Grow a Passion for Girliness?
Is girliness your passion? Can you stand for a day to pass by without thinking about how you can reform yourself into a more feminine person? Are you constantly browsing online stores for that next girly clothing item to purchase? Do you find yourself analyzing what women are saying, wearing, or doing because you want to learn from the experts? Do you grow weary of the typical male banter you hear on TV, at work, and in town? Do you fret over hairs you’ve missed while shaving? Do you critique your male self, wondering what little things you could do to appear softer? If the answer is “yes” to any or most of these questions, then I’d suggest that you have a passion for girliness, or at least a growing passion for girliness.
What if girliness is only an interest or a curiosity, but you think that it could be more, maybe worth some greater intensity? If so, how do you develop a passion for it? I think that’s a good question and one that I need to work on to answer clearly. I’m giving it a brief try, though, so please accept this as a novice girly boy sharing what he thinks could be steps to a passion for girliness:
6 Steps to Developing Passion for Girliness
Attraction–Femininity has a tremendous allure to it. Its attraction is when curiosity about feminine things begins to shape into a desire for girliness. Your attraction to girliness will cause you to imagine in great detail what it would be like to be softer. You can feel the panties on your skin. You dream of a bra cupping your chest. Maybe you envision yourself moving and talking softer and with the grace of a lady. You’re no longer curious. You can really feel it as you want it.
Play–It’s crossdressing. It’s playing a girly part, even it’s only in front of a mirror. It’s pretending to be a girl, even in androgyny. Yet, it’s more than “trying it out” or “trying something on.” Like a little girl, anxious for the rain to go away so she can run outside and swing, you’re anxious for more and more opportunities to play at being feminine.
Engage–One of the benefits of keeping this page is to have an outlet where I’m constantly writing, sharing, pondering, meditating, and responding about girliness. It’s important for you as well to find an outlet for engagement. Having something that constantly engages the mind to fire the feminine urges will heighten your overall sense for all things feminine. Maybe you can keep a diary or write to other girly boys and get giddy over your growing passion for girliness? Interact with real people as a more girly creature (it’s easy to do when they’re strangers).
Routine–As much as anything, you should develop a routine. When girliness becomes your daily ritual, your daily pattern, your daily way of being, it becomes normal, paving a new path for more intensity. The feminine habits that you form today will eventually become so normal that you will want to push girliness further. This might take some time, but trust me, femininity is going to catch up to you.
Obsession–It’s all about “need”. You need to play more. You need to engage more. You need the routine. You need girliness in your life every day. When girliness becomes a need more than it is a want, then you have developed an obsession with girliness. It’s no longer wishes and wants and hopes and dreams. It’s like water and food for you. You NEED femininity like oxygen.
Intimacy–There is a sexual component to girliness. That’s obvious if you’ve spent any time in our girly arena of Tumblr. You can’t help that the dopamine in your brain is salivating like crazy over all of the captions, articles, pictures, etc. of all things girly. The fantasy of it is very sexy. Yet, the erotic side of it is only part of it and can often manifest itself in the attraction stage. That’s the lust of it. However–and this is huge–the passion of it is an intimate relationship within yourself. You might think of it as four-play between the man that you are and the flirtatious girl within you. They want to be one. They want to be intimately closer. Like a good marriage, the intimate relationship is what makes the sex so spectacular, not the other way around.
It’s not an exhaustive list of steps. I’m sure that there are some other ideas that you might have–some that I have experienced, maybe some that I have not. What are some things that you have done to strengthen your passion for girliness?
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