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I feel like the reason certain dog-lovers insist cats are evil is because they read their body language as if they were dogs. So here’s a very basic guide to common “mean” things cats do that actually aren’t mean at all if you know what they’re thinking.

Rolling and exposing belly- attacks you when touched Does not mean: Give belly rubs! - haha I tricked you! Actually means: I’m playful! If you reach for my belly I’ll grab your arm and bite it because I think we’re playfighting!

Lazily exposing belly - still attacks when touched Does not mean: tricked you again! Actually means: I’m showing you my belly because I trust you. Please don’t break that trust by invading my personal space. I might accept a belly rub if I’m not ticklish and I know you well. Snapping at you while being pet Does not mean: I suddenly decided I dislike you! Actually means: You’re petting me in a way that gives me too much restless energy. Please focus on petting my head and shoulders instead of stroking the full length of my back next time.

Is in the same room but makes no attempt to interact Does not mean: I’m ignoring you Actually means: We’re hanging out! I’m being respectful by giving you space while still enjoying your company. Slapping/scratching your hand when you try to pet them Does not mean: I hate you! Actually means: You’ve failed to establish that we’re not playing, or the way you’re approaching me scares me. Be calmer, speak more gently, make eye-contact and blink slowly at me before you try again.

squeakykins

I love this post omg, thank you so much. As a lifelong cat person, dogs perplex me because they’re so completely different behaviourally.

blome3kissesbitch

I love dogs too but, I’ve been trying to tell people, you canNOT treat cats like you treat dogs. They arent the same animals and have very different personalities

blome3kissesbitch

P.s.: people often pet cats way too hard. Dogs like a firm pet or a pat on the belly, cats dont have the same bone structure and are more flexible than dogs so what you’re doing probably hurts them

naamahdarling

Sitting and staring Does not mean: I am challenging you/plotting your demise/just generally evil and creepy. Actually means: I am a desert-adapted species, so my natural tears are very thick and keep my eyes moist for a nice long time. I do find people interesting and enjoy watching them. I just don’t need to blink very often!

Staring and blinking slowly Does not mean: I’m smug and think I am smarter than you. Actually means: I like you! But I don’t need to get up in your face to show it. I can just sit over here and blow kisses at you to show you I am glad you are around!

It’s very frustrating for me when people expect cats to act like dogs, or act like they’re deceitful. They aren’t! They just AREN’T DOGS.

radfemblack

Pour les chats 🐈💞

meii-deactivated20220422

Get ready for “more reasons why I fucking love cats”

Yes, the legends are true. Cats headbutt you to show their trust and affection. They also do it to show “hey look I see you as family.” Lions do it with members of their pride to say the same. It’s not just because they want food.

Cats nibbling is indeed literally cats grooming you. It’s what mom cats do to their kittens. If a cat is gently biting and/or licking you, they’re now your mom.

Meowing can simply be for the mere fact they want to say hello, want to play or be pet. Again, not just for food.

They barely meow at other cats (except for kittens, they meow at mom cat), mostly just humans. There are exceptions but overall, meowing is almost always for us.

Cats squinting/slow blinking is indeed basically the equivalent of us smiling and/or kissing.

Cats, like humans, prefer to get things without having to work for it- which isn’t very common within other animals.

Cat massages or making biscuits is because they happy! Kneading is another way of saying “hey I like this moment here I enjoy you and my life.”

Cats recognize us by smell, sound, taste, and touch. They recognize us after years as their long term memory is extremely good. This is why abused or neglected cats are so easily scared or hard to connect with. If your scent changes over the years or just in the day, your voice will them it’s really you. Also, they will only remember you if you had impact on their life. If you just existed in the same house, they obviously won’t care.

And yes, they know our patterns in the day. You notice it when it’s beneficial to them (feeding time!). They will often wait for you to come home as well.

To remember: cats think we are interesting as hell. They watch us do everything because we’re fascinating!!!

They also want you to be around when eating because they feel vulnerable. They focus on eating so they hope you protect them. They do the same for you, all the time.

sapphire-rosa

CATS 😍😍😍😍

jumpingjacktrash

when a cat turns their back on you, they’re not snubbing you. they’re trusting you to watch their back.

notice how when you’re unfamiliar but nonthreatening, they might loaf facing you and sorta halfway watch you. you’re not fully trusted, but you’re ok by them.

when you’re familiar and liked, they’ll often sit near you facing the same way. imitation of poses is a weird little way cats show solidarity. they do it to each other too. check out these bff’s:

they are doing this on purpose. it’s a buddy thing. so if you’re watching tv and a cat sits next to you and pretends to watch tv too, they are basically calling you bro and declaring friendship.

and if they really love and trust you, they’ll turn their back on you and go to sleep. they’ll sleep facing a wall in your presence, or lounge where they can’t see the room. this isn’t a snub, folks, this is true kitty love. they’re saying, “i feel safe when you’re around. i know nothing’s going to sneak up on me, because you’re here. i feel so safe i can stick my head under a pillow and snore with my butt pointed at you.”

farts aren’t an expression of love, though, as far as i know. they’re just farts.

leafyninja15

This is why I love cats!

acidgrime

I’ve been wanting to find something like this for a long time.

all-hail-mono-onion

i love cats more than anything in the world oh my god i needed this i’m gonna cry

highway-to-hell-art

didyouknowmagic

“I want a Disney film where the protagonist has a disability saves the day and is loved by all”

“I want a Disney film where the protagonist isn’t conventionally attractive and that doesn’t define their worth or ever stop them from being amazing”

“I want a Disney film where the main guy and the girl end up as friends”

“I want a Disney film with representation one that focuses on issues that are relevant in today’s world”

“I want a Disney film that has animation that is jaw dropping and irrefutably gorgeous”

“I want a Disney film where the Villain is terrifying and all too realistic”

“I want a Disney film that deals with complex issues”

“I want a Disney film with musical numbers that give me chills”

The Hunchback of Notre Dame shall always be the most underrated animated film from Disney anyone that has ever graced the silver screen.

antique-scarecrow

this is such an incredible film

foxmouth

Homes at Night, 2016 | by Todd Hido

tohkyo

https://www.instagram.com/p/BhPgf2lhaC-/

nowacking

I have exactly 11 questions

coughloop

i dont, mind your business

a-waste-of-time

ok why is this cat giving me strong jeff goldblum vibes

Old friend

Our lives exist in separate places

But occupy our empty spaces

With all the things that you have said

That still live on inside my head

I'm sleeping through the daily routine

Waiting for your ghost to come back into scene

turing-tested

im tired of all these fake fauxtherkins. the american psychological association clearly says that you have to have kin memories to be a REAL otherkin and im tired of people making us out to be a joke. stop pretending to be sans undertale unless you remember something about your timeline

frankenmasc

the othertrenders are responsible for kinphobia in our society today don’t even TALK to me if you don’t have kin memories, it’s kinphobic to appropriate this CONDITION

turing-tested

louder for the people in the back

johnnynemo

Honestly I cant tell if this is a joke

moonthymes

anyway jeff bezos could eradicate homelessness. he could literally give each homeless person 100k and it would only take less than .5% of his entire wealth. what the actual god giving fuck

the-prolefeed

Why do you think they deserve it

killin-the-machine

Well shelter is a basic need, and would at the very least allow them a place where they can get back on their feet. Food water and shelter are necessary for a healthy body and psychology. There’s also the fact that they’re people too, and a little help goes a long way in making a decent community. There’s plenty of reasons

the-prolefeed

Yeah they need stuff, but why does every homeless person deserve 0.5% of someone’s income

teaboot

You have five hundred apples, and just one day to eat them all.

You pass by a small crowd of hungry children, and decide you’d rather 455 apples go rotten than give them to some snotty brat who isn’t your problem.

It doesn’t matter how hard you’ve worked for your 500 apples, or that you aren’t the parent of any of those kids. in the moment you decide to walk away, it doesn’t matter why they’re hungry, or who owes who what.

You had the opportunity to help people, you had the ability to help people, you had the resources to help people. You had everything you needed to make a small, tiny little difference in someone’s life, and you decided not to.

What are you going to buy in your lifetime that’s worth more to you than your own humanity?

just-queer-things

What are you going to buy in your lifetime that’s worth more to you than your own humanity

i-sold-my-soul-to-thefandom

Reblogging for the very, very important lesson

smarter-than-the-republicans

Sometimes I wish there were a Hell if only for the visuals of a bunch of rich shit heads wandering around on fire asking “Where’s my money?!”

motherfucker-somewhat-limited

johnnynemo

I mean this is an outright lie, but okay. Let's do a little math. 100k × 10 = 1,000,000 × 1,000= 1 billion. That's ten thousand people per billion. Most recent estimates have about 564,000 homeless people in America. Jeff Bezos net worth is 156 billion, so by this logic he'd be giving up around 30% of his net worth and not 0.5. Ironically enough back in September he gave over 2 billion dollars to fund homeless shelters around the country, around 1.5% of his net worth, or triple OP's request. Bill Gates second on the richest people list has donated over 40 billion dollars through a foundation run by himself and his wife and even that has left us at about where were at now. The idea that it's the richest people in the countries job to actually change everything is absolutely ridiculous, this is what we have a government for, trillions of dollars each year go to military spending and if maybe a quarter of that went to creating permanent housing, job training, shelters, food stamps , mental health and public health care we could make a SERIOUS dent in helping the underserved. Thinking this problem will be solved overnight or even that one person can is dangerously naive, but it would make a serious impact.

letsdreamforlifeposts

ooevilynoo

🌙🐉

mainmanblackdynamite-deactivate

Shout out to Eric Andre

themagicpumpkinss3

“I am the devil, and I am here to do the devil’s work.”

mydisneydaze

Lane was very excited to see Tiana and Naveen again. :)

rootbeergoddess-deactivated2017

What was that about Tiana not having any fans?

Little Miss Lane seems to adore her.

revysprite-deactivated20170502

THIS IS SO CUTE????

rosa-sparkz-deactivated20160710

awwwwwwwwwa

And to elaborate on the difference, again quoting, "Asociality is distinct from but not mutually exclusive to anti-social behaviour, in which the latter implies an active misanthropy or antagonism toward other people or the general social order. A degree of asociality is routinely observed in introverts, while extreme asociality is observed in people with a variety of clinical conditions." Is it more clear now? :) I'm sure you meant it well so this could help prevent future misunderstandings.

That's fairly accurate, I guess I interpreted antisocial in a different way, but I suppose my interpretation does fall further in line with asocial then anything else, and yeah I didnt really mean to offend, just general discussion. Thank you for your input.

geekandmisandry

It’s not a burden to date/hang with/be friends with an introvert. If you act like someone being shy and quiet and not as easily communicable as you is somehow a personal burden to you then you are an asshole, that will be all.

johnnynemo

I mean it can be though? Like speaking as someone who has social anxiety but is trying to become more comfortable around strangers I know theres alot of people who don’t want to hang out with me because I’m really awkward/quiet at first, and that’s okay in the same way an introvert might not want to be friends with someone whose loud and abrasive because it makes them uncomfortable. Just because people have different wants and needs doesn’t make them bad people at all just not compatible.

geekandmisandry

There is a difference between your actions and your existence. And one of them tends to stigmatise a lot of neurodivergant people who’s conditions are viewed as inherently antisocial.

johnnynemo

Well I mean introverts are seen as inherently antisocial because they generally are? Like it doesnt have to be taken as a negative connotation, although it often is because of differences in personality and preferences, they just prefer to not be around most people most of the time. I think the problem here is that introverts are bothered that they’re pressured to be more social or feel like a burden to their friends when they’re not social, vice versa for extroverts, and the solution would be to either find friends that better suit your personality type or try to explain to your friends how you feel and gauge whether feeling like this is worth being friends with them.

geekandmisandry

Anti social means against social, not just uncomfortable in it. The clinical sense of the word, meaning a disregard for others. And this post isn’t about people who don’t want to be around people, I said it was about shy reserved people.

This is exactly what I mean, a shy person gets converted into something negative or something that misrepresents them.

That is often how this is portrayed. The extrovert isn’t feeling the pressure of a society that portrays them as inherently needing to be fixed. Most media dealing with an introvert is on them needing to change a fundamental part of their personality.

That has consequences as a constant narrative.

johnnynemo

It’s not negative though, or misrepresenting them, they are against being social specifically because they’re uncomfortable in it, or more comfortable by themselves or in a small group. Shy reserved people dont want to be around most people because they’re often uncomfortable in large social situations. You don’t have to have a disdain for something to be against it, you just have to be a counter to it. Shy reserved people are an obvious counter to social people, thus antisocial. As far as the media, it’s wholly unfair to say that a person should change how they specifically handle a situation because of how the media portrays it. Obviously introverted people dont need to be “ fixed” but it’s not an extroverts problem to consider this when hanging out with their friend, unless their friend personally tells them they’re uncomfortable by what they’re doing. Media does have negative consequences, and unfortunately that’s not really going to change , so for now it would seem it would be on the introvert to realize they’re fine the way they are and this interpretation is bullshit.

korrasera

@johnnynemo:

“it’s not an extraverts problem to consider this when hanging out with their friend”

Yes, it is, and this is at the heart of the disagreement you’re having with gam. You’ve made assumptions about people who are introverted, assumptions that are wrong, and now that it’s been explained to you that you’ve made these false assumptions you are choosing to ignore those explanations in order to continue to reiterate exactly what gam was speaking against.

Here’s a really quick list to help you get back on track:

Introverts are not anti-social, like, at all. Being anti-social is not a feature of being an introvert, the two concepts are in no way linked.

We love being social just like everyone else, only we can only deal with so much stimulation before it gets out of our comfort zone. As a result introverts tend towards smaller social gatherings and need time alone to recharge.

Extraverts are not anti-social either. They’re also not shallow, which is the kind of negative stereotype that extraverts carry.

By comparison to introverts, if we are easy to overstimulate then extraverts are usually understimulated and need lots of social activity to keep themselves topped up.

Introverts and extraverts that are friends should understand this if they’re to be good friends, and yes, it is your problem to know this so you can be a good friend to your friend, introvert or extravert.

It’s not a burden to be friends with an introvert, just as gam already pointed out. The scenario that you described is literally someone avoiding people because they can’t muster the basic courtesy to interact with someone who’s not catering to their preconceived notions. That’s not the fault of the introvert, that’s the choice of the person doing the avoiding.

This isn’t gam’s interpretation. The responses you got from gam are her literally describing the nature of introversion, the way these stereotypes are leveled against neurodivergent people, and pointing out the things that you have misunderstood about all of this.

That means you’re the person who’s bringing the interpretation to this discussion.

Talking about these things in the way that you have is negative and it does misrepresent us.

Describing introverts as anti-social or as socially uncomfortable is at the heart of the negative stereotypes about introverts.

Don’t do that.

Be accurate, don’t just guess at what you think ‘fits’ if you don’t know.

Your final point here, “it would seem it would be on the introvert to realize they’re fine the way they are.”

Yes! It certainly does seem like introverts are the people who have to remind people that introverts aren’t anti-social, doesn’t it? So why are you getting in the way of that work?

Also, last I checked if one person was mistreating another, like people talking about introverts being anti-social, why isn’t it the responsibility of the shit-talker to stop shit-talking? Why is it that it’s on the introvert in this hypothetical scenario to be the one that has to put up with the shit-talking? Shouldn’t we be asking the shit-talkers to stop shit-talking?

johnnynemo

I am an introvert as well. Just because I have a different opinion doesn't mean I don't understand any of this. I love being social and going out, but am also terrified of meeting new people and am very shy/ reserved in social situations. This is why I consider myself and my friends that are like this antisocial. Because I'm not comfortable in social situations and neither are they. Please stop acting like I'm ignoring everything because I disagree with it.

geekandmisandry

It’s not a burden to date/hang with/be friends with an introvert. If you act like someone being shy and quiet and not as easily communicable as you is somehow a personal burden to you then you are an asshole, that will be all.

johnnynemo

I mean it can be though? Like speaking as someone who has social anxiety but is trying to become more comfortable around strangers I know theres alot of people who don’t want to hang out with me because I’m really awkward/quiet at first, and that’s okay in the same way an introvert might not want to be friends with someone whose loud and abrasive because it makes them uncomfortable. Just because people have different wants and needs doesn’t make them bad people at all just not compatible.

geekandmisandry

There is a difference between your actions and your existence. And one of them tends to stigmatise a lot of neurodivergant people who’s conditions are viewed as inherently antisocial.

johnnynemo

Well I mean introverts are seen as inherently antisocial because they generally are? Like it doesnt have to be taken as a negative connotation, although it often is because of differences in personality and preferences, they just prefer to not be around most people most of the time. I think the problem here is that introverts are bothered that they’re pressured to be more social or feel like a burden to their friends when they’re not social, vice versa for extroverts, and the solution would be to either find friends that better suit your personality type or try to explain to your friends how you feel and gauge whether feeling like this is worth being friends with them.

geekandmisandry

Anti social means against social, not just uncomfortable in it. The clinical sense of the word, meaning a disregard for others. And this post isn’t about people who don’t want to be around people, I said it was about shy reserved people.

This is exactly what I mean, a shy person gets converted into something negative or something that misrepresents them.

That is often how this is portrayed. The extrovert isn’t feeling the pressure of a society that portrays them as inherently needing to be fixed. Most media dealing with an introvert is on them needing to change a fundamental part of their personality.

That has consequences as a constant narrative.

johnnynemo

It’s not negative though, or misrepresenting them, they are against being social specifically because they’re uncomfortable in it, or more comfortable by themselves or in a small group. Shy reserved people dont want to be around most people because they’re often uncomfortable in large social situations. You don’t have to have a disdain for something to be against it, you just have to be a counter to it. Shy reserved people are an obvious counter to social people, thus antisocial. As far as the media, it’s wholly unfair to say that a person should change how they specifically handle a situation because of how the media portrays it. Obviously introverted people dont need to be “ fixed” but it’s not an extroverts problem to consider this when hanging out with their friend, unless their friend personally tells them they’re uncomfortable by what they’re doing. Media does have negative consequences, and unfortunately that’s not really going to change , so for now it would seem it would be on the introvert to realize they’re fine the way they are and this interpretation is bullshit.

geekandmisandry

I literally told you I was using the clinical definition. And being an introvert doesn’t mean you and definitely uncomfortable or not desiring being around people. There are as myriad of reasons beyond not wanting to be around people and you are just adhering the one stereotype that this post wasn’t even about to justify why it’s ok to say that introverts are hard work because of the issues I stated above.

You don’t seem like you are listening at all.

johnnynemo

I'm not saying they're hard work at all, everyone is in their own way I guess but you're just taking everything I'm saying and assuming the most negative connotations with it. Also I'm aware you're using the clinical definition I'm giving an alternative viewpoint.

It sounds like everything I say you're just going to assume something negative from because of a personal bias instead of actually listening, so I guess I have nothing more to say.

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