entrepreneurial career, when I finally became an entrepreneur and that clock started, in business it took me nine years to make any kind of money. Nine years. I mean, think about that. The average restaurant is profitable in three to five years. It took me NINE YEARS!

I guess I was a slow learner, but for me is, we all have a learning curve in whatever part of life that we’re pursuing, especially in business or whatever, right? We all have that learning curve and so, for me, it was longer. I love to learn but it took me a while to get it, okay?

I just took it day by day by day. What you don’t want to do is, don’t try to live next week right now. Don’t try to live next year right now. I want you to live right now right now!

Take it one day in front of the other and don’t compare yourself to anybody else. Compare yourself to what you did yesterday and beat that and keep on being a more productive human being to the world right now on what you did yesterday.

That’s what you could feel good about and have confidence in. You know what? If you fall off the wagon, so to speak, just get right back on. Get right back on the horse and stay focused again. Just because you missed out on your goal for one or two days and you got off track doesn’t mean you have to throw the baby out with the bath water, right?

Stick with it, okay? You’re literally one day away, you could be one week, you could be one person away from your breakthrough in your career or your life. Don’t give up now, stick with it. That’s how you have that higher life design. I look forward to helping you arrive at your next intended destination healthy, wealthy and happy.