The Objectivity of People
Laci Green recently posted a video on youtube called Sex Object BS. If you want to watch it you can click the link below:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u_4dPB9MVS8
In the video she discusses how females are portrayed as objects to pretty much everyone. If just so happens that earlier that day I had received a message from a guy online who A) had no profile picture and wouldn't show me and B) send me a messages after telling me I would not be seeing him unless I went out with him (This was implied not specifically said), saying "U R sexy" Normally I would have just blown it off and ignored the guy but for some reason this particular day it made it very angry and I wanted him to know it. So idiotically I proceeded to respond to his message by stating "You are illiterate and a pig" He sent me a few messages asking why he was a pig which I ignored until I blocked him. Then I saw Laci's video and I realized that I should have explained myself. I should have explained to him that what he said (besides the fact that he spelt it "U R") was not okay.
When someone tells you that you are sexy they are saying that you are attractive enough to have sex with. Usually this also implies that they want to have sex with you. When this random guy on the internet called me sexy he deemed me an object of his affection that he wanted to have sex with. He made me inferior to him that I was good for nothing more than an object to have sex with. I wasn't worthy of his love or affection or even to get to know since he hadn't asked any person questions other then would you be interested in a date. (To which I replied "maybe")
Let's go back to the fact that he wouldn't show me what he looked like. When I explained to him that I wouldn't meet up with him until I saw what he looked like before hand he explained "I'm just an average guy". What the heck is an average guy? Especially in this day and age. If this guy is just your average guy I automatically picture some guy that thinks he has #swag. It's kind of sad that, that is my view of the average guy when it's probably not even true. But because of my exposure to guys is simply these guys that are being portrayed in the media is what the average guy is to me is just as sad as him believing that call me sexy is okay.
I'm not blaming the media, I'm not blaming parents, I'm blaming society in general. We the people give power to these gender stereotypes. We are the one's to chose to believe what we are being told and to pass on that view to others. If we are going to change how we objectify people then we need to start somewhere and I honestly believe gender paradigms are the best place to start. We need to view each person as an individual piece of the puzzle and not as a sum of it's whole. The whole being their gender.
