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help me decide on a belt buckle

Love being told that "because its fucking dangerous" is not an appropriate answer to "why don't they just leave" because one bitch wasn't scared of their abuser and left with no issue so that must be the case for most people.

eroticcannibal

Who cares about all the documented evidence that leaving an abuser escalates abuse and is when you are most likely to be killed by them, some tumblr prick just up and left which disproves all of that! Clearly everyone is just being dramatic.

queerautism

Both times I attempted to cut contact with my abusers, they started contacting my friends and either sent someone to my house, or suddenly showed up in person, when they live in a different country.

Last time, when they showed up, I had to do damage control and stayed in contact for a further two years or so. Now, when I said it explicitly, and blocked them everywhere, they realised I was serious so they tried to involve the police and told them I'm mentally incompetent. I live every day scared they're going to show up in person again.

I am extremely lucky I live in a different country from them, and they still escalated drastically when they felt their control over me disappearing. When you're living with your abuser(s), leaving is not only very hard, but extremely dangerous.

If you actually want to help victims of domestic violence, learn about safety plans, and about why saying "just leave" is not useful advice at all

catasters

basilinixe

positivelyqueer

Shout out to the queer people who didn’t have a wonderful lightbulb moment when discovering their identity. For who questioning was stressful and arduous.

And especially to people who saw their current label, thought, no that’s cool but not me, and moved on.

You’re no less queer because you didn’t realise sooner. You are delightful and I wish you love and acceptance and kindness in your communities.

transandrogyny--turtlebug

People really act like transandrophobia started to exist when the name was created. "You're just trying to be oppressed." " You're coming up with problems that arent there" Actually they've always been there and we've always talked about them. You just weren't listening. There's a reason that trans men tend to withdraw from queer spaces

that-cluster-b-moment

i think we need to talk more about the fact that personality disorders are often gendered within the psychiatric field and sometimes people will be straight up told they're unable to have a certain disorder because of their gender.

like i have seen men with BPD or HPD being told they're actually NPD or ASPD and that they can't be the former because those are "female disorders".

likewise, plenty of women with ASPD or NPD being told they're actually BPD or HPD because the former are "male disorders" and that they're too emotional to be them.

i feel like this is tied to the sexist belief that women are hysterical and irrational too...

professional-egg-layer

i think cis girls can have a packer as a treat

professional-egg-layer

actually no make this a thing. itd probably be so good for making trans girls feel safe

professional-egg-layer

im glad like at least 500 people can agree that gender affirming prosthetics shouldnt be exclusive to just trans people. honestly this goes for cis guys too feel free to get some breast forms. just dont be surprised if afterwards you decide you dont want to be a guy anymore

genderkoolaid

kai-teaa

tumblrs cardinal sin is being tumblr

femmeharlequin-deactivated20240

I love furries, marijuana, autism, schizophrenia, abortion, vandalism, shoplifting, Molotov cocktails, free healthcare, adderall, and gay sex

brewsacstuff

May I have your attention please:

They’re married

whitehairedanimeboyfriend

Anyway veering back into political discussion for a moment I want to talk about what's going on with "trans women are women" become the LGBTQ+ Ally's mantra. And you know what I think? I think that there is a non zero sum of people that think trans women are women... But they don't think trans men are men. (and we're not even going to touch what they think of nonbinary people.)

When you hear someone talking about "trans women are women" they are thinking of the Abigail Thornes, the Contrapoints, The Blaire Whites, and the Laverne Coxs of the world. Beautiful (usually white) feminine trans women that easily pass. They want to protect those women because they're non threatening and it feels good to protect them.

But so often I don't hear people even acknowledge transgender men as men. "He uses he/him pronouns so that's what I'll refer to him as going forward" is usually about the closest they'll get. And I think it's because they don't really see us as men. They see us as children to be indulged. Deluded and softheaded snowflakes to tolerate. Little girls that don't actually know any better, but if we're being tolerant of trans people, we best give them what they want. So much of what the wider community gives transgender men feels like false, useless appeasement. And I think it's time we put our foot down. "trans women are women" is not enough.

pipazelbeth

i got death threats on tiktok for calling out a cis womans homophobia by people who had "trans women are women" in their bio, who then proceeded to misgender me, say im ugly and don't pass, call me slurs, say im a man so i dont get an opinion on feminism, and thats just scratching the surface!

cis people saying "trans women are women" has the same energy as white people saying were "poc allies" and cishets saying they "support gays". its a vague non answer, whether it be intentional or not.

unclefather

having pussy is gender neutral. having cock is gender neutral. having tits is gender neutral. using 3 in one body wash, shampoo and conditioner is for men though